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Original poster

DD's keyworker accidentally threw a shoe at DD's head

101 replies

sidesplittinglol · 04/04/2019 17:34

If this happened to you, what would you do and how would you react?

I emailed a complaint to the nursery manager 2 days ago and I haven't even had a reply

OP posts:
PristineCondition · 04/04/2019 18:14

Athetlics - coach threw the shot put thing and it hit one of my kids on the shin. My response - chucked a bit.

I took a toddler out with a viciously thrown bean bag at sports day.
I was a helper showing them how to throw it properly, mortifiedBlush

LettuceP · 04/04/2019 18:16

Have you never accidentally hurt your dc? Hit their head on the car door getting them in? Trod on their foot? Bumped into them? Accidents happen, let it go.

Mammyloveswine · 04/04/2019 18:16

You dont even know it hit her on the head and there was no visible injury

What exactly was said to your husband?? Just a flippant "oh your dd was accidentally hit with a shoe today" and you then demanded an accident form???

Original poster
sidesplittinglol · 04/04/2019 18:23

I guess I see where you're all coming from and I'm not particularly worked up about it. But I just thought they shouldn't be throwing things around the room.

I've nothing against the key worker. He seems nice on the few occasions I've met him.

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WorraLiberty · 04/04/2019 18:50

But he wasn't throwing things 'around the room' Confused

It's a weird world we're living in where a teacher tosses a shoe off the table, accidentally hits someone, doesn't hurt them at all and it's given more than a second thought.

In fact I doubt most people would even remember it at the end of the day to tell the parent, let alone expect them to follow it up with an email.

ShitAtScarbble · 04/04/2019 18:53

So what DO you want OP? Oh - wait - is it compo? Hmm

Meandmetoo · 04/04/2019 18:57

I'd probably check she's ok when at home, throw any accident report in the recycling (I'd expect that at the least) and not think about it again. That is just me though, I'm fairly laid back about these things.

They should have replied to you by now though. That's not on.

Holidayshopping · 04/04/2019 18:59

I honestly can’t say that would bother me!

caughtinanet · 04/04/2019 19:07

Total non event imo.

BTW what is the difference between a key worker and a worker, are therer different expectations for their behaviour?

pilates · 04/04/2019 19:17

I wouldn’t get het up about it

CalamityJune · 04/04/2019 19:22

@caughtinanet a key worker is the person who works most closely with your child and is identified as your main point of contact. The idea is that they build a bond and your child isn't being cared for by lots of different staff.

TheChippendenSpook · 04/04/2019 19:23

Reading this makes me glad I left nursery nursing a few weeks ago!

caughtinanet · 04/04/2019 19:25

Thank you calamity, so one child's key worker is a worker to a different child, iyswim, so all do the same work.

I wasn't sure if the shoe throwing was worse if it was key worker rather then one of the other workers

wigglypiggly · 04/04/2019 19:25

it was an accident, it wasn't thrown around the room, why was the shoe on the table in the first place, the accident report was probably a legality in case there's a complaint

insancerre · 04/04/2019 19:26

Jesus, total non event

7circlemats · 04/04/2019 19:29

I wouldn't be making an issue of this.

colditz · 04/04/2019 19:31

no concussion and not abuse = not bothered

MamaLovesMango · 04/04/2019 19:33

But I just thought they shouldn't be throwing things around the room.

But he didn’t Hmm

shaddywaddy · 04/04/2019 19:38

Ridiculous over reaction

Saucery · 04/04/2019 19:43

Oh, she wasn’t injured? That explains the lack of accident form then! They have been very honest with you, in that case, by telling you about something that had no physical impact on your child at all.
Bit rude to ignore your email, even to point out that there was no form because there was no accident resulting in injury, but that’s all.

bombaychef · 04/04/2019 19:52

There was no injury. It's a total non event.

youarenotkiddingme · 04/04/2019 19:55

People are right that you can't accidentally throw a shoe.

But are people seriously lacking that they can't understand the hitting her DD was an accident?

They informed you what happened. It was an accident anyone of us could have had with our own children. I'm sure that they've already decided for themselves it wasn't the best course of action and that there can be consequences.

I seriously wouldn't have taken it as far as you.

HotpotLawyer · 04/04/2019 20:26

“I've nothing against the key worker. He seems nice on the few occasions I've met him.”

Well, best not get him disciplined with a complaint on his file, then.

He admitted it. He told your DH. What more learning on behalf of the key worker and nursery do you want?

ballsdeep · 04/04/2019 20:51

Assaulted?!?!?! Crikey moses it was an accident these things happen.

ballsdeep · 04/04/2019 20:55

You need to get a grip actually. It was a non incident. You have completely thrown this out of proportion and made a meal out of it when nothing actually happened. People like you cause people not to want to work with children. Stop being so precious, you will have a shock as your child grows up.

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