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Women who don’t wear makeup, what do you honestly think about women who do?

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ifigoup · 07/05/2019 19:42

I wear makeup every day apart from rare days when I’m not going to be leaving the house at all. In my line of work, it’s more common for women not to wear makeup than to wear it, and I often wonder what those women who don’t wear it think of me. (I have almost zero interest in what men think about women’s choices of makeup, dress etc.)

When I see women not wearing makeup, I occasionally think, “Gosh, she looks a bit tired”, or “Her skin looks a bit sore”, but my overwhelming thought is either nothing whatsoever, or vague jealousy at women who can put their public “work” selves on without feeling the need to wear makeup.

I don’t wear super-heavy makeup, but you’d definitely know I was wearing it: I like a 50s style with winged eyeliner etc., and sometimes bright lipstick. It’s part of my “look”, and I feel a bit naked without it.

That said, I do realise it’s not unproblematic that I feel unfinished without it on. It bothers me that I know I objectively look better with it (because if I ever don’t wear my signature eyeliner, for example, people always ask if I’m feeling ill). It bothers me that men are allowed to look as shit and haggard as they like and nobody suggests they should pretty themselves up, yet women who look shit and haggard often become objects of pity.

If you’re a woman who never or rarely wears makeup, what do you think of women who always do? My assumption is that you either don’t care, or that you probably feel a bit sorry for us for having to put “war paint” on to face the world. Or maybe you feel like women who wear makeup are a bit superficial.

But am I wrong? Do you actually feel intimidated, or suspect makeup wearers are judging you for not wearing it? Or something else entirely?

(I know this sounds a bit like stuff a journo would ask, but I promise I’m not the Daily Mail and am just curious in my own right.)

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greatandpowerfulozma · 07/05/2019 20:08

I usually feel sort of jealous that they know how to use it. I usually just feel I look a mess when I put it on. It’s a real skill (or it seems it to me).

I find make up counters and nail bars etc a bit intimidating to be honest. I don’t speak the lingo. I tried to buy some make up before my wedding and I just felt really thick. They asked what skin type I am (no idea). What colour make up I like (never really owned any so don’t know). Bless them I wasn’t giving them much to work with.

It feels like another world to me and I have no idea how people know about it all. What is primer? How is micellar water different to just water? When you cleanse tone and moisturise wtf does the “tone” bit mean?? I’ve always wondered that!!

So no judgement really just awe at the knowledge some people have!

SquishySquirmy · 07/05/2019 20:09

I do wear make up sometimes, but don't bother most days.

If I think anything at all (and I mostly don't), it's normally along these lines...
"she looks nice, very polished. Maybe I should be bothered to spend 5 minutes in the morning putting some on. I don't think I'd get it as good as her though. I wonder how she does the bits around the eyes like that? I looked like a panda when I tried that. Maybe I should give myself a makeover? What if its too obvious? Will people notice? I don't want them to read anything into it. What if my colleagues think I'm making an effort because I fancy someone at work? Cringe. Actually that's crap, no-one will care or notice, stop overthinking everything. Tomorrow morning I'll put some light make up on..."

Then, tomorrow morning comes, I remember why I can never normally be bothered, and I don't.

I certainly don't judge other women for wearing more make up than me, anymore than I would judge them for enjoying a different sandwich filling, or for wearing trousers when I'm in a skirt etc.

Onceuponatime21 · 07/05/2019 20:10

I notice if it's done well, and notice if it's done badly! I don't understand people that hide behind lots of make up, but nicely done it is prettier than a plain face. But in the cost benefit analysis of can I be arsed to wear make up, no, I can't.

I once had my eyelashes dyed, which was a total result - no effort and looked better than not dyed. But as it wore off I suddenly felt like my natural lashes weren't enough, and I could see how it might become a slippery slope to not being happy with my natural face. So haven't bothered again as didn't want to feel like that.

So, I do sometimes wonder if some women who wear lots of make up feel like that. But I don't judge them for it! Quite happy that we're all adults and can make our own choices.

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lljkk · 07/05/2019 20:10

When I was very young we all had spots, so I understood desire to cover.

Bit older, I thought it was very vain.

Decades later, I don't care or notice. It looks so time consuming I guess. Recently I got a job where it's obvious that Lots of women die their hair (die the grey out). I think it's sad they feel obliged to do that.

Connieston · 07/05/2019 20:11

I don't think they're more organised as such, some women spend that time writing their novel or ironing a pile of clothes or walking the dogs, and of course many be-makeuped ladies will fit that in too, it just depends what's on your radar, and make up just isn't on mine. It's about like saying "when you see someone walking their dog in the morning how do you view them?" I'd just think they like dogs!

PhannyMcNee · 07/05/2019 20:11

I’m indifferent 99% of the time.

I have been known to compliment people with really stunning make up (there’s someone at our local McDs who I reckon is a student MUA as they always have the most incredible eye make up).

Equally, an acquaintance wears loads of foundation/powder/something with wonky eye liner - I wonder if she’s a female Robert Smith wannabe Blush

slipperywhensparticus · 07/05/2019 20:11

They have more time in the morning they are so much more organized than me 😞

ControversialFerret · 07/05/2019 20:11

I tend not to bother day to day except for going into work - when it's pretty minimal.

I notice if I think people look nice. If they have winged eyeliner then I'll admire their skill because I look like a bloody panda every time I try! I am seeing more and more young women with really heavy makeup. I was in B&Q yesterday and the woman serving me looked to be very early 20s and really pretty, but she was absolutely solid with foundation, powder, highlighter, false lashes and so on. I imagine it looks amazing in photos, but IRL it looked really artificial. In that case I thought it was a shame because at her age she's got lovely fresh skin and doesn't need all of the products. But, if it makes her happy then it's her choice.

Olbaa · 07/05/2019 20:11

99% of time I've thought nothing about it.
On occasions I've thought how long did that take and times I've seen the very very thick black drawn eyebroes I've thought why? Confused

BossyEye · 07/05/2019 20:12

I don't really think about it. I might notice if it is really obvious, but each to their own. I think I've stopped wearing it for interviews, but I might put a bit on if I'm at a wedding or a formal event.

I'm sure I'd look "better" with a bit of make-up on, but never really got into the habit!

Namenic · 07/05/2019 20:12

I don’t care unless it impacts me (ie I have to wait for someone to put on their makeup). In which case I feel a few secs of mild irritation as I don’t see it as a necessary.

But if it makes people feel better then go for it! I just find it uncomfortable and time consuming.

RaptorWhiskers · 07/05/2019 20:13

I wonder how they have the time. I barely have time to drag a brush through my hair.

IAlmostCracked · 07/05/2019 20:13

I think they are desperately lucky, and I wish that I could too. Unfortunately my skin just doesn't lend itself to it.

PantsyMcPantsface · 07/05/2019 20:14

Unless you have the orange face and sharpie eyebrows seen on the likes of Educating Essex I am utterly indifferent to it and just impressed you've got your shit together more than I do on a morning.

AlaskanOilBaron · 07/05/2019 20:14

I love makeup, but I'm restrained about how much I wear.

I always notice women who have excellent makeup, and I register women who wear too much makeup.

supersop60 · 07/05/2019 20:14

I don't notice that much, unless it's very heavy make-up. Then I wonder what they're hiding.

hummusscot · 07/05/2019 20:15

Honestly, I generally don't notice.

Singlenotsingle · 07/05/2019 20:15

I don't notice unless the wearer's got great caterpillar eyebrows or great plump fillered lips with red lipstick. Then I think whoa Shock. I put on a slick of lippy and some face powder.

bamboofibre · 07/05/2019 20:15

I take no notice at all whatsoever. I CBAd with makeup.

SquishySquirmy · 07/05/2019 20:16

Actually, I have a question of my own if its OK:

How long do you (honestly) spend putting your make up on every morning, and do you have to spend time redoing bits at all later in the day?

When I do wear makeup, its quite minimal so not really a "routine" as such.Just primer, blusher, mascara and maybe lipstick. I have no idea how long it takes to do "proper" polished looking makeup.

Its something I'm always curious about (weirdly) but don't feel that I can really ask any women in real life, without the question sounding rude iyswim.

EmpressLesbianInChair · 07/05/2019 20:16

I haven’t been bothered with makeup since my early 20s & I don’t really notice whether women are wearing it or not. My skin is fine as far as I’m concerned.

I do think it must be grim if a woman feels she can’t even leave the house without a full face.

EmrysAtticus · 07/05/2019 20:16

Unless it is caked on I don't actually notice. Would struggle to tell you which of my colleagues do and don't wear make up, it's just not something I notice.

Isitmybathtimeyet · 07/05/2019 20:16

Mostly don’t care or notice. Sometimes in a meeting I might find myself admiring someone’s eye make up idly, if it looks nice. Other times I’ll wince if I see bad make up. I wear a little make up occasionally but feel I look a bit clown face so I guess I wish I could be a bit experimental when wearing it for fun.
And I feel really sad when I hear women saying they are too scared to leave the house without make up, because that can’t feel good. And the ‘be brave and do a selfie without make up’ things irritate me enormously.

EdWinchester · 07/05/2019 20:17

My SiL has never worn makeup in her life, she cuts her own hair and has never had her nails painted. She wears only tracksuits.

I often ponder how easy her getting ready process must be and how inexpensive!

DecomposingComposers · 07/05/2019 20:17

I usually think they look great and wish I could look like that.

That's really if I register it at all tbh.

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