Dd 11 being mean to ds age 5, caught on camera

[Lardlizard]

So me and dh were doing some work in the garden only for 30 mins

We let the dc play on a games console
So they would keepnout of any trouble

Anyway we set up the iPad to record, the dog as we wanted to see what the dog was upto and if it followed the rules when we were outside

Anyway we realised when we scanned through it at one point dd started to have a go at him
Saying how she hates it when he tries to get her into trouble and she went on a rant at him and shouted sssssshhh

Then few mins later while playing minecraft

Calling him names, Keeno try hard
Sweat bag and something else
About eight times

What would you make of this ?

And she was the one calling him names and giving him a telling off

I tend to think this is ok from an older sibling. DS13 often gives DS8 a little nudge when he's being a bugger, and DS8 can aggravate the life out of him til DS13 loses it, shouts then gets himself into trouble. It's normal for siblings to bicker. It's less normal to video your DC and make such a large issue over their behaviour unless it's particularly awful.

Obviously in a perfect world you'd love your DC never to bicker or fall out. In a perfect world they'd never say anything unkind. Sadly it's not often possible and you have to accept that DC with 6 year age gaps aren't always going to get along (or even DC with any other age gaps). It's naive to imagine they'll continue enjoying doing crafts together as your DD hits her teen years; she'll likely begin to withdraw from you all and that's totally fine.

I to think you expected to much from her.

She would've been well within her rights to tell him to get stuffed and that she didn't want to bother with him for a while.

Perfectly normal for siblings to name call, especially if playing together. My kids are lovely to each other, until they get on Minecraft then it becomes "he stole my stuff" and "she pushed me into lava"

I have 2 brothers. The names we called each other you wouldn't believe. We never ever did it in front of our parents. We never told on each other for it. We adore each other but we've still not grown out of calling my each other a jackass and we're all well past our teens...