How long after giving birth did you..

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I'm actually gobsmacked at this 🤦🏻‍♀️

www.channelmum.com/a/mum-reveals-she-had-sex-two-hours-after-giving-birth

I think it was probably around the 8 weeks mark with mine!

2 hours though. What.the.hell!! 🙈🤷🏻‍♀️

About eight weeks after DC1; two weeks after DC2 (easy labour and almost pain free delivery, no stitches etc)

It was at least 6 months for me due to sleep deprivation rendering me too exhausted to bother

Mmmm 🙄 vile

Bout 2-3 weeks once bleeding stopped

Can't remember with my first one (nearly 24 years ago), probably a few weeks/a month.

With my daughter though I could have had sex a couple of hours after later as when I left the hospital and walked from the car to my house I felt as right as rain and like I'd bought my daughter from a shop rather than having just given birth a few hours earlier that morning.

Both labour's were fairly short, easy, no pain relief and no tears/stitches.

I remember feeling a bit tired after my son was born but with my daughter I think there was a feeling of euphoria, but tempered with giving birth so that I just felt completely normal.

Its possible that the woman in question was feeling euphoric?

What I don't understand is why she felt the need to tell The Sun?
"Ooh we just had sex, lets call the papers".

Where I am the advice is 6 weeks to enable the cervix to close up or something.

TTQuestion that’s part of the reason why the advice is 6 weeks....also because regardless of if you baby was born vaginally or via csection, you still have an open wound, roughly the size of a dinner plate inside your uterus from where your placenta has detached. Perfect breeding ground for infection

I sort of get how you could feel euphoric and drugged-up enough after a section to think it would be a good idea. I don’t see how any decent partner would agree it was a good idea though. Wtf was he thinking?

1st baby - first attempt after about nine months, success after about a year.

2nd baby - can't remember but certainly more than a couple of months as I had absolutely no libido whatsoever.

I'd worry about an abusive relationship too I think.

A member of maternity staff in the hospital DP used to work in once found a couple having sex in the cleaning cupboard, very soon after the woman had given birth. Apparently there was blood everywhere 😳

DC1 - two weeks, once the bleeding stopped
DC2 - five weeks, I bled for two weeks and then got my period in the fourth week so it was the week after that
DC3 - three weeks once the bleeding stopped
DC4 - six weeks, she was a poor sleeper so opportunity didn't present itself until then

First time each time was instigated by me and a very careful, cautious affair.

Two hours post birth with a drugged up partner who was numb from the waist down and - in her own words - didn't feel sexy screams abuse to me. It's been entirely for the husband's benefit not hers and I'd be thinking along the lines of her not having a choice over when she has sex. Her husband comes out of this looking like a bit of a cunt.

If it was an abusive relationship,would she be telling the papers? Plus she talks about feeling an incredible closeness between them blah blah blah

She just sounds mad.

Not me, but my friend had sex again for the first time around 3 months after her DS was born. 9 months later her DD was born! There's just under 12 months between the two. It was EMPHATICALLY not planned.

I agree, it's the telling other people/media thst is odd.

I'm imagining baby in cot asleep, he's cuddling her and they start kissing and feel the urge to make love.....

But I would have thought that even if the woman was willing the man would hold back for fear of the exertion causing his wife any problems so soon after giving birth.

I hope it's not an abusive relationship but it's certainly ringing warning bells.

Waited 8 months after my youngest, and now it's been another 6 months and still hasn't happened again. I think seeing me give birth has put my OH off for life!

I'm no prude, but for good sake, there's a time and a place. There is something extremely distasteful about two new parents focusing more on shagging each other than on their hours old newborn baby.

I gave birth at 09.40 and at 10.30 I looked at my doctor and thought 'Come here...' We didn't do it though. Apart from it being entirely inappropriate, he wouldn't have wanted to burst the stitches he'd done twice already.

5 weeks had stitches for a tear and didn't want to earlier my stitches were tender for a while afterwards

6 weeks, after my check up

news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/183990.stm
Can be risky apparently

5 weeks, and I was more nervous about the 1st time since giving birth than I was about doing it for the first time ever!

I seem to remember the woman in this article from some program about being on benefits and looking for celebrity stardom
She was a teacher/actress/artist. Wanted fame...

8 weeks after dc1 forceps and episiotomy

3 weeks after dc2 emcs

About 6 months. Had an awful labour. Episiotomy and forceps. Plus a baby attached to my boob 24/7

What, 2 hrs! Eh!?! Maybe she can't feel pain or something 🤷🏻‍♀️

I was 7 weeks after and it was hell. I had a section so I'm not sure how that works and why was so sore. In fact it was so painful for about 18months after, felt like being a virgin every time so hubby never got it much for a long time.