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I need a god excuse to cancel a meal out with family.

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crosser62 · 22/03/2019 13:53

I had half arranged a meal out for myself, my kids and dh, my 2 sisters and their kids and my mum as s mother’s day and belated mums birthday.
My sister (who is quite mad and very VERY hard work) has upset my mum.
She does it all the time but doesn’t realise it, or does realise it but doesn’t care.
My mum told me that she wants me to cancel the meal she doesn’t want to go.

So, it’s gone to me to break this off to my mad, very aggressive, very angry, very hard work sister without causing uproar.

Any ideas?

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Palominoo · 22/03/2019 13:55

"Mum has decided she doesn't want a meal out".

Why get yourself embroiled between them.

tenbob · 22/03/2019 13:55

Sickness bug?
Migraine?

Bookworm4 · 22/03/2019 13:55

Stop pandering to your mad sister, tell her the truth that it's being cancelled due to her nasty behaviour. She'll never grow up if you all let her away with her atrocious behaviour.

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LegoPiecesEverywhere · 22/03/2019 13:56

Just send a text. I have cancelled the restaurant booking as Mum is sick and doesn’t feel up to it.

EinsteinsArousedSausagesHCB · 22/03/2019 13:56

Why can't the rest of you just go?

LorelaiRoryEmily · 22/03/2019 13:57

Just tell her you’ve cancelled it because your mother doesn’t want to go anymore. Simple

AirMass · 22/03/2019 13:58

Yup! Agree with PP, cancelled cos mum doesn't want to go

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crosser62 · 22/03/2019 13:59

Quite honestly, this sister is absolutely caustic and vicious, I would not cross her for all the tea in China.
I’m just trying to make life a bit easier for my mum by making a good excuse.

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livefornaps · 22/03/2019 13:59

I've got the shits always works for me

aposterhasnoname · 22/03/2019 14:00

If you always do what you always did, you’ll always get what you always got.

Stop enabling your sister and tell her exactly what she’s done, and keep telling her. Every Single Time.

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crosser62 · 22/03/2019 14:02

I don’t see her, only on occasions like mothers birthday. I avoid any contact with her.
See her maybe twice a year that’s it.
She doesn’t affect me then.

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LorelaiRoryEmily · 22/03/2019 14:03

I’ve got a sister like that myself op. You have my sympathy.

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crosser62 · 22/03/2019 14:04

Thanks, I’m just going to say my boy isn’t well... or some such

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aposterhasnoname · 22/03/2019 14:06

I don’t see her,

All the more reason to call her out then, you won’t have to deal with any histrionics. Tell her it’s cancelled cos she’s a twat, then ignore any calls or texts, or better stil block her.

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crosser62 · 22/03/2019 14:06

Nightmare Lorelai, nightmare!

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crosser62 · 22/03/2019 14:06

“Twat” 😆 love it!

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Sn0tnose · 22/03/2019 14:13

Noro virus. Your mum has been with you, so you're expecting her to come down with it too at any moment. Nobody wants to have a meal with people who have very contagious diarrhoea.

The key is to wait until the day before to break the news to your sister so you can say that you were hoping it was just some dodgy takeaway and are so disappointed you have to cancel. And then ask her to get back to you with some dates she's free so you can check your diary when you're up and about again.

Or, you could just tell her she's an arsehole and nobody wants to spend any time with her.

MeAgainAgain · 22/03/2019 14:17

Just tell sister that family is down with frantic shits and projectile vomiting

Go with your dh kids and mum. and other sis if you want. why should you all miss out cos sis is a dick?
i mean as long as they won't call evil sis and rub it in.

mummmy2017 · 22/03/2019 14:21

Tell your sister you heard what she said to your mum.
You refuse to eat a meal with someone so nasty, so have informed your mum the meal is off

RLABC · 22/03/2019 14:22

When is the meal booked for? Isn't Mothering Sunday 9 days away? That's too faraway to say you've all got the trots or similar.
Just tell your sister that it's cancelled because you're mum doesn't want the fuss (if you don't want your sister moaning at your mum) or tell her the truth (if your mum doesn't mind her knowing).
Better to be honest all round really though and let your sister know that she's caused the cancellation.
Can you all go out and just not tell your sister?

Springwalk · 22/03/2019 14:27

‘ mum is not up to having dinner this evening, I have cancelled the reservations. Take care and lots of love’

If you say your son is ill she will expect your mother still to go. Better to be honest.

GU24Mum · 22/03/2019 14:28

OP, haven't just found out that your OH has bought you and your mum a surprise spa treat instead for that day............?!?!

Fairenuff · 22/03/2019 14:29

Quite honestly, this sister is absolutely caustic and vicious

I'm struggling to see why you arranged to have lunch with her in the first place.

Original poster
crosser62 · 22/03/2019 14:30

My sister will unleash hell on my poor mum if she is confronted.
My mum just doesn’t want the hassle and to deal with it.

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crosser62 · 22/03/2019 14:33

It’s a fantasy I have that maybe it will be nice to get together this once a year as a family.
But no.
When we have gone out in previous years, we have sat as far away as possible, no contact.
Done.

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