Found him on escort websites

[hannah456ls]

Ok first things first iv been sneaking through my husbands phone. I know I know!

Found that he watches porn almost everyday....I suppose I can live with that but then I saw he had been actively looking at adult escorts site.

I haven't the balls to confront him because I shouldn't have been snooping but now I'm questioning everything.

Is he working Monday like he says he is? Is he working next Saturday like he says he is? Is he dressing differently for work? I noticed he had aftershave on some days in the past few weeks he never usually bothers for work. He came home on a few occasions in the past few weeks saying he was desperate for a shower and literally stripped off at the front door and went straight to the bathroom.

I'm going to drive myself mad reading into every little detail

HELP

You must feel like you've been kicked in the stomach, so sorry OP If it was me I would need to dig more before confronting, you can't trust him to tell you anything truthful so if you're the sort of person who will drive yourself mad if you don't know for sure exactly what's happened then you need to find out for yourself. I would need to know how far it had gone for my own sanity but I don't think I could stay with someone who did this, even if he's 'only' looked.

He asked me last night if I had been on his phone and I lied. Now he is questioning my phone. My gut tells me he is guilty of something wether it be he was just looking or not he shouldn't even be looking. He's fine to work now so I suggested me and our daughter meet him for lunch and he said "I only get half hour won't be much point"

Eek I feel for you! Can you not ask to borrow his phone to look something up and pretend yours isn't working or leave it at home then "come across" it?

If not maybe you have to bite the bullet and just ask him out right to put your mind at rest otherwise it will eat you up and you will be constantly doubting everything. It's not fair on your mind at all. What made you snoop through anyway? Was there a reason behind it or just doing a little check xx

I never even bother with his phone. He doesn't socialise at all really and very rarely bothers with his phone it usually gets left on the kitchen side but just recently he has had it on him at all times

Can you approach him in that way instead eg I've noticed you've been on your phone a lot lately is everything ok etc?

Personally just the looking at escort websites would be enough to warrant a confrontation imo, why would he need to look at those for any reason at all?

@skimask I went on the website myself today to do some digging part of me thought it might let you watch porn. However that's not the case it is just purely escorting. I need to find out if he's set up an account because without an account all you can do is look

@hannah456ls personally it might just be my nature but I would say 'I've looked at your phone, I know it was an invasion of privacy and I am sorry for that, but is there anything you'd like to tell me' if he's decent enough to know it's wrong he will admit it. If not, he's stupid and I would then tell him you've seen the escort websites and ask him why he is looking at them. Good luck if you do confront him x

Rightly or wrongly, I'd have to do a little more digging to know in my own mind what I was dealing with before confronting him, especially if there's any chance he won't be truthful with his answers and being confronted will either hey his back up and/or make him more determined to hide his actions better and make it more difficult to get the truth.

I'd also have to have a think about my limits - what you can live with/forgive and what you can't etc.

Dig. And dig some more. Phone bills. Creditcard statements. Computer. Isnt there a track my iPhone app that you can use to see where someone's phone is at?