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Housewarming gift price range?

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NoCanoe · 13/04/2019 17:10

I originally offered to buy a gift once my friends were settled and knew what they wanted. There had been talk of wanting to replace dinner plates, bed linen , towels etc.

They now have said they will forgo the non essential items in favour of something more practical.

That's fine. But because I never stipulated a budget at the time when it was a general idea, Im now being presented with an invoice far greater than anticipated.

Im just wondering if Im out of touch with price range these days, or am I being taken advantage of?

Id like some idea of what you'd consider normal price range before I say how much I am actually being asked for.

I do feel I have no option but to honour the commitment. But I'm a bit miffed.

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chocatoo · 14/04/2019 18:13

If they can't afford them, they shouldn't have ordered them! Transfer £100 and leave it at that.

NaturatintGoldenChestnut · 14/04/2019 18:13

But, they are ordered and this puts us in a really difficult position. We've worked out our finances and can make it work. If you can go up to 350. Please say you can manage this! Your desperate grateful friend....

What fucking, fucking arseholes! Please just STOP letting them con you or you really are being a numpty. There are no fucking curtains, you really that, don't you? It is a con. They have done this before. They are better off than you and trying to rob you. There are not enough words to qualify how utterly cuntish they are.

NO FUCKING MONEY! You need to cut them off because all they will do is continue to extort and con you. Look how they hounded you! They have preyed upon you and continue to do so. They are using you only for money.

Only a fool would give them another penny.

They are NOT friends. Don't answer them at all. Delete and block them. Keep their messages as Pal suggests.

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NoCanoe · 14/04/2019 18:14

Modzy78 - that makes a lot of sense when you lay it out like that.

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modzy78 · 14/04/2019 18:14

Do NOT give in. If they couldn't afford it (though it sounds like they can), they shouldn't have ordered it. They've realized they're probably not going to get the full amount from you, so they're trying to squeeze as much as they can.
I'd honestly be tempted to reply back, "Oh, dear. An unexpected expense has just come up, meaning that I can't afford £100. I'll transfer £50, and that's all I can manage." And if they're response is to try to get more money off you, keep lowering the amount until it's nothing.

Palominoo · 14/04/2019 18:14

WHAAAAAAAAT?
£350.00

OMFG!

No no and no.

What a disgrace.

More front than Brighton!

Have they no shame?

Send them a link to this thread. They need to be shown what the WORLD thinks of these conniving shyster ne’er do wells.

Manipulative bastards.

GiantKitten · 14/04/2019 18:14

Did they, by any chance, know about this money you had tucked away for something in particular for yourself? Hmm

TanMateix · 14/04/2019 18:16

WTH? Tell them to use your £100 to make up a bit for the lost deposit.

No, actually do not tell them anything as you will end up guilted into paying. Just stop engaging, you are not going to be friends after this even if you pay the £550.

Gitfeatures · 14/04/2019 18:16

But, they are ordered and this puts us in a really difficult position. We've worked out our finances and can make it work. If you can go up to 350. Please say you can manage this! Your desperate grateful friend....

They're in a difficult position? No, they're not. They cancel the order and lose the deposit. They're fucking curtains, not lifesaving medical treatment.

NaturatintGoldenChestnut · 14/04/2019 18:16

They have lied to you in the past to extract money from you, when they are better off than you, to use for themselves, using sob stories. They are grifters and you are their mark.

MySecondBestBroomstick · 14/04/2019 18:17

It doesn't much matter what is said or not said at this stage. The scales have fallen from your eyes OP, that's the main thing.

I think the best thing is not to respond at all. If you can't bring yourself to do this then maybe something like "Actually can't believe you'd presume on our friendship like this. Last time I checked I was your friend not a cash cow. Have paid £30 into your account which was the original amount I planned to spend, and if you say anything other than "thank you very much" we can consider this friendship over."

Then block'em anyway.

Palominoo · 14/04/2019 18:17

And if they are skint then why is any of the money going on curtains?

Twats. No way have they bought curtains. They’re a couple of Shills.

Please tell these utter shitbags to fuck off.

MySecondBestBroomstick · 14/04/2019 18:18

And as PPs say, no one is ever "desperate" over curtains. No one. Ever.

Palominoo · 14/04/2019 18:19

The ops conniving shyster bastards masquerading as chums

Housewarming gift price range?
Pompello · 14/04/2019 18:19

What an awful pair of grubby grifters.

Palominoo · 14/04/2019 18:21

‘Dear Shysters,

No I won’t give you £350.00 to line your grubby pockets with.

In fact I wouldn’t cross the street to piss on you if you caught fire.

You dirty, rotten bastards.

Do not darken my life ever again.

Toodle Pip! The Op’

huggybear · 14/04/2019 18:21

No way. Do not give in to the pressure of £350.

wittyusermane · 14/04/2019 18:21

NO WAY.

If they are completely unable to afford the curtains themselves there is no way they would have ordered them based on some strange assumption you'd pay OP.

This it utterly ridiculous. Entitled CFs! I am so cross on your behalf!!

I'd reply something along the lines of, 'This conversation should have taken place before ordering the curtains if you were relying on me to pay for them. As you didn't, I really can't be held responsible for your predicament. I felt that £100 was a more than generous gift and quite honestly feel upset and uncomfortable that you don't feel it good enough.'

mummmy2017 · 14/04/2019 18:22

Send them this...

I feel so badly that this has all got so mixed up, and cost seem to have spiraled out if control.
As said I only have the £100 , I think your best thing to do is to cancel the curtains.
£50 of my money will replace the Lost deposit you put on the curtains. Please just get yourself something nice with the remainder...
As we are both having money troubles, I think we should forego presents in future...

NaturatintGoldenChestnut · 14/04/2019 18:22

I hate people who do this to vulnerable people! This used to happen to a friend of mine until a group of us put an end to several people just using her, who is a widow on a pension. TWATS!

Palominoo · 14/04/2019 18:23

Ma Baker had more class than these shitters.

Gitfeatures · 14/04/2019 18:23

Hang on, you ignored their previous message so suddenly they do understand what you meant by lost in translation? Amazing how their comprehension suddenly improves when you don't engage.

Palominoo · 14/04/2019 18:24

mummmy2017
Why the hell should the op feel badly?

She has done no wrong.

PeachNut · 14/04/2019 18:25

This conversation should have taken place before ordering the curtains if you were relying on me to pay for them. As you didn't, I really can't be held responsible for your predicament. I felt that £100 was a more than generous gift and quite honestly feel upset and uncomfortable that you don't feel it good enough.

Perfect response from @wittyusermane

Palominoo · 14/04/2019 18:26

SEND THEM A LINK HERE.

Let’s get these Bogans out in the open and see what they have to say about their revolting behaviour.

Fruityfruitcake · 14/04/2019 18:27

OP there's absolutely no way you should feel badly. I'd be telling them where to go.

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