How long after giving birth did you..

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I'm actually gobsmacked at this 🤦🏻‍♀️

www.channelmum.com/a/mum-reveals-she-had-sex-two-hours-after-giving-birth

I think it was probably around the 8 weeks mark with mine!

2 hours though. What.the.hell!! 🙈🤷🏻‍♀️

6 weeks.
My friend knows a midwife who caught a couple getting it on, on the maternity ward
Jeez, even if it wasn't painful, the blood, the blood, I just can't Imagine.

A midwife I know 'caught' one of the mums in the ward having sex with her boyfriend less than a day after she gave birth. They were at it in the hospital bed.

Midwife immediately raised concerns with regards to it being an abusive relationship. Turns out she was right.

It's not always black and white.

2 weeks I think? It’s only starting to go back to ‘normal’ now (as in, as frequent and as adventurous) 6 months on.

5 days after a vaginal birth and ten days after an emsc.
Would give my right arm to be that horny these days!!

Midwife immediately raised concerns with regards to it being an abusive relationship. Turns out she was right.

I’m a midwife and I have to say it would ring alarm bells with me too!

2 weeks after all 3, c-section each time. Did other things before that, but me and DH have quite an active sex life as is. Still couldn’t imagine 2 hours after though!

Six weeks with dc1, haven’t tried after dc2 yet (3 weeks).

I’d assume there was some kind of controlling or abusive dynamic to a relationship where sex was on the cards less than a day after delivery.

I don’t buy it. There’s something quite creepy about this, especially given her epidural hadn’t worn off so she wouldn’t have felt a thing.

This was in 2013.

She’s probably on the relationships board now talking of her abusive relationship.

Agree that's grim, mine was 2 weeks after a section

Another mat nurse chiming in to say abusive relationship/mental health condition/grooming.
I stuck to the 6 week rule for piv sex, something to do with the uterine lining and sperm.

What kind of man would get in the mood after seeing the blood, placenta and an entire human coming out of their partner just 120 minutes before? Never mind the ability to put aside that she probably feels mentally and physically exhausted afterwards?

I can’t imagine many men feeling up to penetrative sex two hours after a vasectomy

@Chocolateisfab surely you were still bleeding at that point?!

6 months after both of mine. No way I'd fancy it the same day!

I had been given an infusion after the birth. Stopped bleeding before day 5!!

I've got my judgey pants on, but surely as the epidural hadn't worn off, she wouldn't of felt it. Bit grim tbh i couldn't imagine my partner even thinking about it two hours after giving birth.

And that's coming from someone who had sex 2 weeks after giving birth! I dont know, stories like this make me

DC1 - after 6 week check
DC2 - 3 months as I was so tired
DC3 - 5 months because I was/am on my knees with exhaustion and don't remotely have the energy for sex. I miss the closeness though so have been trying and failing repeatedly. Three kids with additional needs and I don't often feel like I have anything else to give 😧

OMG 5 months for me after a traumatic birth!!!!

I think anyone who does it so soon is most likely in an abusive relationship or feels like she has to have sex out of some sort of duty I think that’s very sad actually. I haven’t read the article because it makes me cringe to even think about it.

We waited 3 months, and even then DH was worried he was going to hurt me- and I had a pretty straightforward birth.

I was about 7 days after my last child. It was a planned c section and completely my choice, my husband would have waited if I wasn't ready. The thought of going any longer without sex was a struggle tbh.
I couldn't do 2 hours though, but if they both felt up to it, that's their choice.

Someone on my mn antenatal thread did just after giving birth. I just can’t imagine it, I was gushing blood every time I moved. Dc4 is 9 weeks and I still haven’t, probably feel ok to do so now other than the baby is permanently attached to me so I’m not quite sure when it would happen!

Perfect that's pretty judgy and quite offensive tbh.
My loving dh is far from abusive....

Chocolate each to their own- didn’t mean to offend. I just think in a lot of cases it would be abusive- not saying that it is in your situation at all.

4 weeks for me. I may be wrong,but I seem to remember reading somewhere a few years ago that it can actually be dangerous to have sex really soon after giving birth (e.g. within a week). But maybe that opinion has been revised now?

Women who have sex so soon after vaginal delivery must surely be in an abusive relationship?

The fact that she’d had an emcs, and said her epidural hadn’t even worn off rings abuse alarm bells to me.
If she can’t feel it, then it’s entirely for her partner’s benefit, which in my head tells me he’s a selfish cunt at best, or an abusive cunt at worst