Weird car scenario- how do you handle this?

[RevGoatGirl]

All the family Mum/Dad, 3 kids are in the car.

The Dad is trying to park in a tricky place in a borrowed car. He’s clearly connected his phone to the cars Bluetooth as he gets a call and there’s no number displayed but a name “Amber Cherry”

The dad gets flustered parking and quickly stops to decline the call.

He says he has no idea who it is- which is clearly is a lie - as a random number you would not know the recipient but sure I’d youve saved someone to your contacts then you know who they are? Furthermore there’s a big song and dance and much “ringing” of said persons number with “it’s going straight to answerphone”

The Mum in this scenario says
“I know everyone in my address book and would definitely not forget a person with a low rent, made up strippers name” 🙄

Interested in feedback- name changed as I have other history on MN which would identify me.

You need to demand that he gives you the phone number. If it's nothing dodgy, he shouldn't hesitate in doing so. Save the number as a contact to your phone. Look on WhatsApp and you'll see the picture of whoever it belongs to. You can also search for people on Facebook based on their phone number.

Very dodgy OP

It was bad to begin with but if ds clocked that he was calling home and getting the answer machine there, then that's really bad. He needs to give you full access to his phone if he values his marriage and has respect for you and your feelings.

Bear in mind her name could be Cherry Amber.

Ds meant the phone was on the home screen, ie not the dial out screen, so he wasn't phoning anyone. Dodgy as hell. That's either a stripper name or one he has (badly) made up as code. I would demand he unlovks the phone and gives it to you. Bet your arse the contact has now been deleted, which is supicious too. Check the call history for when he was supposedly calling it back.

Amber cherry’s on Facebook getting random friends suggestions as people search for them

Is the number in the car system ? I’d start there tbh. Especially if he’s not very good at undoing the Bluetooth connection and the phone is in range of car. Didn’t you leave something in the glovebox and need to pop out to the car ? Take your phone to photograph the number ( turn flashlight on to go out ) that’s your excuse to have your phone with you.

Ultimately if he has nothing to hide he would have given you the phone. Now he will delete all trace of it.

Not sure how super fancy phones work but could you get hold of his phone and call his phone from your phone, answer it and keep it on the call and then go into messages etc that way on his phone?
Might be one way of opening it up. Hope it was something easily explained but yes does sound dodgy op x

Well dodgy imo. Especially considering he was just pretending to call the number back. His call history will tell you if he actually did call back or if he was just faking!

Also very suspicious that you can’t unlock his phone - we know the codes for each other’s phones, I might text myself a photo he took or make a call if mine is charging, we aren’t clingy with our phones because we have nothing to hide. Huge red flag if you don’t know his pin code!

Really hope it's innocent but if I'm honest doesn't sound it x

Yes I know
What makes it work is he’s been doing a big Disney Dad/husband drive.

This break cannot be over quick enough

If my husband refused to hand over his phone, I would automatically assume dishonest goings on. I think most people would. Good luck getting into the phone OP.

Why aren't you confronting him more?

He won't hand over his phone so have you pushed this?

I'd say give me the phone now or your out when we get home.

You are just giving him time to hide evidence.

If that were innocent he would have taken the call?!
I am being judgey about the name but... Sorry it screams errr "stage name" putting it politely in combination with the fluster and the fake phone calling its dodgy.

Oh how rubbish. Sounds dodgy and not good. Good luck OP. I hope you can enjoy the rest of your break a bit.

Protect yourself OP - play nice whilst your away but make plans for when you get home financial details etc

Maybe OP is processing what's happened.

If away on a break maybe she wants to decide what to do and deal with it when she gets home.

If his phone hooks up to the car, you just need phone and car together without him. You don't have to unlock the phone to get it to work, just ignition on and if you've got Apple Play or Android equivalent you can ring or see contact / call list plus messages.

Must be phone sex worker, surely, and he has a regular session that he forget to cancel while on hols. (Eeewww yick :(, for OP)

Do you still have the rental car? Say you've left something in and need to get it out.

If my phone isn't in range of my car, my call list shows as numbers rather than names. Go in to the call list in the car and get the number and search for it online, or call it.

Can you ask Siri to call without unlocking?

His reaction when the call came in is dodgy regardless of whether the name's real or not (and I bet it isn't - A C initials sound likely). It might be as to bide your time and see what you can find out back at home.

I'm assuming OP wants to wait until after the holiday to have it out with him as she doesn't want to wreck it for the kid(s)?

I found out my ExH was cheating about 6 weeks before a big family holiday and managed to keep it to myself so that DD would have a last holiday with good memories before I kicked his sorry arse out.
It did me in mentally but I knew I was doing what was best for DD, and reflecting on it now, she's grateful that I did.