I have just resigned!

[homemadegin]

Just posting to tell someone really as DH does know but is at work. I have just emailed my work handing my notice in to partnership.

Back story I have finally been blessed with DD after many years of multiple miscarriages. I have a very demanding exhausting job as a solicitor. All male partners, I used to work 14 hours a day. Aside from the work load I was in court every day and then called out most nights. I asked to reduce profit share and go part time which I still had concerns about but that was out voted. They wanted me back on 1st April, DD would be five months old.

So I've thought about it a lot and for her sake and my mental health sake I have resigned. I actually feel relieved. The decision has been made. I have suggested some alternatives as a sort of admin role which they will also refuse. I have saving for about two years and various options I can now start to pursue.

Despite the relief though it's a huge thing, all these years working towards partnership and I'm done. Anyway new chapters and all that.

Anyone else doing anything exciting today?

Congratulations, I hope you can breathe a sigh of relief now and enjoy time with your baby. You'll have time to plan what your next career move will be when you're ready.

Well done for taking such a brave step, homemadegin, and congratulations on your DD exciting times ahead for you I’m sure. The most exciting thing I’ve done today is written a few chapters of my next book. just taking a quick mumsnet break before I get back to it .

Oh thank you both, I needed that today!!

Wow a book, that's exciting.

It's strange I just feel sort of free? I tried my best to find a compromise but they were really awful. DD is my priority now. I actually think other firms would give me what I'm looking for but I can't approach the, until I'm out of this one, it's their loss DH says.

Ooh a book JBF, that sounds interesting.

My excitement was paying in a PPI cheque. 🤑

Well done! 14 hours a day is ridiculous.

I want to do the same, I have a well paying soulless corporate job which I hate and now have to have counselling and medication just to deal with! I have savings want to resign and re-train in a design subject at college and try and turn my passion into my job, but am not quite brave enough to leave yet......

PPI cheque brilliant as well. Well done for pursuing, so many don't!!

Yes, their loss. It sounds a very old fashioned and misogynistic inflexible place to work. You'll do better.

I never thought I would be either @HolyForkingShirt . I've not even told my familyI just sent the email and then got twitchy so came on here.

Yes my mental health took a battering, particularly when I had my sixth miscarriage and was hauled in to deal with a partnership matter as " the hospital was near the office".

Well done! I'm sure you'll find a suitable option in the future - I know a couple of solicitors who have gone part-time after children (and had to move firms but still managed to find a sustainable work-load).

I've just ordered a horse-box!

Congratulations OP, sounds like you did the right thing.

I am waiting to hear about a job offer. I've been verbally offered the job I just need to find out what salary and package is on offer.

Congratulations OP! It will feel weird for a while but it sounds like you have done the right thing for you and your family
My excitement (!?) today is paying my vehicle tax, and ringing work as they are trying to enforce annual leave on me when I have so much work to do lol (waiting for a call back to see if they will let me go in tomorrow )
Well done you

Congratulations! I suffered infertility then many miscarriages before ds was miraculously born and gave up work.

He's 5 now and I don't regret it for a second. Even if we are always skint.

homemadegin sounds like they treated you awfully. You're better off out of there

Well done, enjoy your new life

Just got an email from one of them, the only one who backed me and who is a really good friend...it just says I could cry, well done. He has four girls after many struggles so I think he does understand.

Well you never know, it might inspire your mate to start looking for something else too. Good you had one person on your side though

If they would rather lose their only female partner than offer some flexibility then you’re better off out of there x

Am so so happy for you op, my babies are grown up and I'll never regret the years I spent at home with them, you literally never get the time back, now they are older they have their own busy lives and you don't spent as much time together so the younger years are a tiny bit of your life but so priceless

Well we have often spoken about going out just the two of us but have never been brave enough. Who knows what the future holds eh, though for now I just want baby cuddles.

Congratulations and well done for being so brave
With your skills there are loads of things you could do when you feel ready, hopefully flexibly around your family
I’ve been SE since I had dc ( luckily DH earns well) and I’ve aoways worked around the dc. I manage most School pick ups, nativity plays etc and although I could earn more and get a company car etc if I was employed I regret nothing. I’m very very lucky that I’ve been able to always be around if needed

Congratulations OP. Sounds like the right decision for you right now

(Some of the most unhappy people I know are/were lawyers.......)

Well done again and for being so brave, good luck with the motherhood and the future.

Congratulations! Was this criminal law? A friend of mine in a similar situation spent some time freelancing as a court clerk or taking duty solicitor shifts when it was convenient, it worked out fine.

Congratulations! They're so stupid to lose you when they could have kept you with some flexibility on their part.

Maybe there will be a time when you and your friend start up together - sounds like you share the same views.

Congratulations. Enjoy time with your baby and make the most delicious f every moment. As the other old saying goes The hours are long but the years are short.

I’ve just changed my hair colour from red, to a strawberry blonde as I’m at the opera tonight. (The Magic Flute) .