Hi everyone.
I've been a step mum now since 2016 and although it's not very long my other half has full custody of his son so we have him full time. Mum is useless. She's had all 3 of her kids taken off her.We ensure little one goes to a grandparents every weekend to see the other side of the family yet half the time she doesn't bother seeing him. She messaged the other day saying it would have been nice to have a mother's Day card but didn't even bother going to see him on mother's Day!!! 😤
I'm reaching the end of my teather with holding stuff in and ignoring her let downs. I've in no way tried to replace her but because he lives with us naturally I've took on mum role in a bigger prospect. I don't allow him to call me mum.
But anyway back on track if I was to say something to her like get your **together would I be prodding a bear. I fully down for a fight tbh because I've had enough but I don't want to be perceived as the bad one when she clearly is! To this day he's still not received his Christmas presents. We asked for a bit of maintenance £30a month (£1 a day) back in January purely to go into a savings account for him and she's not paid a single thing again to this day. Not has she provided uniform for school because we decided to keep her involved etc so we said she could take him shopping for shoes etc and still nothing.
What do I do? My other half would rather ignore it and bury his head a bit and it drives me insane