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Not trying to be goady...

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Octofraughts · 27/02/2019 17:18

I have a school Mum friend. SAHM - 3 children all at school and wealthy family. I am genuinely slightly intrigued as to what she does all day? She said to me that her doctor had recommended she swim 2 or 3 times a week but went on to engage me in a conversation that was like "You know what it's like don't you, I just couldn't believe he could suggest that, AS IF I have time for that!" - But I was stood with her thinking "well, I manage to work 5 hours x 4 days a week, do all the necessary stuff (shopping, petrol and a few chores) and have enough time to fit in 2 x 20 minute walks". I just nodded and looked sympathetic. Am I missing something?! She volunteers one morning a week but that's it. What is she doing for the rest of the time?!? puts on flame proof jacket

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Stinkytoe · 27/02/2019 17:18

Not trying to be goofy? Really OP?!

HarrySnotter · 27/02/2019 17:19

Other stuff that you don't know about? 😂

continuallychargingmyphone · 27/02/2019 17:19

You want something doing, ask a busy person.

I don’t believe the ‘As If’ stuff though.

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SartBimpson · 27/02/2019 17:20

Why don't you ask her?

drquin · 27/02/2019 17:22

Why do you only manage 2x20 minute walks when you "only" work 20 hours a week? What do you do the other half of the working week?

That's rhetorical obviously..... because we each spend our time differently. She undoubtedly could fit in the swims & more, but at the expense of something else ..... even if the something else is 45 minutes watching Homes Under The Hammer 🤔

LooseSeal2 · 27/02/2019 17:23

I’m a sahm, when I only had dc in school I had 5 hours a day free. Somehow I managed to fill it with sorting the many pets & housework. Now I have a toddler too and I’m wondering how the hell I didn’t get more done.

Although I had a nap (necessary) almost every day so that helped.

wherehavealltheflowersgone · 27/02/2019 17:25

The less you do, the less you can do..

twattymctwatterson · 27/02/2019 17:27

Oh well done op, you manage to walk for twenty minutes twice a week when you work all of those hours. You're incredible.

LadyRochfordsSpangledGusset · 27/02/2019 17:33

She could be a prolific reader ? Take naps? Be learning a foreign language- maybe all of the above who knows?

PCohle · 27/02/2019 17:43

The point is that you don't know what she's doing the rest of the time. So preemptively judging her is a bit shitty.

You sound jealous.

FuerzaAreaUruguay · 27/02/2019 17:45

Ask her then instead of starting goady threads to slag her off on the internet.

sonlypuppyfat · 27/02/2019 17:47

I don't work my kids are all at school my days are very busy

Holidayshopping · 27/02/2019 17:52

If it bothered you that much, you should have asked her what she did with all her time!

Jaxtellerswife · 27/02/2019 17:53

She may be busy doing nothing. It's still her time.

SoupDragon · 27/02/2019 17:54

What is she doing for the rest of the time?

Whatever the fuck she wants I imagine.

How is this anything other than goady?

Dothehappydance · 27/02/2019 18:10

If she takes as long as my DH to do anything then probably not a lot, but still claims to not possibly be able to do anything else.

WorraLiberty · 27/02/2019 18:14

Are you just as 'genuinely intrigued' at what retired people do all day too?

Or what part-time workers do with their time at home?

Weird thing to wonder about really, to the extent that you've started a thread on the internet about it.

Sparklingbrook · 27/02/2019 18:19

She could be doing anything. Open University course or something.

Why was the Doctor recommending swimming? Does she have health issues?

millythepink · 27/02/2019 18:24

I always find that if you have all day to do something then it usually takes all day to do it. Or sometimes people are just incredibly s l o w. My SIL takes over 20 minutes to iron one shirt, watching her do it is excruciating.

WorraLiberty · 27/02/2019 18:30

My guess is that she sits at home twiddling her nipples, occasionally covering them in peanut butter.

During the darker evenings, she'll be turning them into shadow puppets.

Amibeingnaive · 27/02/2019 18:35

Quite possibly nothing, if, like me, she could turn dicking about into an Olympic sport.

I find it terrifyingly easy to waste entire days doing precisely fuck all.

winsinbin · 27/02/2019 18:41

There is nothing more boring than listening to someone bang on about how busy they are whether it’s true or not. That’s true whether it’s you working 20 hours a week or your friend only volunteering one morning a week. The truth is we all make time for what is important to,us no matter how worthy or futile it might seem to others.

Personally I am in awe of a friend my age (late 50s) who works full time, is the sole breadwinner for her family, cares for her disabled husband and adult DS and still finds time to walk the dogs and swims several miles a week. Now she IS busy.

southnownorth · 27/02/2019 18:45

Well goady OP, I don't work with high school aged children and she might be like be and have not really left the sofa all day.

I might go the shops tomorrow if I can be bothered.

PickAChew · 27/02/2019 18:45

I have both boys out of the house for over 7 hours, most days. I spend most of that time pretending to be a butterfly. I occasionally keep boredom at bay by crawling around like a caterpillar, instead.

It's very freeing. You should try it, OP.

Gottalovesummer · 27/02/2019 18:48

I think your free time expands so you just fill it. So she keeps busy when the kids are at school and genuinely (feels like she) doesn't have the spare time to exercise.

However, when you work outside the home, and have less time to fit in all the housey stuff and exercise etc, you just become more accustomed to getting it done somehow!

I work 40 hours a week and have had many many similar conversations with SAHM's who fill their days with laundry and cooking the evening meal, for example.

Whereas I work a full day and still do all that cos I have to find the time somehow!

But if I was at home all day not working then I'd probably take longer to get stuff done.