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Made a tit of myself at a new playgroup

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 12:08

Just been to a new playgroup with my one year old. It takes a hell of a lot for me to go anywhere new, I suffer quite badly with anxiety and irrationally care too much about what people think of me. So it took a while for me to finally try it. All going well. DD loving pottering and playing. Nobody really spoke to me despite me smiling at people and trying to speak to a couple of them. Then it comes to tidy up time. Everyone putting things away. I turn to put a toy in a box a few feet away and somehow end up flying through the air, unable to plant my feet on the ground and go crashing head first into two tables that had been pushed together. Everyone stared. Not a single person asked if I was ok. DD was screaming because I’d ‘left’ her and I was so embarrassed. Somehow managed to force myself to stay through snack and sing time then got the hell out of there. I’ve cut my knee, my wrist (from my watch strap) and done something that is fecking agony to my shoulder. I’m mortified.

Make me feel better, please. When have you made a tit of yourselves?

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TrySinging · 13/05/2019 13:37

Ah, I feel your pain. I once joined a new toddler group with DD1 and went in with baby DD2 in a carrier on my front. DD1 wouldn't do any of the activities, so I was having to do them with her. There was one where two mums held a huge long skipping rope and swung it in a circular motion and the kids were meant to skip/run through it. I took DD's hand and ran forward on our go, but was kind of bending forward because the rope wasn't very high and a combination of this and the weight of DD2 on my front, I did a big long stagger (burning with embarrassment at the memory of how ungainly it was) and then flew forwards. I was trying not to land on DD2, so I did an Indiana Jones/commando roll. Absolutely MORTIFIED. To make it worse, my boss's wife was there with their DD and no one asked if I was ok.

PawPatrolToTheDogPound · 13/05/2019 14:45

Awful that no one came to check you were ok, you'd at least expect the people running it to come over. They're meant to provide to support to new parents. I'm really disappointed for you.

I could relate to a lot of what you said at the start of your post and just wanted to send you some Cake and a hug! I hope you find a nice group soon.

fuckitywhat · 13/05/2019 14:49

Awww bless you.

They were mean not to help.

My first baby meet up my son was about 1 and I ordered him a little cottage pie. I too have really bad anxiety and was so worried about what was happening that I didn't check his spoon of food thoroughly enough and I fed him a chunk that was way too hot.

He screamed the place down and I cried.

This stuff happens.

Maybe see if there is a friendlier group though?

IdblowJonSnow · 13/05/2019 14:54

I used to wear ridiculous heels in my youth and was always falling down the stairs. This happened once at a party and I did the splits front ways as I fell and that was how I came to a halt at the bottom of the stairs. Everyone saw...
Once I stomped onto the top of an escalator in a bad mood, my heel slid off the end of the groove and I went flying off the end of it and did that running/flailing thing ALL the way to the fucking bottom where quite a crowd had gathered. Amazingly I didn't hurt myself, resisted the urge to take a bow and sauntered off.
Agree they sound horrible not to have checked on you. Hope your shoulder is ok.

PJMasksAreOnTheirWay · 13/05/2019 15:01

Not checking you’re ok is just plain horrible.

HappyRoots · 13/05/2019 15:20

Answered the door to the postman with my tit out when I was utterly sleep-deprived and breastfeeding. I didn't even care I was so tired.

I also cycled into a canal in front of 15 or so people who were having a picnic along the canal path. No one came over to see if I was ok either. I then had to go and meet my DH's family for the first time at a BBQ covered in pondweed and mud. I stank.

Too many other times I've made an utter tit of myself to list here.

Those folk at the playgroup sound like the sort of picnic-eating canal cnuts who don't bother to check out an unfortunate pond creature is ok after she's accidentally fallen in.

Lllot5 · 13/05/2019 16:17

God this thread has really made me laugh. Especially your DH calling you a skunk when you let one go.
I hope you’re ok. Miserable lot of sods at playgroup.
I never fitted in one ever.

AryaStarkWolf · 13/05/2019 16:19

picnic-eating canal cnuts

hahahahaha

InglouriousBasterd · 13/05/2019 16:25

They sound hideous, you poor thing. Take it easy, get some ice on your shoulder! I remember leaving a playgroup when DD was a baby after nobody spoke to me the whole time - then toddling DD fell over and banged her head horribly. Instead of rushing over like I would have instinctively done, they stared in silence. I took her out and a lady came out - I thought to see how she was - but she just tutted at me for my child hurting herself??!

These groups can be horrible.

popehilarious · 13/05/2019 16:28

I find playgroups are mixed. Some (yes, usually the church ones) will come and chat if they see a new face, although then sometimes that may mean 'normal' attendees don't make such an effort as they see it as the leaders' job/ don't want to tread on their toes. Remember loads of mums at the group will also be shattered, anxious, new or oblivious - when I've initiated chats ppl are usually friendly!

Ones with lots of childminders who've all been going for years and know each other can be trickier, I've found. I don't really mind being left to my own devices though.

cookiechomper · 13/05/2019 16:32

I feel for you OP. I think it's awful no one asked were you ok or helped you. However I find with these type of groups if you want to chat you sometimes have to initiate. Some people go to socialise but some like myself just go for their children. I'll chat to people now and again but I'm mainly there for the kids. I find the group's boring to be honest and sometimes I find small talk hard work.

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 17:16

@HappyRoots I do believe you win the thread 😂😂

So I decided to message the leader. She claimed to not have seen, which may have been true although I made a LOT of noise when I landed! I asked about an accident procedure and she said she didn’t have one but the centre where it’s run from might as it’s their insurance. She did ask if I was ok and if my DD was too. Still won’t be going back. Back to the drawing board. Or I’ll stick to the baby soft play sessions that we sometimes go to (although I spend a fortune on carrot cake because it’s to die for so makes for an expensive morning!!)

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 17:18

I don’t really need to make lifelong friends with any of the mums but I find it nice to be sociable and pass the time of day. They obviously don’t feel the same 🤷🏻‍♀️ I just told my neighbour and she laughed before asking if I’m ok. That’s the kind of reaction I needed Grin

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Lllot5 · 13/05/2019 17:25

There must be a accident book of some sort surely. Supposing one of the kids hurt themselves?

boatymcboatname · 13/05/2019 18:13

Op if you lived near me I'd be your playgroup mate Grin

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Dillydallyer · 13/05/2019 21:10

@Lllot5 Apparently not, they just use the one in the centre where they hold the group, it’s not specific to the playgroup 🤷🏻‍♀️

@boatymcboatname Are you a clumsy sod too? We could tour local playgroups, making twats of ourselves 😂

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