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Abortion help please

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Mummyoftwo91 · 12/04/2019 20:36

Sorry to post here, just need some practical advice really I'm posting on behalf of a friend. She's booked in for a surgical abortion in a weeks time however she has no childcare for her existing 2 year old ds, also no one to take her to and from the hospital after. I live about 45 mins away and I don't drive so I'm usless to her, does anyone have any advice on what she could do?
Thanks

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AnyFucker · 12/04/2019 21:01

Are your dc not still on Easter holidays ?

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Mummyoftwo91 · 12/04/2019 21:01

Pigwitch I'm the only person she has really, I will ask her about contacting social services for help

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AssassinatedBeauty · 12/04/2019 21:02

Do you have any friends or other family members that are not alcoholics who could take your children to school and supervise them at your parents?

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Mummyoftwo91 · 12/04/2019 21:03

Anyfucker yes they are, her procedure is scheduled for the 25th, my children will be back at school then, I'm asking in advance now to see if I could help find her a solution before her appointment

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Runkle · 12/04/2019 21:04

What about a babysitter for her ds? www.childcare.co.uk. Can you out your kids in after school club? Ask another parent to have them?

Runkle · 12/04/2019 21:04

*put

Pigwitch · 12/04/2019 21:04

To be honest I would let my DC Miss a day of school if it meant that I could give life changing help to a friend who had nowhere else to turn. You're making this more complicated than it needs to be. You either help her or you don't. I know what I'd do.

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Mummyoftwo91 · 12/04/2019 21:05

She does currently have a child minder for when she works, even tho her childminder said she's fully booked that day I've told her if she could recommend another childminder in her area for that day

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moofolk · 12/04/2019 21:05

There is an organisation called sister supporter. I don't know if there are all over the country but may be able to give advice.

However, I would advise you to take her child to yours for the night. I know you don't have much space / your own place but it is just one night and she is a friend in need.

AnyFucker · 12/04/2019 22:33

You are annoying me actually

Let's think of some other ways you definitely cannot assist her in any way at all

What are you looking for with this thread ?

MumofTinies · 12/04/2019 22:43

Give the OP a break, she obviously has a lot going on in her own life right now which is making it difficult for her to offer practical advice to her friend. Expecting her to keep her own children off school is silly, sounds like someone in the OP's position could really do without a fine for keeping her kids off.
You sound like a good caring friend OP.

Crunchymum · 12/04/2019 23:11

It's Easter holidays, so OP you can take your kids to hers, or have her DC stay with you.

SS do not run a babysitting service?

Crunchymum · 12/04/2019 23:13

The 25th isn't "in a weeks time" is it OP? Shock

Angelinthenightx · 12/04/2019 23:37

The easter holidays are over in scotland kids back this mon so by the 25th all uk kids should be back at school.

Jeezypeepers · 12/04/2019 23:45

Nobody’s saying SS run a babysitting service. But they will try and help families in crisis; and they have funds for childcare in these sort of circumstances. Not sure where abouts in the U.K. you are OP; but if there’s an organisation locally like One Parent Families they can help sort childcare for occasions such as this.

Have a look online for family support services in the local area. Good luck!

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Mummyoftwo91 · 13/04/2019 09:16

Thank you for those who offered helpful advice, not sure why people are bashing me for not taking my children out of school! I've explained why I can't have him here, I have a lot going on in my own life too and if I could help her I would! before I was living with my mum I used to have her child stay overnight on a weekly basis

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DirtyNumbAngel · 13/04/2019 09:52

Hi OP,
Flowers for your friend xx

Could your mum not look after your kids/take them to school and you stay over at your friends house with her DC for two nights?

Hope you find a solution.

eclipse1808 · 13/04/2019 10:58

How about a hotel near you for you, your two DC and your friends son to stay in, she drops him off the night before and picks him up the day after / whenever she can drive again. A b&b would be cheaper if a few nights are required or a travel lodge? Then she only has to figure out how to get there & back herself maybe taxi?

Wellfuckmeinbothears · 13/04/2019 11:03

If it were me and we were really close I would go to hers the day before with my kids so you can look after them and hers at her place while she had the abortion. I’d stay that night too and keep my kids off school again that day. It’s not ideal at all but in your situation that’s what I’d do.

DameSylvieKrin · 13/04/2019 11:08

I don’t think you can help her except as a supportive ear.
Sounds like she’ll have to pay a babysitter and a taxi. However she has to get the funds for that, it will be cheaper than bringing up another child.

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Mummyoftwo91 · 13/04/2019 11:10

I can't keep them off for 2 possibly 3 days when they've just had over 2 weeks off, they are due to go back to school the day before her appointment, if they were younger and not in school I would have done that no problem or if it had fallen in the school holidays again wouldn't have been a problem

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Mummyoftwo91 · 13/04/2019 11:11

Baby sitter and taxi is looking like the best option for her atm, her childminder has recommended one which she is going to meet in a few days, she doesn't have the funds for a taxi which is £30 each way from her house but I've offered to pay one way for her so it's not as much

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Lokidokiartichoki · 13/04/2019 11:24

Could she reschedule for a day when the childminder has space? One of her dcs usual days? If she explains to the clinic they may help out. The 26th is a Friday, child could go to childcare, you could go to her house after school and help with her son, no school on Saturday or Sunday so you could stay the weekend.

RuthW · 13/04/2019 11:57

Contact her local WI federation office.

I know than in an emergency a WI member would help if they could.

PissOffPeppa · 13/04/2019 12:46

If it were me and we were really close I would go to hers the day before with my kids so you can look after them and hers at her place while she had the abortion. I’d stay that night too and keep my kids off school again that day. It’s not ideal at all but in your situation that’s what I’d do

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