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Booked a holiday forgetting about sister's wedding

66 replies

whatonearth99 · 08/03/2019 20:54

We haven't been away for 2 years, and a lovely relative has paid for us to take a family holiday abroad in summer as a present.

All booked and paid for. Except we forgot DH's sister had sent us a save the date. Wedding invitation has come, we have realised we're due to be away.

I can't go on the hen do for financial reasons so it will look really, really shit if we miss the wedding too.

To change the holiday will cost £600+ which we can't really afford but could stretch to if desperate. Would put big financial pressure on us though.

What makes it worse is that as far as DH's family is probably concerned, we are doing well financially although this isn't true and we don't have reason to tell them otherwise! DH wouldn't want to do this, especially.

WWYD?

OP posts:
Namechangeforthiscancershit · 08/03/2019 21:29

Errr yes you need to go to the wedding! Sorry!

Redshoeblueshoe · 08/03/2019 21:30

Well just me then I'd go on the holiday Grin

babysharkah · 08/03/2019 21:32

You can't. It go to the wedding. Are they not close how did it not cross your mind?!?

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babysharkah · 08/03/2019 21:33

Can't not...

MrHaroldFry · 08/03/2019 21:34

Wedding.

IHateUncleJamie · 08/03/2019 21:35

Pay the fee, change the holiday, go to the wedding. Even if it costs £600 to change (I’d argue that, it’s a heck of an admin fee) you’re still getting a bargain holiday.

No brainer.

category12 · 08/03/2019 21:35

You screwed up, you need to pay the £600.

thedisorganisedmum · 08/03/2019 21:36

Even if you hadn't had the save--the-date, you should still go to the wedding. You would just keep it as cheap as possible and stick to a £20 gift.

In this case, you really cannot not go! Your poor SIL has done absolutely nothing wrong and gave you as much warning as possible and did a bit of planning.

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer · 08/03/2019 21:40

Go to the wedding.
If you can't afford to change the holiday then you just have to cut your losses.

SgtFredColon · 08/03/2019 21:40

I can’t imagine being told the date of my sister’s wedding and then forgetting it!

Valanice1989 · 08/03/2019 21:40

Sorry, OP, you have to go to the wedding.

RedHatsDoNotSuitMe · 08/03/2019 21:41

Ha ha ha!

I love your honest reaction, Redshoeblueshoe You're wrong, but I love your post.

Of course holidays are precious, but family comes first

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 08/03/2019 21:41

Wedding.

Can’t think you’d question it.

RemodellingMyHouse · 08/03/2019 21:42

Why is this even a question? You have to go to the wedding. She's your sister.

SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc · 08/03/2019 21:45

Who are you travelling with? It cost us £150 admin fee to change with First Choice.Seems v expensive

bigchris · 08/03/2019 21:45

Up to dh, its his sister

TheKitchenWitch · 08/03/2019 21:45

I’d suggest that if both you and your DH forgot his dsis’s wedding date then possibly you’re not at all close. What repercussions would there be if you didn’t go?

BrieAndChilli · 08/03/2019 21:53

You got a save the date, one of you must have read it. It says save 10th August for example. You put it away.
You go to book holiday. Days, weeks even months after receiving save the date.
Let’s book August......
Now most people would go ‘DSis wedding is in the summer. What date? Better check before booking holiday. Where’s the save the date......”

ChicCroissant · 08/03/2019 21:58

I find it very hard to believe that you would forget the date of a wedding like that, OP. I don't think you did - this sounds deliberate, and that is what your DH's family will think too.

Your family has paid for a holiday and you want to go. I don't think that's a good idea. You should go to the wedding.

Original poster
whatonearth99 · 08/03/2019 22:00

The holiday company we're travelling with charges £150 admin fee, plus the difference in price which is another £400 at the moment. We have already paid £600 towards the holiday to top up what the relative gave us so this will be another £600 on top.

They're from a (very, very) big family and she's a half sibling who is much younger. We see them once or twice a year but DH is obviously very fond of her. I like her very much too.

In terms of how we forgot, we're having a hard time with DC who has SEN. I've had to cut my hours at work to manage this, DH is out of the house 60+ hours a week working in a stressful job, and I think we just got so caught up in the excitement of booking a holiday that we just forgot all about the wedding.

I think it's unanimous that we need to suck it up and pay to change the holiday. Thanks for all opinions.

OP posts:
LLOE7 · 08/03/2019 23:18

You can reschedule the holiday.. you can't reschedule your sil's wedding. You definitely do need to 'suck it up' and change the holiday.

Redshoeblueshoe · 08/03/2019 23:22

Redhats my DH doesn't actually have a sister so for me it's purely hypothetical Grin
But if he did have a sister who was lovely I would actually go to the wedding

RedHatsDoNotSuitMe · 09/03/2019 00:02

Redshoe, given your username and mine, we were clearly meant to be together, so I don't want to argue with you. but that's not what your post said, just saying!

If we get married, shall we give our siblings a pass so they can go on holiday? (am I jumping ahead somewhat???)

Fishwifecalling · 09/03/2019 00:05

Another on team wedding.

SAK1976 · 09/03/2019 00:10

To be honest I would go on the holiday Grin

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