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Made a tit of myself at a new playgroup

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 12:08

Just been to a new playgroup with my one year old. It takes a hell of a lot for me to go anywhere new, I suffer quite badly with anxiety and irrationally care too much about what people think of me. So it took a while for me to finally try it. All going well. DD loving pottering and playing. Nobody really spoke to me despite me smiling at people and trying to speak to a couple of them. Then it comes to tidy up time. Everyone putting things away. I turn to put a toy in a box a few feet away and somehow end up flying through the air, unable to plant my feet on the ground and go crashing head first into two tables that had been pushed together. Everyone stared. Not a single person asked if I was ok. DD was screaming because I’d ‘left’ her and I was so embarrassed. Somehow managed to force myself to stay through snack and sing time then got the hell out of there. I’ve cut my knee, my wrist (from my watch strap) and done something that is fecking agony to my shoulder. I’m mortified.

Make me feel better, please. When have you made a tit of yourselves?

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spiderlight · 13/05/2019 12:36

What a nasty bunch they sound, not checking that you were OK. Hope your shoulder eases :(

chickhonhoneybabe · 13/05/2019 12:39

They sound awful and I wouldn’t go back, I’m so sorry that no one had the decency to ask if you were ok! 😡 Didn’t even the organiser of the playgroup ask if you were ok, they should have recorded your accident as it happened on their premises.

bigKiteFlying · 13/05/2019 12:40

Everyone stared. Not a single person asked if I was ok. DD was screaming because I’d ‘left’ her and I was so embarrassed.

I've been to some unfriendly groups, but I can't image that happening and someone not asking if you were okay.

I've tripped over my own feet in the street and had random people check I'm okay – few times even cars stopping Blush and even other parents who don't usually talk to me at school gate asked if I was alright when I'd managed to cut my knees falling on way there and was obviously bleeding and hurt.

They sound really odd and not worth bothering with.

BlueMerchant · 13/05/2019 12:42

What a strange bunch. I hope they learn their DC better manners and social interaction than they can muster up themselves. I really don't think you made a tit of yourself. These things happen.
Now I've made a tit of myself many times. One memorable one was starting a new job . I was so nervous and felt all jittery. First thing I was asked to do was make everyone a cuppa. I went to the kitchen. No sugar in the canister so I refilled it....with a bag of salt. Only realised when my two senior colleagues started spluttering and swearing. They thought I was a right fool. I made it worse by crying.

AryaStarkWolf · 13/05/2019 12:43

No one even asked if you were alright? They sound like a horrible bunch of people OP. Poor you

DoxxedFox · 13/05/2019 12:43

Oh god OP, it’s them who should be ashamed not you! Why didn’t they help?
To be honest, if I’d have met you at a playgroup going arse over tit through the air I’d have thought, “yep. There’s my people.” You’d have been a winner for me.

managedmis · 13/05/2019 12:44

They do sound awful TBF

DuffBeer · 13/05/2019 12:46

Er, I would not be going back to that playgroup.

What a bunch of nasty twats.

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 12:47

@papergirl1968 oh no, I’m feeling that pain for you! There were only about 30 parents there day but that was 30 too many to witness my fall!

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howlongcanausernamebebeforeits · 13/05/2019 12:49

Wow 30 wankers in one room. I'm shocked no one asked if you were ok. Don't feel bad op, it's them not you.

ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs · 13/05/2019 12:51

What a horrid bunch!

There are so many times I've made a tit of myself, it's hard to just pick one Blush. But I think I excelled myself when I invited my ex and his new girlfriend to my party. We were on good terms, and I was keen to make sure his new girlfriend felt at ease in my house. She was really shy and quiet, whereas I can be a bit loud! I rushed over on my high heels to get her a drink, tripped, sailed through the air and....head butted her in the face!! I was mortified!! She started crying, I ran away! To add insult to injury, she was fine next day and I had a black eye!

Grundtal · 13/05/2019 12:53

It's definately them. If I saw you do that I'd be thinking "I've found a friend" and I'd definately check you were ok.

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 12:54

@cantfindname oh dear, were you banished? I know how they like to take these competitions seriously!

@chickhonhoneybabe Nope, not a word. She was chopping snacks at the other side of the room so if it had been a quiet fall I could understand that but I crashed! Never thought re accident book. Not very well organised then Confused

@bigkiteflying As soon as I stood up and carried on everyone went back to doing their own thing. I didn’t feel like they were laughing or anything, they just genuinely either didn’t care or are used to people flinging themselves across a room full of toddlers. Definitely won’t be going back.

@bluemerchant yikes! Easily done I guess but not the first impression you want to make. I’d have cried too. I’m surprised I didn’t today, in honesty. Although I did cry on the voicemail I left DH on my way home telling him about it.

@DoxxedFox Same here!! Anyone who can trip so spectacularly through thin air is my cup of tea. If I’d been with people I knew I’d have taken the piss and so would they. Not this bunch though Hmm

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qazxc · 13/05/2019 12:55

You didn't make a tit of yourself, everybody has at sometime accidentally fallen over.
They on the other hand are tits for not asking if you are ok/ checking on you. It's basic human decency.

DoxxedFox · 13/05/2019 12:57

Ah well at least you know it’s not for you. Or atleast, just play with DD and ignore everyone else for the duration.

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 13:00

@ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs Oh wow, poor you!! That’s definitely one people she won’t forget. Did she know it was an accident? Visions of her thinking you’re the crazy ex now 😂

@grundyal Thanks, id feel the same!!

Now you all come to mention it it is a bit odd that not one person asked how I was. I have a friend who never would ask because she’s always said it would be more embarrassing for the person who’d fallen but 30 of them?! I sort of jumped up, rubbed down my legs and laughed to the ones staring, muttering “That hurt a bit” then carried on tidying up so maybe they thought I was ok?

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DarlingNikita · 13/05/2019 13:03

Everyone stared. Not a single person asked if I was ok.

You're not the tit here.

GMtoBe · 13/05/2019 13:07

OP that sounds awful, I hope you're OK. Not all playgroups are like this, I hope you find one that is kinder to you.

WeCameToDance · 13/05/2019 13:09

I don't think it's you who needs to be embarassed. Imagine watching somebody fall and obviously hurt themselves and not even offer a help up. Nasty.
It's easy to say if this is how they treat people they don't deserve your friendship anyway but it still smarts. I wouldn't let this put you off trying other groups. You may well find one that's a fit.

foreverhanging · 13/05/2019 13:11

Aww you poor thing op

Mythreefavouritethings · 13/05/2019 13:15

Mean people. Have a virtual hug and know that one day you’ll be around people who will tut at how crap the others were (unless any of them are also socially anxious and didn’t know what to say or do). Hope you aren’t in too much pain, and try not to keep replaying it. Though if you have to, remember it’s arguably better to replay feeling embarrassed than to replay ignoring someone who could have done with a kind word.

specterlitt · 13/05/2019 13:22

Oh OP, sorry to hear this happened, especially considering the anxiety you have.

If it makes you feel better, during college our canteen had a staircase that lead to the library. Canteen was always full, I was coming down the library stairs and fell flat on my butt and slid down stair by stair until I reached the bottom. It was embarrassing as a teen, but I ended up laughing so hard at myself at that moment and my sheer stupidity. Other than security, no one came to ask if I was ok, there were a couple of giggles, but I was laughing myself so I'm glad I gave them some entertainment!

Us humans can be clumsy and silly, I hope you can laugh at this one day. Please do not let it upset you and make you feel anxious about going again, these things happen and they make for great stories.. eventually. Lots of hugs for you, have a better day today.

Sagradafamiliar · 13/05/2019 13:25

DS2 is at nursery now and I can honestly say I'm glad that playgroup days are behind me. I've found them so unfriendly.
I'd have asked if you were alright and helped you laugh it off by saying I regularly do similar stuff.

noseoftralee · 13/05/2019 13:30

They were shockingly rude and uncaring. I hope your shoulder feels better soon

chickhonhoneybabe · 13/05/2019 13:32

I have a friend who never would ask because she’s always said it would be more embarrassing for the person who’d fallen

Your friend is odd too, it’s common decency to ask if someone is ok. People tend to stare tho as I think they just don’t want to get involved, but 30 of them is bloody dam right mean! If it was me I’d email the playgroup leader to get her to at least acknowledge the incident and log it.

I once fell into a table at a soft play place, I was carrying my DD as there were loads of kids playing around the tables (eating area) which they shouldn’t have been and I tripped. I hurt myself and we both banged our heads on the table and although most people stood there looking at us, at least 2/3 people came over to ask if we were ok. Management also gave me a bag of frozen peas to put on our heads and a free coffee or something (it was a while ago). I haven’t been back since mainly because of the stupid set up and kids being able to play around the seating area where people eat, but at least I was acknowledged. Some people tho are just bloody rude and weird.