The secrets of overweight people

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I mean this in a light-hearted way, but I guess it might also be helpful to us to see where we're getting it from.

I'll start:

I always serve myself the largest portion, and often nick a few extra bites in between the cooking and serving stages.

I eat a full meal whether I am particularly hungry or not (then often have seconds).

I gave up sugar and doubled my cheese intake (then I went back on sugar too).

Speaking of which, no meal is not improved by a generous topping of grated cheese.

I could quite happily drink a bottle of wine a night, although I don't let myself. On my 'good' nights I drink hot chocolate/ couple of beers and eat crisps instead.

Sometimes if nobody has seen me eat my first slice of toast, I'll put a third one in. This is especially the case when it's white bread, the 'only one' I could buy in the corner shop.

When DH is away I love to read and eat chocolate in bed.

Anyone else got any good tips to help me continue to sabotage my weight loss efforts?

I love saturated fat. And carbs. And I would prefer to have something in my mouth even something I don't particularly like than nothing.
And I don't like exercise. I don't get any form of endorphin rush or whatever it is. And it's really inconvenient as not only does the exercise itself take time but I am bright red and need a shower & to dry my hair again afterwards. So it's easier not to do any.
The worst thing for me is the just-back-from-work munchies. DH and I will always be eating something like fish & a salad later than evening but not for a couple of hours and I'm starving so I'll have an apple or a piece of toast and then not stop.

I love the honesty of this thread.
Has anyone had any experience of seeking help for binge eating/ unhealthy relationships with food?

I honestly wouldn't know where to start.

I love this thread. My tip is always finish the day off by eating in bed. Even if you're not hungry. I've just had a magnum and a bag of minstrels.

I'm putting some toast on just the now.

We had dinner late so I couldn't eat anything else now. I went to Tesco today and had to restrain myself from buying up loads of half price Easter eggs - did buy 3 wee bags of oreo and daim eggs 'for the children' .

I've melted all my easter egg chocolate down to make cornflake cakes.
The chocolate, I'm not too keen on so would eat it q slowly.
But I much prefer chocolate made into stuff - the cornflake cakes will go down far to quickly.

I buy a salad box drenched in oil from the takeaway, alongside a curry, and tell myself I’m being healthy. Ditto with fruit toast from cafes.

Ive had a bad day so it doesn’t count.
Chocolates passed around work don’t count either.

I drink too many Caramel Macchiatos.

If there’s chocolate/ice cream I just need to eat it.
I just don’t know when to stop eating ice cream/chocolate.

Also I’m just not exercising enough.

DP justifications:he’s eaten something unhealthy today so in his eyes he’s already ruined his diet so what’s the harm in another cake/chocolate/fizzy drink/takeaway.

Bunny fuller this is serious :( get well very soon and I hope this is a wake up call (I mean that kindly). Tbh the thing that kick started my weight loss was having a vivid dream where I was being told I was diabetic and realising how much I'd increased my chances of stroke. But they fader, the weight piled back on Nd while I'd like to say ill sort myself out before it gets serious there's a good chance I won't.

That was all me me me
for you

R@Bunnyfuller Hope you make a speedy recovery.

I'm also an overeater. Always have been though SW has helped me lose it temporarily a couple of times. If I stop drinking (copious amounts of wine), it would help. When the drink's in, the wit's out! I have so little willpower. Hoping someone comes along with help!

Bunny - hope you are on the mend, and that the cardiac rehab team offer lots of extended support.

A poster up thread said she needed to cut out evenings. Well I need to cut out afternoons.

I'm rarely hungry of an evening, eat a healthy lunch - I actually like salad, and am not that fussed about whether I eat breakfast or not.

Between school pick up and dinner though, I can eat constantly, I only buy small bars of chocolate, but then eat three of them in one go with a banana + peanut butter straight from the jar.

The poster who suggested the twin dipped in peanut butter is a gourmet genius, by the way.

@Buckee, I would like to offer some help but I wonder if it will come across as patronising, I have never suffered from these sorts of problems and so I can't claim to empathize.
(I don't mean that I don't have issues I have enough to stock a shop, more than national geographic etc, just not in that area of life)

Anyway it's very hard to avoid the usual 'you need to find a way to eat less and move more' because that is what it boils down to
Then again I suppose the essence of the problem is how to train yourself to naturally live in such a way that you can maintain a healthy weight

SecretWitch
Night eating. Something about menopause has triggered my appetite. I will rise at 1am and circuit the fridge and pantry. My bedside is littered in the morning with popcorn husks and Dorito dust.
I control my daytime intake very well but lose it at night.

I thought I was the only one! I'm terrible for getting in bed, tossing and turning, then giving in and getting up to eat chocolate. It gets me to sleep. I always regret it afterwards.

I like carbs to much too. I love tiger/giraffe bread. You have to eat it all on the same day as it won't keep. Oh yeah, and smoother it in real butter. I also love potatoes in any form.
I don't get endorphins from exercise either.

To the PP that mentioned "My 600lb Life.' I use to watch it and judge. but now I can understand. You can eat relatively little and put on a lot of weight (Sedentary lifestyle, take medication that makes me very tired all the time.)

Bunnyfuller I hope you get better very soon.

Sorry to hear that you've come a cropper, Bunny.

However, the results are really good for women who get diagnosed. So, there's that. Hope you are feeling well cared for and they can give you support.

I'm quite amazed at how many of us there are with an unhealthy relationship with food (and that's only those who have admitted it)

Reading through the thread has given me ideas about more unhealthy things to try! Twix and peanut butter...

Maybe we should start a food addicts support thread?

Multipacks of desserts.

@OldAndWornOut yes I'd be up for that!

I know my issue is with McDonald's and convenience food :(

I work long shifts and I'm out the house 15 hours (standard I know) but when I host home and am asked what's for dinner so I pick up McDonalds probably 2 x a week 😳 which is horrendous frankly. And I know I need to more exercise but seriously it's hard when you walk 15k steps a day at work and then go to the gym.. I'm knackered!

I never feel full.

For maximum weight gain and sense of self disgust and failure don't forget that if you've planned a healthy day but eat 1 single chocolate button that means your diet is RUINED and you are free to stuff yourself silly on junk food for the next eight hours.

Then start again tomorrow...sigh

Unless it's a Thursday, Friday or Saturday in which case start again on Monday (unless a bank holiday)

I’m overweight. I’m a 14-16 ..I don’t get weighed . It’s a bit pointless. Legs swell in heatso why bother.
A typical day is this
Breakfast 2 egg spinach omelette
Snack 2 little oranges
I only buy myself very good quality dark chocolate now and if I fancy some , I have some..so maybe a couple of squares

Lunch 2 Kallo dark choc rice cakes with mashed banana on them
Often I’ll have a couple of ounces of green juice with some aloe Vera in and a squeezed lemon

Dinner..some sort of animal protein, veg and some carb, rice , quinoa or sweet potato
Might have a bit more dark choc later on

Drinks are water, herb tea
I’ve decided I’m just not dieting any more. If I want something I’m going to have it
If we are out I might have a gluten free brownie with a peppermint tea
I’m gluten and Lactose free that’s restrictive enough

I'm almost 3 stone overweight because I'm extremely sedentary and lazy and can't stand exercise and have gained just over 1.1lb per year since my lowest adult weight (age 25) to where I am now.
This ^^ is my downfall. I have actually lost weight over the last year and my diet isn't bad (though need to regularly increase my veg eating). However it's creeping up again as I'm really lazy about exercise even though I also accept how good I feel (and the scales look) if I do it regularly.

If only just thinking about exercising had the same effects as doing it I'd be so healthy! I guess I'd better get off the couch (on MN again..) and start reversing those numbers. 🏊🏼‍♀️🚣🏼‍♀️

@Handsoffmysweets My 600lb life has a ghoulish attraction for me - I feel guilty watching it because I do think its exploitation. But all those people are enabled by family/friends who deliver the food. The family members are usually obese too but of course look tiny in comparison. The person is treated by the surgeon but their future is bleak really if they don't have support for a totally changed lifestyle.

That's good to hear handsoff !