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Made a tit of myself at a new playgroup

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 12:08

Just been to a new playgroup with my one year old. It takes a hell of a lot for me to go anywhere new, I suffer quite badly with anxiety and irrationally care too much about what people think of me. So it took a while for me to finally try it. All going well. DD loving pottering and playing. Nobody really spoke to me despite me smiling at people and trying to speak to a couple of them. Then it comes to tidy up time. Everyone putting things away. I turn to put a toy in a box a few feet away and somehow end up flying through the air, unable to plant my feet on the ground and go crashing head first into two tables that had been pushed together. Everyone stared. Not a single person asked if I was ok. DD was screaming because I’d ‘left’ her and I was so embarrassed. Somehow managed to force myself to stay through snack and sing time then got the hell out of there. I’ve cut my knee, my wrist (from my watch strap) and done something that is fecking agony to my shoulder. I’m mortified.

Make me feel better, please. When have you made a tit of yourselves?

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mabelmylove · 13/05/2019 12:10

That’s awful that no one helped or at least asked if you were ok!

TokyoSushi · 13/05/2019 12:10

Oh OP!!! What a nightmare, and how awful of them not to ask if you're ok? Sending an un-mumsnetty hug!

MustardScreams · 13/05/2019 12:10

On my first NCT mummy lunch (eurgh) I tripped over with a bowl of soup in my hand and it flew across the entire length of the restaurant. Luckily it didn’t land on any brand new babies! I never went to another one Still makes me burn when I think about it!

alligatorsmile · 13/05/2019 12:10

Oh dear. If it helps, I recently went to a cafe and i was surprised by a sneeze that was so sudden and forceful it also forced out a very audible bottom burp and everyone in a ten foot radius was sniggering.

Stuckforthefourthtime · 13/05/2019 12:11

Are you ok now? They seem horrible, and should be embarrassed, not you. I have many many examples of making a tit of myself, but if you're around nice people they try to help.

You're fine, and at least you've learnt quickly that this is not the right playgroup. Hope your pride and bruises recover soon.

formerbabe · 13/05/2019 12:14

What a nasty bunch of people they must be... for you

MustBeAWeasly · 13/05/2019 12:17

They all seem like tits anyway. I have a one year old and I feel like you do with new groups all the time. I also run a group and I promise if you came to mine I'd make a point of talking to you and getting you involved with other conversations. I'd also help you up and make sure you were OK!! I'd give that group a miss if they're going to be like that.

Also the other day I was in a shop chatting with a staff member, decided I didn't want to buy it so said brilliant thanks I'll think about it bye!! Spun around and walked smack into the glass door 🤦🏻‍♀️

PlaygroupDilema · 13/05/2019 12:18

Bless you OP and you most certainly haven't embarrassed yourself! People trip all the time! I'm more embarrassed on behalf of the group that not one person asked if you were okay - that is appalling!

ComicSans · 13/05/2019 12:19

I don't think you're the tit in this scenario, OP.

If it's the slightest consolation, I'm a socially confident person who never got on at all with the whole playgroup thing, despite going regularly, helping set up and tidy, baking cakes etc for two different village playgroups. They simply weren't very friendly situations. I don't blame myself for it.

I hope you're not too badly injured.

StarlitTrees · 13/05/2019 12:20

It's them that need to be embarrassed now you OP. I can't believe nobody helped you! What an awful group of people.
Hope you're OK.

Drogosnextwife · 13/05/2019 12:20

I went on a night out with the whole of DPs football team and their wifes/partners. Left the place we had dinner, bearing in mind I had only had 1 drink with dinner we were there for. We were walking down the street and I stepped off the kerb to cross the roof and didn't notice a little pothole, my heal went right in it, I lost my balance and down I went. Probably the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to me.
Except when we were on a skiing trip with the school. A ski instructor was setting out skiing poles down the hill for his students to go through, like an adult corse. I again lost my balance and went fleeing down the hill and knocked down every one of his poles. He was not pleased!
On the same ski trip, the first day we were there I couldn't stop myself (the whole point of the exercise, learning to stop on a really steep hill) and I went crashing right into a massive pylon or some huge metal structure. Everyone found it hillarious, I was in agony, probably best though because I could have ended up sliding all the way down to the bottom.

StarlitTrees · 13/05/2019 12:20

Not you*

Drogosnextwife · 13/05/2019 12:21

Oh and I can't believe no one asked if you were ok, I wouldn't go back after that.

Pigsinduvets · 13/05/2019 12:21

Sorry to here about that Dilly. They don’t sound like a nice group of people.
What has happened to your shoulder. What movement is hurting?

NoSauce · 13/05/2019 12:23

You poor thing. Why do people do this? So bloody mean not to come and ask if you were ok. Well done for going though especially given that you have anxiety.

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 12:24

@MustardScreams I don’t think I’ll be going back to this one either! I never did NCT, I didn’t realise they did lunches.

@alligatorsmile that did make me smile, it’s the kind of thing I would do too. OH says I’m like a skunk, if he ever tickles me or takes me by surprise I accidentally let one go

@MustBeAWeasly ouch, I bet that hurt!! I often think I should run a playgroup to make sure this kind of thing doesn’t happen but I work shifts so would be hard.

Thanks for the virtual hugs and flowers, everyone. I’m ok now. Shoulder is really sore, feels like something has been pulled, but DD in bed so I’m going to eat chocolate and catch up on Grey’s Anatomy (and hopefully forget it ever happened )

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Mrsbclinton · 13/05/2019 12:26

They are the ones that should be embarrassed. Cant believe no one came over to ask if you were ok.

Well done for going and dont let this group put you off finding another nicer one.

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 12:28

@drogosnextwife sounds like skiing wouldn’t be my cup of tea I’ve had heels stuck before but in my younger, drunker days when I didn’t care so much. Flats all the way now!

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 12:29

@pigsinduvets it’s in my shoulder blade, when I lift my arm it’s like a sudden sharp pain that goes across it.

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Papergirl1968 · 13/05/2019 12:31

My most embarrassing moment was when my fold up chair collapsed in DD's school assembly, sending me crashing to the floor in front of about 200 kids and staff.
I am rather large but actually a screw or bolt or something had come out.
I could have died on the spot

melissasummerfield · 13/05/2019 12:32

All of my experiences of play groups are like this, i have never been to a friendly one! I just gave up in the end

I hope you are ok op, what a vile bunch to not ask you if you were ok!

Catchingbentcoppers · 13/05/2019 12:34

That's awful, I can't believe no one asked me if you were OK!

LikeARedBalloon · 13/05/2019 12:34

I feel for you OP.....It's not you, it's them. It took me 3 failed playgroups and a hell of a lot of courage to find the one for me. Still friends with the mums I met at the right one. I know that feeling of being ignored though and it's crap. Head up, move on and try another. You'll find the right one for you!
Ps....unfriendly, stuck up mum from the first one I tried is now the head of the PTA at my childs school. Argh!!

BrownEnvelopeWoman · 13/05/2019 12:35

Who was organising the playgroup? They are doing a shot job if they aren't making introductions, guiding new people into groups etc. Playgroups aren't just for the dc, they're also for the parent/carers to engage with each other. At least that was what the aims were back in my playgroup days in the 90s.

Even though I am not religious, I found the easiest ones to integrate into were those run by local churches (especially the methodist church, best homemade biscuits ever). I made a lot of friends and acquaintances there, people who would pop up years later at various clubs, Scouts, swimming classes.

cantfindname · 13/05/2019 12:35

I was once visiting a very posh village along with dozens of other random strangers. Peering in a window a lady on the pavement tutted at me that she needed to get past. I stepped back, tripped, tried to save myself and ended up in a huge concrete planter that had been freshly planted for the annual competition.

To make it worse I couldn't get out unaided and all OH did was laugh.

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