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I am being ridiculous please talk me down

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theweeenglishfella · 09/04/2019 09:26

I just returned from dropping my DS at nursery and as I was crossing the (busy) road to get to my flat a man in a car with tinted windows slowed down and started staring at me. I didn't make eye contact, just looked down and carried on walking. He sped off and drove away but then two seconds later I saw him turn around and drive so he was pulling up alongside me and continued to stare. He had to move on as there were cars behind him so I went into my flat but then when I looked out of the window two minutes later I saw he'd got out of his car and was looking up and down the street. Couldn't see his car, he must have parked it.

Anyway now I'm really freaked out. Need to go back out for shopping but feel worried he's still lurking, though I can't see him any more.

Being ridiculous I know. I had an absolutely horrible traumatic experience a couple of months ago which started out a bit like this so I'm on edge.

Talk me down?

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theweeenglishfella · 09/04/2019 09:52

Not looking for people to say anything bread, was just sharing the experience and wanting some solidarity. HTH.

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GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 09/04/2019 09:52

Sounds frightening op
Can you try take a video/ pic of him if you see him again?

QuestionableMouse · 09/04/2019 09:53

I don't mean this horribly but I think you're reading too much into his actions. He's either mistaken you for someone else or wasn't even looking at you.

The recent trauma means you're probably still on high alert and everything even slightly off is pinging your radar. Have a hot drink and try not to dwell on it. It's very unlikely he's still hanging around.

whitesoxx · 09/04/2019 09:56

Even your thread title shows that you know you are overthinking this.

Its highly unlikely he was staring at you and driving/running up and down the street to do that. But very likely he was lost and looking for an address.

Palominoo · 09/04/2019 10:01

Bit odd he didn’t say anything if he was trying to menace you. They usually engage or start a conversation by calling out in a cocky manner.

You cannot tell he was a creep just from that limited amount of time you walked down the street.

He may have thought he recognised you and was hoping you’d recognise him back and say hello or most likely he was looking for an address.

I’d youve had a bad experience and are genuinely concerned you are the target of being menaced you should log every incident with the police.

TheMaddHugger · 09/04/2019 10:06

((((Hugs)))@theweeenglishfella 💐🌸💐

Scary

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theweeenglishfella · 09/04/2019 10:07

Well, I just went outside to put something in the bin and he popped out from the street corner where he had obviously been lurking and started walking towards me. He is now standing outside my flat trying to see into it.

I am now inside and have phoned the police.

So please do not tell me I was being paranoid, because my instinct was entirely correct.

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TheMaddHugger · 09/04/2019 10:08

💐🌼🌸🌼💐 glad you called the police, I hope they help

brodybear · 09/04/2019 10:09

So please do not tell me I was being paranoid, because my instinct was entirely correct.

Could he be a debt collector or similar, trying to identify you as living in the property?

TheMaddHugger · 09/04/2019 10:11

Umm that's "the Gift of fear' book. not sure what happened to the link going wonky

Cattucino · 09/04/2019 10:12

That sounds scary OP. Hope you're ok Flowers

Spikecity · 09/04/2019 10:17

What have the police said? Are they sending someone out?

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theweeenglishfella · 09/04/2019 10:19

Someone is going to come out but it will be a little while.

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originallyfromLA · 09/04/2019 10:23

Goodness, how scary! All doors and windows firmly shut and locked??

brodybear · 09/04/2019 10:25

Someone is going to come out but it will be a little while.

This is in progress, the man is outside your house, they should be sending someone ASAP so they can identify the man

whitesoxx · 09/04/2019 10:26

Have you taken a picture of him or asked him what he wants?

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theweeenglishfella · 09/04/2019 10:27

I've taken a picture of him. I'm on the first floor, he can't see me through my shutters. I don't think he knows what flat I'm in.

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theweeenglishfella · 09/04/2019 10:27

No I was not going to stand there and have a conversation with him.

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downcasteyes · 09/04/2019 10:29

Can you call a friend or relation and get them to come over? Man or woman - ideally someone assertive.

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theweeenglishfella · 09/04/2019 10:30

I don't have anyone who would be able to come. My H is on a conference abroad. My friends are all at work, as are my parents.

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LorelaiRoryEmily · 09/04/2019 10:36

Is he still there op? God that’s so scary

downcasteyes · 09/04/2019 10:38

What about a neighbour inside the building? Is there someone you can trust who is about? Even if it's someone elderly, it's a second pair of eyes.

Susanna30 · 09/04/2019 10:39

Hope someone gets there soon to check the situation out and make sure you're ok. He sounds like a creep.
Glad you called the police, as it does sound very odd.

JeremyCorbynsCoat · 09/04/2019 10:55

This sounds really scary OP.

Are you in a block of flats? Is there an entry system? Will you need to go back out later to nursery or is there someone who can collect for you?

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