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Weird car scenario- how do you handle this?

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RevGoatGirl · 15/04/2019 19:28

All the family Mum/Dad, 3 kids are in the car.

The Dad is trying to park in a tricky place in a borrowed car. He’s clearly connected his phone to the cars Bluetooth as he gets a call and there’s no number displayed but a name “Amber Cherry”

The dad gets flustered parking and quickly stops to decline the call.

He says he has no idea who it is- which is clearly is a lie - as a random number you would not know the recipient but sure I’d youve saved someone to your contacts then you know who they are? Furthermore there’s a big song and dance and much “ringing” of said persons number with “it’s going straight to answerphone”

The Mum in this scenario says
“I know everyone in my address book and would definitely not forget a person with a low rent, made up strippers name” 🙄

Interested in feedback- name changed as I have other history on MN which would identify me.

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JoyceDivision · 15/04/2019 19:31

I'd take DH phone, let's say need to check directions pretending my phone's dead, then have it out later without kids there.

Sounds dodgy op Sad

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RevGoatGirl · 15/04/2019 19:35

I asked for the phone
He wouldn’t hand it over

And continued to “call”the number with no response trying to find out who it was.

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SlimGin · 15/04/2019 19:38

So he pretended to call and said it was going to answerphone?

Two things are very suspicious: the cherry (emoji I assume) next to her name which has 'sexy' connotations, and his reaction to the call. If it was nobody he'd just answer or decline without getting flustered.

He's acted very guilty. I'd ask for his phone and call her myself.

SlimGin · 15/04/2019 19:38

Sorry OP misread that he didn't hand the phone over. Even more suspicious!

LegoPeopleEverywhere · 15/04/2019 19:44

Definitely dodgy. He obviously knows who this person is if they're in his phone, and he got flustered. Is he cagey about his phone generally?

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RevGoatGirl · 15/04/2019 19:44

The name was Amber Cherry no emoji.

I get your point though

On holiday so have had no alone time without kids.

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RevGoatGirl · 15/04/2019 19:45

Lego
Thinking about it yes.

I use my phone a lot (business/email) as does he. We never need/use each other’s

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MzHz · 15/04/2019 19:53

Can you google amber cherry and your home town? See if anyone comes up?

MrsMozartMkII · 15/04/2019 19:57

Why wouldn't he hand it over?

Did he say went tbe number was saved and under such a name?

MySecondBestBroomstick · 15/04/2019 19:59

My guess is he knows exactly who this is, and it's someone with the initials A.C.

bobstersmum · 15/04/2019 20:02

Weird that he was brazen enough to ring it back though?

MotherForkinShirtBalls · 15/04/2019 20:03

I've had business names show up on my phone on incoming calls even though I've never saved them. His reaction would make me more suspicious than the name flashing up.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 15/04/2019 20:05

Can't name identity be 'sent' with the phonecall? I've had calls come up with a company name on my phone when they're not in my contacts.

Wheresmyvagina · 15/04/2019 20:08

iPhones can add names to contacts without you adding them, it usually says maybe:name

lablablab · 15/04/2019 20:08

Explain you are worried and could he please hand over his phone to reassure you. If he refuses, he's definitely got something to hide!

Then begin snooping. Find the number in his phone if you can and check it on WhatsApp and search for it on Facebook. Search for the name Amber and/or Cherry on Google as well as Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

Pigletthedog · 15/04/2019 20:08

I once had an email exchange a lady called(for example) Jo Bloggs at a hotel. The lady then rang me, and my phone said 'possibly Jo Bloggs' , presumably it took the details from the email signature.

No idea if that is in any way helpful but it made me think of it when @MotherForkinShirtBalls said about contacts being named even if they're hint actually saved in the phone.

So maybe someone he's been in contact with but not directly by phone before?

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RevGoatGirl · 15/04/2019 20:09

Nobody comes up as Amber Cherry

He rang more than once looking annoyed and saying “it’s someone with an 02 Phone”

Unfortunately at one point my son said “Daddy you’re not phoning someone it’s your home screen that’s on” 🙄

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BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 15/04/2019 20:13

Also, some people in quite regular jobs have names that sound made up, I once had an estate agent named Fifi La Roux valuing my house. And the solicitor that dealt with DS's adoption for us was named Cherry (ordinary surname though).

His reaction is highly suspicious though, especially with 'trying' to phone back.

ENormaSnob · 15/04/2019 20:13

So we all know he didn't actually ring back right?

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RevGoatGirl · 15/04/2019 20:15

He said to ds “ I did ring then it went answerphone so I stopped it”

Spidey senses kicked in as soon as I saw the name. Wasn’t a good feeling.

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KaterinaPetrova · 15/04/2019 20:16

Demand the phone. Call it yourself. There's no other way to resolve it, especially as it seems that your son noticed he wasn't making a call when he said he was.

You know he's lying and you know there are very, very few legitimate explanations for it.

If he refuses to hand over the phone, take it when he's asleep.

lablablab · 15/04/2019 20:16

Nobody comes up as Amber Cherry

I've got a few hits on Google, are u sure??

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RevGoatGirl · 15/04/2019 20:17

Yes the very OTT trying to call back- was very laboured.

I mean- if a Frankie McJizz called me- I’d happily hand over the phone and tell him to introduce himself 🙄 knowing it was either a friend who was having a laugh having changed something on my phone. But then again I have nothing to hide.

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Quietlife333 · 15/04/2019 20:17

Call amber and see what she says.

NicoAndTheNiners · 15/04/2019 20:18

dodgy as hell.

The lying over saying he didn't know who it was, he has that name saved in his phone. Then refusing to hand over the phone, lying about trying to ring the number back, etc.

I wouldn't need any further evidence. If it walks like a duck, sounds like a duck.......

You could google the name and your home town, look on fb, etc.