Booked a holiday forgetting about sister's wedding

[whatonearth99]

We haven't been away for 2 years, and a lovely relative has paid for us to take a family holiday abroad in summer as a present.

All booked and paid for. Except we forgot DH's sister had sent us a save the date. Wedding invitation has come, we have realised we're due to be away.

I can't go on the hen do for financial reasons so it will look really, really shit if we miss the wedding too.

To change the holiday will cost £600+ which we can't really afford but could stretch to if desperate. Would put big financial pressure on us though.

What makes it worse is that as far as DH's family is probably concerned, we are doing well financially although this isn't true and we don't have reason to tell them otherwise! DH wouldn't want to do this, especially.

WWYD?

Go to the wedding.

You need to go to the wedding.

If you were my SIL and did that I'd be really upset - poor organisation!

I would say you need to go to the wedding, too.

You need to go to the wedding.

Nobrainer!

The wedding trumps the holiday

I would pay the £600 to amend the holiday dates and go to the wedding and the holiday.

They sent you a save the date I would check any dates prior to booking. This is a family members wedding and should be more important than a holiday.

Yep, you go to the wedding. Unfortunate timing but definitely a close family wedding trumps casual holiday

Pay the £600n and go to the wedding. You bolloxed it up, time to fix it.

I'd have been absolutely devastated if one of my siblings hadn't come to my wedding.

I think you have to suck up cost

One of my siblings did not come to my wedding. To be brutally honest our relationship is never going to recover from that. You need to go to the wedding.

You can’t miss the wedding.

Of course you need to go to the wedding

Sorry

I'd absolutely change the holiday and go to the wedding. Consider it as having a family summer holiday for a bargain £600. Ok, it's not free as had been intended, but it's still very very cheap and you'll maintain a good relationship with your family.

Yup def wedding

I see my BIL once a year and have a very superficial relationship with him, but his feelings and that of my PIL are worth a heck of a lot more than £600 to me. You're not "just" missing the wedding, stuff like this has repercussions for decades.

You need to go to the wedding. You know you do.

Your husband's sibling's wedding? You'd be very unreasonable not to go. That's what Dave the dates are for

Of course you need to go to the wedding. They already gave you the date. This was your mistake.

No you didn't forget about the wedding. Poor form OP

Erm, yep you have to go to wedding.

Yup. Suck it and change that.

Wedding. Of course. It’s not a question.

A costly mistake on your part, unfortunately.

Of course you have to go to the wedding.

Wedding defo it's DH sis so an important family member not just a distant cousin etc