Abortion help please

[Mummyoftwo91]

Sorry to post here, just need some practical advice really I'm posting on behalf of a friend. She's booked in for a surgical abortion in a weeks time however she has no childcare for her existing 2 year old ds, also no one to take her to and from the hospital after. I live about 45 mins away and I don't drive so I'm usless to her, does anyone have any advice on what she could do?
Thanks

Well you could look after her first child which will make it easier for her to seek support after her abortion.

Often people can get lifts to and from hospital with volunteers but around here you get picked up in the morning around 9 and taken home around 5, so a very long day. Can she try to arrange a babysitter for DS? It would be pretty awful if she used the lift service and took her son, he'd go bananas probably after so long in hospital.

She has to be at the hospital at 7.45, she lives 45 minutes away from me and her hospital isn't local to me either, it's over an hour away, I would happily look after him if I could but I have no way of getting him back to her and she wouldn't be able to drive after the procedure

She's being put under so taking him isn't an option, I feel so helpless that I can't be there for her as I'm the only person she really has

She can't take her DS with her. It's day surgery - so she will need to be there all day. She could get a taxi to and from the hospital.
Be a good friend and travel the 45mins to look after her DS .

Sorry my post was a bit vague.

You live 45 mins away not hours.
You could arrange to have the toddler during the day and stay over night.

Is that possible?

Cab for the journey home. I had to.

Can you or another member of her family/friendship circle have the youngest and support? Her partner?

for her, it’s not an easy thing to deal with

You could go the night before and look after the children during the day. She could get a bus or taxi there and a taxi back?

Could you look after him for a few days?

I can't travel there as I don't drive otherwise I would happily have him and take her to and from, she lives in quite a remote area with limited transport. I also I have 2 dcs to pick up and drop off to school

Can you get to her on public transport even if it means staying overnight?
Go and look after her DS if you can. She also shouldn't be alone or in charge of DC for 24 hours after an anesthetic so if you can, stay over after the procedure.
Advise her that if she can't get a lift to/from the hospital to get a taxi. Yes it's an expense, but she'll welcome to privacy, comfort and ability to go home when she wants rather than waiting on someone to come and get her.

Could you take a couple of days off work and stay at hers

Then she gets a cab home after the procedure

There's always a way. Use taxis if you have to. If she drives she could come and collect you and take you to her house.

Take him longer night before and night of procedure ? 45 mins isn't long

I wouldn't be able to have him for a few days I'm currently living back at home with my parents and sharing a room with my 2 dc there just isn't the space and my mum wouldn't agree to it, i was just seeking advice to see if anyone had any ideas I hadn't thought of already, I feel terrible for her

For such an early start to be at the hospital she's going to need a friend or family member to be looking after her child for her. So I'd be looking at how you can look after her 2 year old at your house, having them come round the day before and return the day after. Assuming you can do the school run with a 2 year old in tow.

Could your parents look after your children while you go and stay at your friends house to look after her child?

In that case look after her DS at your house so you can still do the school run for your Dc.

Can she phone the hospital with her predicament and they can offer advice? The village I live also offers lift volunteers (unrelated to hospital and can be for anything at any time, the lift giver receives a small payment towards fuel - about 50p per mile), maybe she has something like that, she could put a post on Facebook asking about any schemes near her? I'm not sure what to suggest about her son, there are respite caters who may help (used for foster children etc, but totally unsure whether this could be an option here!)

Also my 2dc have school so I wouldn't really want them taking time off, it's 45 mins in the car but a long time on public transport as there is no direct route as she lives in a remote area, trust me I would help her if I could.

I've already said I can't have her dc stay here, there is no room and my mum wouldn't allow it, me and my 2dc are crammed into one room, she barley tolerates my children I am only here short term as we have a tough relationship and she is a heavy drinker but I was made homeless and had no choice but that's not relevant, I'm just trying to say having him here is not an option.

Stay at hers the night before. She travels to clinic by public transport, you stay at home with her child then she gets public transport/taxi back. Or you all travel together in the morning, you entertain her son in the area while she's in, all get public transport back.
Or, she drives to collect you in the morning, you get back to hers, she makes her way to clinic.
You can either help or not, don't be wet about it, she's got enough to think about.

Thank you frankie I will look into that

Has she no family, friends etc.?
Another option is social services. Does she have social worker or family support worker?

Runkle how am I ment to get my own children to school?