Child screaming when not getting my food??

[Milamh]

I have a daughter 1 year and 3 weeks old. Shes started doing this thing where she screams and throws herself in a strop if I have something to eat and dont share with her. For example, shes eating her dinner right now, and I'm very warm after cooking veg on the hob, so I grabbed an ice pole. She went a little crazy screaming and shouting because I didn't give her it. She does this with EVERYTHING. She cannot watch me or her other mum have any kind of food without screaming for it to be shared. It's to the point if she doesnt get it she throws herself back full force them screams because shes mad. And also, shes started putting her hands down her throat and choking herself until shes sick?? I'm not sure what to do because shes still very young, but she will hear the russle of a sweetie or here me and my partner eating and that's it, screaming and shouting and having a full melt down. What do I do?

Eat only vegetables around her.

I agree with every other poster. She is 1 year old for crying out loud. She sees you eating an ice pop and doesn't understand why she can't have one too. So she gets upset and throws a tantrum. Of course she does, she's 1. Babies aren't born with adult brains. It takes 20 years to develop one. You have an adult brain why can't you understand and be reasonable? If you want an ice pop exercise some delayed gratification and self discipline and wait till later. Or like a pp suggested make a healthy alternative and give her one to eat too.

ShankingPiglet . That's priceless "what are you eating, Mummy? Say argghhh" while prising your jaw open, ha ha ha Got to love Such cheeky determination!! I think you saying as a deterrant that it's spicy, has only served to encourage stuffing gobs with chilli coated spicy nuts while you were out of the way🤣

Thinking about it, it's as daft as expecting the TwatCat to stay eating his meaty gloop whilst I tuck into roast duck or fresh cod (or anything that might potentially be more interesting than a tin of Co-op cat meat. Including non food items that might just be food if carefully examined and discarded).

Just ain't gonna happen.

@Milamh - people aren’t trying to be nasty to you - they are just giving you sensible advice - don’t eat the tempting stuff in front of the baby - especially not if you are wanting them to eat their vegetables while you are enjoying an ice lolly.

Your dd is too young to understand why she can’t have the treat instead of her - this won’t always be the case, but whilst it is, join the rest of us, scoffing the biscuits/chocolate/ice lollies behind the kitchen door or while the baby is asleep. Honestly - it will save you grief, in the short term.

This is not people being mean, is is the voice of experience, based on our time at the parenting coal face.

I used to have to a) always eat the same as my child, otherwise they'd kick off.
And b) I would have to hide down behind the worktop to secretly eat a banana.

Babies of that age don't really understand manners but they do understand that mummy is eating something delicious 😋

You were very mean to eat an ice pole in front of her. She's not unreasonable to prefer that to her dinner.

She’s only 1. DS is 5 and I still can’t eat anything without him wanting some. Get used to it

What exactly is an 'ice pole'?
Do you mean one of these things? Because that's a Mr Freeze.

Those are ice poles

I think people are missing the point, OP says it's any food she or other adults eat not just the ice pole.
Always share, sneaky eating; yet again pandering to mini tyrants, how about kids learning no or do mummy's not use that word anymore?

mummies

It's an ice pop. The op says any food but the examples used are both sweet treats

@Bbookworm4 - yes, it is important that children learn the word No from mummies and daddies - but when you are heading into peak toddler tantrum time (the terrible twos), sometimes it is better to pick your battles, and to avoid creating the situations that you know will cause a tantrum - for the sake of the parents’ sanity!

Icy pole here just to add another dimension.
I used to practically put my head in the microwave to shove in chocolate biscuits without being spotted.

@SrSteveOskowski We call em Tip Tops in the West Mids .

Definitely ice poles.

Child is perfectly normal . Don’t eat anything in front of a child unless you’re willing to share .

I am scottish and we call them ice poles.....anyway back to the thread. If a 1yr old (who is still a baby) is sticking there fingers down their throat and making themselves sick and wanting everything you have and it is new behaviour then I think they are struggling with the new baby....your ice pole isn't the issue!

For example, shes eating her dinner right now, and I'm very warm after cooking veg on the hob, so I grabbed an ice pole...

Do you eat meals separately?

Welcome to the next 17 years! Master the art of scoffing food behind the kitchen cupboards. Also recommend hiding biscuits in the garage.

YABU for eating icepoles!

Normal! I’ve become a master at sneakily eating so my kids don’t see and demand what I’m having

In fact the best way to get my 18m old to try anything new is to eat it myself in front of her and not “share” it straight away. This used to work on my 4 year old before he wised up a bit, but he’ll still steal my toast on a weekend

I'll make all your ice pop v's ice pole heads explode... where i'm from it's called an ICY POLE! And those long thin ones in the plastic are called Zooper Doopers.

And OP, you said took your icy pole in to another room to eat it. It's not wise nor safe to leave a 1 year old to eat on their own? Choking happens very, very fast. I've seen it happen in the blink of an eye.

Thankyou LadyMinerva
Exactly an icy pole 😀😀