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Social Services meeting my child without my concent

88 replies

NadeFC · 11/03/2019 22:51

Hi
Social Services had a meeting with my daughter and other parties at her school this week and I knew nothing about it.
Is this acceptable?
Thank you

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Sazquatch · 11/03/2019 22:54

Sometimes, yes. If it’s a CP issue it trumps your consent. Can you say what it was about?

Dermymc · 11/03/2019 22:55

If it's a CP issue then yes of course it's OK.

Depends entirely on the circumstances.

NadeFC · 11/03/2019 22:57

Hi..it's not a CP.. they got involved as my daughter attempted suicide 3 times in 6 months but they've not told me what they're involvement is..

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AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 11/03/2019 22:58

If SS couldn't speak to a child alone without the parents' consent, abusive parents would simply withhold consent, and the child would be left in harm's way for lack of evidence.

If it's anything related to what goes on at home, and keeping her safe, then yes it's very right.

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 11/03/2019 22:59

Cross Post.

Perhaps they're trying to ascertain why she has attempted suicide and if there are problems at home that are contributing to her mental health problems?

TheBigFatMermaid · 11/03/2019 23:02

Sorry, but I do think your DD attempting suicide three times within 6 months warrants a level of concern where they would expect to be able to see her without your consent.

Would you have given it?

m0therofdragons · 11/03/2019 23:02

Child is the priority. Why would any parent not consent to help for their suicidal child? Yes it's acceptable and sometimes essential.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 11/03/2019 23:08

Do you have PR? Does your daughter live with you or elsewhere?

Heratnumber7 · 11/03/2019 23:17

How old is your daughter?

NadeFC · 11/03/2019 23:29

My daughter was abused.it went to trial. He got off with it. 6 months later the suicide attempts started as a result of trauma associated with both the event and cross examination by the defence.
Yes suicide that frequently in such a short time span is of concern and I understand why SS would be involved.

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Yougotdis · 11/03/2019 23:30

I imagine after the amber peat tragedy they are just taking an active part in the welfare of your child. And repeated suicide attempts would come under cp

puppy23 · 11/03/2019 23:30

They just want what's best for your child and to keep her safe as, I hope, you do too

NadeFC · 11/03/2019 23:32

Yes absolutely

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NadeFC · 11/03/2019 23:34

She's 13..

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DoctorDread · 11/03/2019 23:35

I hope she's ok op. Sounds like she's been through something bad

NadeFC · 11/03/2019 23:39

That wasn't my question.
My question is should they be allowed to speak to a child without a parent present.

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mrsed1987 · 11/03/2019 23:42

Yes.

NadeFC · 11/03/2019 23:43

Thankfully she's starting EMDR therapy this Fri.. it's a therapy used to help trauma victims.. praying it helps my daughter

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NadeFC · 11/03/2019 23:44

Yes I have PR and she lives with me

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Desmondo2016 · 11/03/2019 23:47

They absolutely should be (and are) allowed to speak with a child without parental consent but this would normally occur where there was a suggestion the parent was not a protective factor, or worse, was an offender or abuser towards the child.

Basically, child protection trumps pretty much everything and often a child, especially an older one like your dd, will speak more freely if not accompanied by a parent.

steff13 · 11/03/2019 23:48

My question is should they be allowed to speak to a child without a parent present.

Without a doubt.

NadeFC · 11/03/2019 23:50

All..I wasn't asking for advice on if SS should be involved.. I understand that and I'm working with them.
Many here have misunderstood what I'm asking.
That is under either section 17 or 47 is a social worker legally allowed to meet my daughter without my consent..
It's a yes or no answer not an opinion.

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user1457017537 · 11/03/2019 23:55

Yes

NadeFC · 11/03/2019 23:55

Please can you tell me where it legally states that is section 17 and 47 of the Child Protection Act? Thank you

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steff13 · 11/03/2019 23:56

Yes. Because, this:

If SS couldn't speak to a child alone without the parents' consent, abusive parents would simply withhold consent, and the child would be left in harm's way for lack of evidence.