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Never ending miscarriage

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Lovestruk · 16/04/2019 23:25

I've experiencing a missed miscarrige over two weeks ago, bleeding now for six days and still no sign of anything resembling "pregnancy tissue" I'm finging it very hard to hold it together and ATM am somewhat numb (I've cried for two weeks at this stage) I was off work for two weeks and went back on Monday (yesterday) last night I had what felt like contractions at one time coming every four minutes then 10 minutes but hardly any blood. Today minimal blood and some pain in work but nothing much.

I'm starting to worry as doctor told me baby died at 8 weeks 6 days and I would be coming up to 15 weeks pregnant now.

I've been bleeding for 6 days minimal blood and I'm worried my body won't let go and maybe I'll get an infection been so long since little baby died.

Any advice would be much appreciated, this my first pregnancy and was very much wanted. Feels like this is just adding insult to injury being dragged out so long. Thanks

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eurgh · 16/04/2019 23:29

Didn't want to read and run, just wanted to say I'm sorry for your loss and maybe a trip back to the doctor is in order to check you over x

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Lovestruk · 16/04/2019 23:41

Thanks I have an appointment next week to scan see if everything was passed but nothing much has happened maybe I should take the pills I just wanted nature to take its course tbh but it doesn't seem to be working that way.

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Fantasisa · 16/04/2019 23:43

I’m so sorry for your loss. I think prolonged bleeding after miscarriage is more common than is known but I would still seek medical support. Flowers

tinatsarina · 16/04/2019 23:53

I was told that a natural miscarriage can take up to three weeks for everything to pass and then you still have bleeding after as well. My baby died at 8 weeks and after two weeks I took the pills but they didn't do much I passed the tissue myself the weekend after I took the pills. Was scheduled for a d and c if it hadn't passed by then. Maybe phone your epu and see if they can bring the scan forward

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Lovestruk · 16/04/2019 23:57

Thanks, did you get random contractions tinatsarina?

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Lovestruk · 16/04/2019 23:58

Sorry for your loss xxx

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tinatsarina · 17/04/2019 12:45

Yea had a scan on a Thursday to say no heartbeat then by the Wednesday contractions and clots but nothing had passed. Took another week until anything happened

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Lovestruk · 17/04/2019 13:15

Ok thanks you. How are you doing?

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tinatsarina · 17/04/2019 18:30

I'm ok now thanks trying again but everything is still all over the place

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Lovestruk · 17/04/2019 18:56

How long ago was it? Do you mean your cycle? Everything just seems to not matter to me ATM and extremely irratible, ok alone.

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APurpleSquirrel · 17/04/2019 19:27

I had a miscarriage in June 2017. I started bleeding on the Monday night, got a scan with EPAC the following Friday which confirmed no heartbeat & they believed the baby had died around 6 wks - I was 12 wks by this point.
Initially I decided to let nature take its course but over the weekend decided to have op as I really just wanted it all done quickly & completely. I'd had a retained placenta with my DD previously & was concerned not all of the material would come out naturally.
I had the op on the Wednesday as a day patient. Throughout I was bleeding & after the op for another week or so.
I'm so sorry for your loss - I'd definitely go back & see your GP or hospital.
3 months later I got pregnant again & now have a DS who will be 1 in June.

gotmychocolateimgood · 17/04/2019 19:51

Sorry for your loss. Look after yourself Flowers

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Lovestruk · 17/04/2019 19:52

Thanks purple squirrel I have an appointment for next Tuesday I was there last Tuesday and had internal scan I specifically asked if there was any sign of infection as this is my concern now but she said no eveythinh looks fine. There is no smelly discharge or temperature that I know of. I do have aches and pains everywhere though but maybe this is hormonal? I thought it would have happened by now, last night woke up with awful pain but still no heavy bleeding as everyone else mentions. How were you physically and mentally around then? I'm sorry for your loss and thanks I'm feeling rough ATM and don't like being alone which I am today. Congrats on your future successful pregnancy x

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Lovestruk · 17/04/2019 19:53

gotmychocolateimgood Thank you x

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APurpleSquirrel · 17/04/2019 21:13

Thank you.
Physically I was very achy after the op, but relieved it was all done. I think I was told it could take weeks to pass naturally & I was experiencing, like you, cramps & contractions so I felt by having the op I could control to a certain extent how I was to recover as I knew when it would happen & could plan accordingly - such as PIL having DD for a few days, taking time off work etc.
Emotionally I was a wreck for a while. It is still painful, & it certainly affected me during my DS's pregnancy as I couldn't relax & enjoy it, not till he was out & we were both fine.
My biggest regret was having the ashes scattered at the crematorium- I wish now we'd kept them & put them somewhere ourselves but that's done.
Is there anyone else you can talk to? I was quite open after the op about what happened with family & friends & was shocked to find so many had experienced a miscarriage too which helped a little.

APurpleSquirrel · 17/04/2019 21:14

Thank you.
Physically I was very achy after the op, but relieved it was all done. I think I was told it could take weeks to pass naturally & I was experiencing, like you, cramps & contractions so I felt by having the op I could control to a certain extent how I was to recover as I knew when it would happen & could plan accordingly - such as PIL having DD for a few days, taking time off work etc.
Emotionally I was a wreck for a while. It is still painful, & it certainly affected me during my DS's pregnancy as I couldn't relax & enjoy it, not till he was out & we were both fine.
My biggest regret was having the ashes scattered at the crematorium- I wish now we'd kept them & put them somewhere ourselves but that's done.
Is there anyone else you can talk to? I was quite open after the op about what happened with family & friends & was shocked to find so many had experienced a miscarriage too which helped a little.

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Lovestruk · 17/04/2019 21:49

Thanks so much purple squirrel I wouldn't mind waiting but being back in work and thinking it might happen there concerns me. But yeah having the op gives some control which is something you have very little of at times like these. I can imagine your nerves throughout DS pregnancy as I imagine all who have miscarried will now expect very sad. I prefer to be alone most of the time but to have someone in the house and tonight I'm alone I think your right about the op as I feel so trapped being afraid to stray to far from home etc. I have ppl to talk to yes, I hope you are ok and it doesn't pain you so much anymore I don't think I'll ever be the same tbh it has made be have a different outlook on control/life etc. I haven't come access anyone in person that has had a miscarrige but then I'm not long in my job so nobody there knows apart from manager who is male, god love him he was trying to be nice to me Monday when I came back. I think I find it easier to write about it because when I speak I get upset bless my boss that almost happened Monday. That's another thing what to do with the baby if it's happens before Tuesday maybe plant a tree with it xxx big hugs to you and thanks again means the world to have support from someone who know what your going through x

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Lovestruk · 18/04/2019 09:56

I was just about to leave for work this morning when what felt like an explosion happened, I think I've passed the baby but can't be sure was sitting on the toilet for an hour, had to get up as my right leg felt weird maybe just numb from sitting there so long. Going to have a sleep now hopefully that's it. God I'm so emotional I hope this doesn't continue either. Had to call in sick today I just feel rotten in every way possible at this very minute. So much going on in my head and now can't even go to work for distraction just so cruel, wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

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Omzlas · 18/04/2019 10:10

I have no advice other than please take care of yourself, allow yourself time to grieve for your loss, talk to whoever you feel able to about things and be kind to yourself Flowers ♡

Prokupatuscrakedatus · 18/04/2019 11:17

When this happened to me I was asked if I wanted to wait for my body to act or if I wanted to have a surgical procedure under legal health insurance. As I wanted to avoid the possible complications of a MMC like inflammation etc. I opted for the surgical solution (and fell pregnant with DS soon after).

jackstini · 18/04/2019 11:23

Sorry for your loss Lovestruk
It's a really difficult time; is there anyone who you can call to be with you or do you need some time alone?

With mine, nothing ever passed so had to D&C but sure they will check you Tuesday and make sure everything is clear

Be very kind to yourself, sometimes it hits you at odd times

I did fall pregnant with DS soon after and I was a scary first few weeks but everything was fine

Will be thinking of you Thanks

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Lovestruk · 18/04/2019 11:48

Thanks I'm ok just going through lots of emotions tbh and realising a lot in this time. I don't think I would try yet although it's all I think of but it's been such a hard time I don't think I'd be ready yet. It's just tough three weeks ago was planing a whole other life than the one I have now and nothing seems to matter and just cry a lot today being the hardest with it actually coming out. Yeah I'll get checked Tuesday make sure everything ok hopefully no more intervention needed. Thanks so much for all the well wishes and yes I'm going to be very kind to myself right now I've just realised how little I do that. I'm sorry to all you who have gone through this, it is probably the most traumatic thing I've went through and I've been through my fair share. Congrats jackstini and Prokupatuscrakedatus on both having little boys im sure they are very much loved xxx

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Lovestruk · 19/04/2019 07:50

Woken up this morning again with pain passed some clots there and now back in bed, pain still there but can't sit on the loo forever. Please god let it be over soon

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Aprilladvised · 19/04/2019 08:00

I had a mmc in 2007 and it lasted 5 weeks but I was given weekly scans in hospital to keep an eye on progress. Eventually they left me off to weather it.

I was told at the time that it gets easier to deal with after your due date and it does. Not on the button but soon after.

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Lovestruk · 19/04/2019 19:20

Five weeks is a long time, did you have cramping/clotting everyday? How do you know you've passed the baby does the pain ease when it happens and is it toward the end etc. Worst pain this morning so far but I would have said the same thing yesterday morning too. Sorry for your loss Aprilladvised xxx

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