So I've just found out my partner of 9 years has been on a gay dating app he swears he hasn't but I seen it on his phone now he's saying no one will see him again so obviously he's embarrassed. I feel used and embarrassed now so do I keep it to my self and lie when people ask why we have split up or tell everyone and let him deal with it. He has put me through so much crap over the years and I've took him back every time.. Not this time though it's cheating in my eyes and I will not forgive a cheat