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Can I leave my newborn for like 2 minutes?

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Crazynewmum · 03/03/2019 06:46

DD is 3 days old today and I’m wondering if I’ve been stupid. I feel really guilty.

Me and DH are doing split shifts to look after DD. I’ve just gone into the kitchen to put a pie in for breakfast. She was in the room next to me asleep in her Moses basket. Our house is tiny so I’d hear even the smallest whimper so I literally just ran in to get the pie in/out.

Last night when DH was asleep and DD was in her Moses basket I also quickly ran upstairs to the loo to go for the worlds quickest wee as I didn’t want to wake DH either.

She’s been in her Moses basket, there’s nothing she can get tangled on and there’s no hazards in the room.

Is this ok or have I been irresponsible? I feel really guilty but I don’t know what other people do?

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C0untDucku1a · 03/03/2019 06:47

That’s fine.

Jellyfloodagain · 03/03/2019 06:49

Yes that is completely fine to do that.

Myfoolishboatisleaning · 03/03/2019 06:50

Don’t you sleep? Yes it is fine. They don’t really do much in the first few months except sleep.. enjoy it.

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Faster · 03/03/2019 06:51

Good god yes. Get in the shower and have five mins to yourself.
Also very interested in the pie for breakfast thing!

Jellyonawonkyplate · 03/03/2019 06:53

What kind of pie are you having for breakfast?!

HeyCarrieAnneWhatsYourGame · 03/03/2019 06:54

Yes of course, otherwise how would you sleep? You know that you’ve got to sleep, right? Go to bed!

Also, is this some kind of breakfast pie or, like, a steak and kidney? More info needed on the pie.

Handsoffmysweets · 03/03/2019 06:54

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SuperHeroMum · 03/03/2019 06:55

We did shifts for the first week too! It's ok to leave them for a bit as long as they are safe and you're in ear shot.

Jamhandprints · 03/03/2019 06:55

OP! It's fine to leave the room. You can even have a shower, go to the loo, get yourself some breakfast.
Please tell us you are not staying awake all night to guard the baby!
Relax.

HedgePlastic · 03/03/2019 06:56

Of course it's fine! You're doing a great job!

Silversky70 · 03/03/2019 06:56

Of course. We just used a monitor. They don't need to be watched constantly. Like you say, as long as they're safe and can't get into any trouble.

BigRedBoat · 03/03/2019 06:57

It's fine, you're allowed to go to the loo by yourself, go make a cup of tea etc, your baby will be fine.

StealthPolarBear · 03/03/2019 06:57

Oh op this brings it all back :) DH and I did nappy changes together for the first week or so. We went to a wedding when ds was ten days and suddenly I had to do one all by myself - it was such a shock!

Original poster
Crazynewmum · 03/03/2019 06:57

Thanks all!

I was just getting worried as I know it’s something DH wouldn’t do so I started questioning myself. Although she can go forever without going to the toilet. Plus I am being super PFB atm!

It was an apple pie. I’d been craving it all week Grin

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StealthPolarBear · 03/03/2019 06:57

Congratulations on your baby :o you sound like a lovely mum

2chrissy · 03/03/2019 06:58

Middle name for Meadow. I was thinking a more traditional name like Meadow Patricia or Meadow Elizabeth or Meadow Emma.

ICJump · 03/03/2019 06:58

Totally fine. I put mine in her chair and let her chill in there while I do other things like go to the toilet or make a cuppa

Faster · 03/03/2019 06:59

Ah OP you sound properly lovely.
Enjoy the pie and the guilt free wee’d from now on.

Curiousmum69 · 03/03/2019 07:00

If the baby is asleep and safe in a basket and you're not leaving the house then it's 100% fine to leave them...5,10, even 30+ minutes to shower nap etc.

2chrissy · 03/03/2019 07:00

Sorry added by mistake!

Chocolateheaven123 · 03/03/2019 07:01

Absolutely fine Smile and pee if you need to pee!

I said to my brother yesterday who's about to become a first-time dad: enjoy the early baby days before they become mobile as at least when you put them down somewhere, they'll still be in the same place when you get back Grin

Totally different ball game when they crawl and walk!

LettuceP · 03/03/2019 07:02

As long as you are in the same house as the baby (and are spending the majority of the time in the same room as them) then it's absolutely fine. You can go to the loo, get a shower, put some washing on, make a cup of tea, cook etc. Please tell me your not staying awake with the baby in shifts?

ApolloandDaphne · 03/03/2019 07:04

If you don't leave them at all how do you cook, clean, shower, sleep etc? When mine were asleep I used to do all the above.

ShowOfHands · 03/03/2019 07:05

DH was back at work when DS was 4 days old and I had a 4yo dd too. He worked 12hr shifts. DS was a velcro baby so lived in a sling but of course there were times when DS had to be put down so I could cook, clean, bath, look after the 4yo etc.

Curiousmum69 · 03/03/2019 07:08

Actually even if they are awake and crying...if you need the bathroom its fine to put them down somewhere safe and go to the bathroom. You c Ant look after someone else if your basic needs aren't being met.