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Child screaming when not getting my food??

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Milamh · 27/04/2019 18:28

I have a daughter 1 year and 3 weeks old. Shes started doing this thing where she screams and throws herself in a strop if I have something to eat and dont share with her. For example, shes eating her dinner right now, and I'm very warm after cooking veg on the hob, so I grabbed an ice pole. She went a little crazy screaming and shouting because I didn't give her it. She does this with EVERYTHING. She cannot watch me or her other mum have any kind of food without screaming for it to be shared. It's to the point if she doesnt get it she throws herself back full force them screams because shes mad. And also, shes started putting her hands down her throat and choking herself until shes sick?? I'm not sure what to do because shes still very young, but she will hear the russle of a sweetie or here me and my partner eating and that's it, screaming and shouting and having a full melt down. What do I do?

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NotSoThinLizzy · 27/04/2019 18:32

Honestly if it was me I would wait to eat these things without her. Which wouldn't help things in the long run but shes still little so can't really do much else than ignore

Chartreuser · 27/04/2019 18:37

How often do you eat together and how often does she eat separately? If you eat together does she eat the same as you?
I would be minded to either ignore or use it to your advantage and always have some delicious vegetables that you love eating which you can happily share with her?

And yes become a master of eating year things out of sight, pretty sure I once are a Magnum in about three bites for exactly the same reasons.

Re the making herself sick I would just ignore, am sure she'll get bored of it quickly. The only thing if she's teething/got a sore throat and she's just trying to chew?

peachgreen · 27/04/2019 18:39

Pretty normal. My DD will do similar. If I want to eat around her I put something that's actually for her on my plate and then I can give it to her if she gets cross! I wouldn't eat a treat around her though, not unless I was prepared to share it!

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HollowTalk · 27/04/2019 18:39

Come on, OP, why would she want her dinner if you are eating an ice pop in front of her? And of course she goes mad when you're eating sweets without her. Who wouldn't?!

moreismore · 27/04/2019 18:39

She is using toddler logic- that is tastier than what I have therefore I want it. It’s impossible to argue with, just don’t eat food in front of her unless you’re willing to share.

YouJustDoYou · 27/04/2019 18:41

Honestly, I'd change how you eat with/around him if that's what he's doing. He doesn't understand. And second pp about becoming a master at eating out of sight Smile Sometimes I inhale "adult food" (ice cream, pizza, chocolate, etc) in three seconds flat so the kids don't see lol.

archivebuildingsite · 27/04/2019 18:41

You're eating an ice pole while she eats vegetables... She's 1 year old. Of course she's having a tantrum, you're taunting her!

Eat with her, and eat the same thing she's eating.

Eat things she's not allowed when she's asleep, like everyone else does.

MitziK · 27/04/2019 18:42

Don't stuff your face on sweeties and ice cream in front of a fucking three year old, for a start.

Jinglejanglefish · 27/04/2019 18:42

You really expect a toddler to sit and eat their veg while you eat an ice pole in front of them?

I can't eat anything in front of my 7 month old that she can't share as makes grabs for it, or if she's out of reach she'll stare at me until I relent. It's not unusual.

MitziK · 27/04/2019 18:43

Typo. But the same applies for 1 & 3 year olds, 6 year olds, 9 year olds and any other fucking age.

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Milamh · 27/04/2019 18:44

Taunting is a strong word when I go into the freezer then walk out the room before I so much as look at it:) I now know why I was advised not to use this site 😂😂

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Milamh · 27/04/2019 18:45

Wow...just wow Haha sorry parent of the year xo

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archivebuildingsite · 27/04/2019 18:45

If you're hot from cooking vegetables grab a glass of cold water, don't eat desert/ frozen sugar water whilst your young toddler watches from behind a plate of steamed broccoli.

gamerchick · 27/04/2019 18:46

Don't stuff your face on sweeties and ice cream in front of a fucking three year old, for a start

She's 1, not that it makes a difference. Same rules apply.

OP you need to learn stealth eating like all of us did. Ignore the making herself sick, shell get tired of it but no more eating stuff in front of her.

PrincessTiggerlily · 27/04/2019 18:46

I think you should eat with her if you are in the house, let her see you eating and enjoying your meal.

Quartz2208 · 27/04/2019 18:47

Why are you being so defensive against good advice.

Of course she wants an ice pop now she sees it and can’t understand why you get one and she doesnt

archivebuildingsite · 27/04/2019 18:47

Milamh you were told not to use this site because people give sensible answers.

Did you want to read "Aw Hun, give her a clip around the ear and have a bar of chocolate, you sound like a great mum for cooking vegetables..."

gamerchick · 27/04/2019 18:48

Taunting is a strong word when I go into the freezer then walk out the room before I so much as look at itsmile I now know why I was advised not to use this site

But it is taunting her though. It's not deliberate obviously, just a bit thoughtless. She doesn't understand.

Iggly · 27/04/2019 18:49

If I was eating vegetables and someone stuffed their face with an ice cream, I’d not be impressed. As I’m 37, I wouldn’t kick off but if I was 1, then I would. As that’s what 1 year olds do 😂

Alb1 · 27/04/2019 18:52

Any child would be put off their food when they see you eating an ice pop at the same time.

Missing the point here but can’t believe how many people are calling it an ice pole... never heard that before, what a random name! It’s an ice pop people.

Singlenotsingle · 27/04/2019 18:56

Alb1 no, it's an ice pole.

ourkidmolly · 27/04/2019 18:56

That's so funny. You're hot from boiling veg? Where are you cooking? Sounds like you're in the kitchen of a cruise ship rustling up dinner for 1200.
Any toddler will want what you have when it's something like sweets or long piece of frozen sugar. Just don't eat stuff like in front of her.

NancyJoan · 27/04/2019 18:57

Would she be the same if you were eating a sandwich and she’d already had lunch, or is it just treaty things (in which case it’s not so surprising)? Either way, I’m not sure you can do much about her reaction.

NancyJoan · 27/04/2019 18:58

Alb1 I concur. Never heard them called an ice pole.

NaomifromMilkshake · 27/04/2019 18:58

Checks under the bridge.... Hmm

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