I have just resigned!

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Just posting to tell someone really as DH does know but is at work. I have just emailed my work handing my notice in to partnership.

Back story I have finally been blessed with DD after many years of multiple miscarriages. I have a very demanding exhausting job as a solicitor. All male partners, I used to work 14 hours a day. Aside from the work load I was in court every day and then called out most nights. I asked to reduce profit share and go part time which I still had concerns about but that was out voted. They wanted me back on 1st April, DD would be five months old.

So I've thought about it a lot and for her sake and my mental health sake I have resigned. I actually feel relieved. The decision has been made. I have suggested some alternatives as a sort of admin role which they will also refuse. I have saving for about two years and various options I can now start to pursue.

Despite the relief though it's a huge thing, all these years working towards partnership and I'm done. Anyway new chapters and all that.

Anyone else doing anything exciting today?

Oh Op this has made my day, Im grinning like a loon for you. It is a special thing to be a parent and we decided from day one that when we became parents we would put family before money. Turned out I had to as I became very seriously ill but well done to you for prioritising your family and not getting caught up in the rat race.

To give you something else to look forward to (without wishing time away)...babies smell beautiful but the smell of toddlers they have been on an outdoor play park or on a woodland walk is just magical. They smell like ozone, weather and snuggles and the sense of pride from watching your little people grow into their own is simply incomparable to anything else

Congratulations! On both your lovely daughter and your resignation! By the sounds of it, you won't regret it! Good luck for the future!

Congratulations! I recently quit my job, albeit on a much more friendly basis. It is quite freeing! Even if motherhood can be a bit of a drudge sometimes I think it's far easier to focus on the positives when you're not trying to balance a million other things too.

I think that you now feel free having made your decision known makes it the right decision for you.

Congratulations, it sounds like exactly the right decision. I loved being at home with my babies, with your skills you can take some time and find what suits you when you're ready.

Are they putting you on Gardening Leave? The firm I used to work at wanted 6 months notice from a partner, 12 months if you were Equity.

OP - I have just sent you a PM :-)

I've bathed the dog . . . .

Many congratulations OP - you will not regret it.

Congratulations

I walked away from my career 14 years ago, different circumstances but very stressful for other reasons. The day I left the office I felt the weight of unhappiness I had been carrying for so long just fall away.
I had some plans, some worked out, some didn't, but I was set on a whole new path which eventually led to my son.
I no longer have a 'career', just a job, but it gives me what I need financially. I am blessed with so many new friends and found what I'm really good at - just wish I'd found it 20 years sooner!
Enjoy your baby and good luck with whatever the future brings

We have an in house solicitor who works 3 days a week - these sorts of jobs fo exist.

It sounds like a horrible place to work OP! I didn’t return from mat leave after having my long awaited DD-I don’t regret it! You don’t get this time back

Firms of solicitors are notoriously hard nose; they don't give a sh1t about the staff. One firm made me redundant and just told me to clear my desk and go. It was a weight off my shoulders and I danced off down the street.
Congratulations on the baby. Life's going to be very different now, isn't it?

Congratulations! Well done. Heres to bigger and better things and lots of lovely snuggles

Well done OP!

Do you do Criminal Defence work OP? The happiest part of my working life, when i did that, were the years I worked freelance, just taking trials or the odd bit of police station work when I felt like it. Sometimes old clients came straight to me and I'd negotiate a good rate to place them with one of the firms I worked for. I'd suggest you do a little bit to keep your hand in so that your can return later if you want to. Being a partner is often rather over-rated.

It's their loss OP! Good for you!
My friends is a solicitor & finds the pressure to work like she's not a parent very hard.

The most exciting thing I have done today us had coronation rice in my salad box. It was vile.

My best friend has just handed in her resignation from one of the really big firms of solicitors up north after 27 years with the same firm.

She’s terrified but she knows it’s the right thing to do as her health isn’t the best and she needs to focus on herself now.

Congratulations OP!

The most exciting thing I have done today us had coronation rice in my salad box. It was vile.

I’ve just made this salad for my lunch:

ohsheglows.com/2015/07/21/chickpea-salad/

Much nicer than coronation rice, imvho!

Well done you! I jumped off the wheel of a solid, but soul-destroying, professional career to spend the rest of my working life doing something I actually enjoyed. I never regretted it for one moment. You now have the rest of your life in front of you - how exciting!

Congratulations, enjoy time with your baby girl! I did the same after my daughter was born, different field but high pressure job that invaded my thoughts 24/7. Although I loved my job and thrived on the pressure it just didn't work for me after my daughter was born.

Mega congrats OP!

I too walked out of a very high flying position 20 years. I also had suffered multiple miscarriages and finally had my precious dd who unfortunately developed SLD following a life threatening illness at 6 months old. 😥

My immediate director hated me he was an arse licking bastard and knew I was smarter than he was and I received no support at all so eventually DH had to give up teaching to care for DD and I became the breadwinner.

3 years later I had had enough of Director's constant harassment so walked out one Tuesday morning. I was terrified as to what would happen to us! We had enough to last around 6 months.

Delighted to advise I have now been early retired for 4 years. DH acquired a terrific lecturing job after I walked out and I started a small consultancy business from home which eventually did very well.

Best thing that ever happened to us! You have a fabulous future in front of you but just enjoy your time with your precious DD. Mine is now well in her 20's and the light of our life. 🥰🥰🥰

(Last I heard arsey ex Director is still struggling to make a living in a low paying job having been "Worked out" 2 years after I walked.)

Congratulations! I did a similar thing. Kids are only little once (and it flies by) and you can rejoin your career in the future. Enjoy the time with your little one

It sounds as though you are a criminal law solicitor. I was too (I practise employment law now). DH was too and has moved to another area of law. It was having young children that forced me to make the change. Even though I loved the work, moving away from it was definitely a smart move.