Can you tell me about your GIRLS with autism please?

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And also, what is the benefit of a diagnosis

DD is 8 and I am wondering;

Still tantrums like a 2 year old
Cannot compromise, has to be her way or see above
Has few friends
Very bossy/controlling
Lots of sensory issues earlier in life though; mostly ok
Likes tidy ordered room
Doesn't sit still/always banging stuff/fidgeting/clumsy
Doesn't listen/asks questions but doesn't wait for answer
Very academic
Very

It’s well worth getting a diagnosis, as it gives access to lots of support and therapy.
DD1 wasn’t diagnosed until she was 13 and self harming, as I and most of my relatives are also autistic and saw her as “normal” - we hadn’t been diagnosed at that point either.
Once DD had been labelled, she was seen by a psychiatrist and therapist, attended a nurse led autism support group, had more understanding at school, etc.
She is very high functioning (IQ over 160), and now has a maths degree and a well paid challenging career in finance. At work she also helps to run the autism network support for autistic colleagues, and her firm has been wonderful in making adaptations for her, even providing a quiet private room to retreat to if she has a meltdown! They also paid for a private counsellor when she was having a relapse of her associated depression.

She still has sensory issues - can’t handle certain fabrics, loud noise or bright colours - and can be rigid in thought patterns, struggles to comprehend others’ emotions or opinions, and doesn’t cope well with change, but life is infinitely better than it was pre diagnosis, and she now has the mental “toolkit” to help, using cognitive techniques she was taught during therapy.
Go for it, OP - your DD has everything to gain and nothing to lose by accessing help. Good luck!

Just a quick post to say please pursue a diagnosis. Ime this age between toddler and puberty is an easier quieter time where they can try and mask and appear to be getting on ok.

Then the teen years hit and it's a shit show. So please get help in place she will need it in high school