Never ending miscarriage

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I've experiencing a missed miscarrige over two weeks ago, bleeding now for six days and still no sign of anything resembling "pregnancy tissue" I'm finging it very hard to hold it together and ATM am somewhat numb (I've cried for two weeks at this stage) I was off work for two weeks and went back on Monday (yesterday) last night I had what felt like contractions at one time coming every four minutes then 10 minutes but hardly any blood. Today minimal blood and some pain in work but nothing much.

I'm starting to worry as doctor told me baby died at 8 weeks 6 days and I would be coming up to 15 weeks pregnant now.

I've been bleeding for 6 days minimal blood and I'm worried my body won't let go and maybe I'll get an infection been so long since little baby died.

Any advice would be much appreciated, this my first pregnancy and was very much wanted. Feels like this is just adding insult to injury being dragged out so long. Thanks

Feeling worn out and drained is totally normal too. I lost my appetite completely especially with my second one as it was so awful. I think I just shut down mentally and went into myself for a while, it was my way of coping with it. We all deal and cope with stress in different ways, and also our grieving there is no right or wrong. X

Hi geekster thanks for checking in on me x they said everything looks ok still some stuff left but no sign of infection she thoughouly checked x offered me pills and D&C but I said no it's seems to be happening by itself slow and painful as it is.

I feel rotten though just like exhausted, maybe all the blood loss idk pain still in shoulder and rapid heartbeat, epu girl said pain in shoulder is from bleeding and is common I'll keep an eye on my racing heart i'm not anxious so don't understand it but don't understand a lot anymore tbh. Appt for another two weeks and hopefully start to feel better and recover in the meantime.

Is there anything I can do to build myself back up vitamins etc I feel like just want to lie here, had a little walk earlier which was nice but not much energy for much else xxx

That's understandable geekster I can imagine you we're going through the mill mentally x And yes I will look about getting in touch with the association and maybe helping out too When I feel stronger x

Hi sorry you are still feeling so rough physically and mentally. I liked metatone tonic when I'm feeling run down. I think it's perfectly normal to feel low and lacking in energy, going for a gentle walk is a good idea as a bit of fresh air can help your mind relax a bit and maybe get things moving a bit.

If it does come down to you needing a D&C it's nothing to worry about. I had one with my second (no way was I going through a 'natural' one again). I recovered much better physically from that one, mentally less so.

Let me know how you are doing and I'm here if you want to ask anything x

Thanks geekster I understand I don't think I would wait it out if this happened again.

I'm going to get that tonic tomorrow and if I'm Up to it go buy a little box and put a few bits in it, I have a scan pic and little teddy and go off the weekend and bury it somewhere might let off a lantern just something to do for the little baby. Did you do anything like this?

Girl today was really nice and I think that makes a difference to the experience of visiting epu x goodnight geekster thanks and ttyl xxx

That sounds a nice idea about the box. I never got to the point that I got a scan photo with any of mine. The second one I had an early scan at nine weeks and all was fine. We went back on 21st December that year for our 11 week scan and the baby had died. I had to go in on Christmas Eve for a D&C and was poorly so had to stay in overnight for IV antibiotics. I'd never felt so miserable and unwell in my life as I did then.

I think the idea for yours is really nice, as it's somewhere you can visit your baby and a think about them.

It is nice when someone is kind to you it makes all the difference. My lovely community midwife didn't send my appointment letter until I was 11 weeks with my Daughter so I wouldn't have to cancel it or explain it. She was utterly lovely. The GP's and nurses at the Doctors were all so genuinely happy for me when things went well with my Daughter.

How are you doing today?

I agree geekster it makes such a big difference when ppl are kind to you, in general but definitely at times like this and you have been one of those ppl thank you.

Your second one sounds like the worse from listening to you and around a time that you'll remember (xmas) not that you'd forget anyway but, mine was day before Mother's Day which will always I imagine be hard now.

Did you have an infection then that they had you on anti B's? I know what you mean about never feeling so unwell in your life, I feel this even though I didn't have D&C. I got that tonic today too x

I'm ok today but very tearful, doctor says to me "now I can give you something for that" god love him, men always just trying to fix things but I wouldn't take anything I'm hurting for a reason and no pill will make me forget just time i suppose.

You could still do a memory box if you wanted and put whatever you like really in it and as you said it's just a place to go if you wish to take yourself off and be with your thought xxx

Yes I always remember them in my heart.

I had a high temperature and they didn’t know what was causing it, most likely it was a virus and they couldn’t decide whether to go ahead with the D&C or not. Then the anaesthetist came to my rescue and said what if it’s being caused by why I was there so they did it. Never found out what caused me to be poorly.

I agree with you pills aren’t the answer we know why we feel so sad and I don’t think masking it helps in most cases we need to deal with it in our own time and own way. There is no time limit or right or wrong.

I took up running five years ago and it has really helped me mentally. It gives me time on my own to get my thoughts in order. It just takes time x

The running is a good idea maybe I'll try that I could never run tbh haha I have a hill by my house and I used to run down it to give he a head start, I'm a skinny girl and fit but running was never my thing maybe I'll try again

Yes geekster all in good time, I got fired today for being off so I have all the time in the world and have found out the type of ppl I worked for and I'm glad that I don't work for them anyone xxx

Anymore*

That's horrible of them, surely they aren't allowed to do that to you. Like you said better off without them. I did the couch to 5k to start running as I was overweight and unfit.

So very sorry that you're going through this. I had a MMC a few years back and it was ten days between the bleeding starting and the sac being passed. I had horrendous pains every few minutes for most of that time, easily as bad as the contractions when I had my son, and very, very heavy bleeding, especially towards the end. Glad the hospital are looking after you (mine couldn't have cared less, although my GPs were amazing).

I'm so sorry that you were fired as well - that's appalling! :(

Thanks @spiderlight I've made sure that I was looked after tbh, before I had the miscarrige I called hospital and they as much as fobbed me off so I said to myself I'm going to make sure I'm looked after and am ok no aftermath x I'm sorry for your loss x and thanks for your well wishes, yes it's appalling but I'm going to put t to the back of my mind for the time being until I'm mentally able to come back to it because if I don't I think I might just of insane. Good stuff out of you geekster fair play to you I love your self motivation and will take a leaf out of your book xxx

When I started this thread I honestly didn't think I would still be still be sat in bed with this. I thought couple of days and I will be brand new.

I think what I've learnt is that I hate sitting in bed and that will maybe be the big lesson form all of this, to go out into the world and not waste one second of my life ever again being unhappy or doing something I don't want to do.

I've begged and pleaded for it to be over and to be well so many times now but I have to just accept my body is taking a long time to process everything and to be patient with myself and appreciate my body is obviously going through a lot and to stop cursing it.

My mind is a whole other thing and I'm just trying to be as indifferent as I can about everything and know that what happened happened and it wasn't anybody's fault and there is a reason however painful it is xxx

I had the same & took the tablets. It took 4 weeks to stop bleeding. I went back to work after 2 & was still passing bits. It was awful. You’re right it’s like insult to injury. In good news I had one normal cycle then fell pregnant & have had 2 healthy pregnancies. Unfortunately miscarriages are so common. Try to stay positive. Sending love x

Thanks sunshine x trying my hardest to keep my chip up. Congrats on your little ones sending love be right back to you xxx

To keep this updated if anyone is experiencing this. It will be three weeks tomorrow since I stated to miscarry I've had numberous hospital and doctors visits in that time. My next hospital visit is next Tuesday and bloods this Thursday.

I have spoke to a lot of girls since three weeks ago all very helpful with my questions and I have gained a wealth of knowledge of this experience, I thank every one.

I am still very weak and bleeding lightly still passing large clots and still getting sporadic bleeds. I've been taking my temperate for the past few days at a steady 35/36 as I understand infection causes a temperate but I think it can also be omitted, so the other signs are pain in abdomin and foul discharge which hasn't happened but should keep an eye.

I am still in pain though but it's a dull pain, still have shoulder tip pain that's there a week now but epu explained this is from bleeding irritating pelvis. I have heard it can go on quite some time and on this thread alone have spoke to girls that have lasted five weeks.

I just wanted to keep this updated as maybe it might help someone somday, I've had every sysmptom under the sun and all are considered normal, when in actual fact they would scare the bejesus out of anyone.

I'm also quite bored as I've been bed bound for three weeks but mainly the first reason, to help as others have helped me x thanks so much if you've commented or traveled through this with me I'm ever grateful for your thoughts and support xxx