Not trying to be goady...

[Octofraughts]

I have a school Mum friend. SAHM - 3 children all at school and wealthy family. I am genuinely slightly intrigued as to what she does all day? She said to me that her doctor had recommended she swim 2 or 3 times a week but went on to engage me in a conversation that was like "You know what it's like don't you, I just couldn't believe he could suggest that, AS IF I have time for that!" - But I was stood with her thinking "well, I manage to work 5 hours x 4 days a week, do all the necessary stuff (shopping, petrol and a few chores) and have enough time to fit in 2 x 20 minute walks". I just nodded and looked sympathetic. Am I missing something?! She volunteers one morning a week but that's it. What is she doing for the rest of the time?!? puts on flame proof jacket

She probably has to do 5 people's washing, plus bedding, towels etc, has a large home and garden to maintain, food shopping and meal planning, is almost certainly responsible for all 'life admin' like car maintenance, arranging tradespeople etc. She may have elderly relatives to look in on.

The bottom line is, you have no idea, so quite why you'd think a load of strangers on the internet could enlighten you, I can't fathom. She may have a lot of commitments or she may do next to fuck all. Whatever the case, it doesn't actually affect you, does it?

I hate these disingenuous 'just wondering' threads. You've already drawn your own conclusion - she's a spoilt layabout who squanders her days - you're just looking for an echo chamber to validate your unsubstantiated assumption.

If you're really so devoid of imagination that you can't possibly conceive of how she might fill her days, then I suggest you ask her, because she's the only person who can tell you.

Actually despite my slightly sarcastic earlier reply, I do actually wonder at times what my dh actually does do, he claims to be very busy but it never seems that way. I work full time with a commute, yet still seem to have to do an awful lot.

It should not be split 50:50 and though this is unpopular opinion he should be doing significantly more than me. So from being on the other side I think he gets a pretty good deal on the most part, whilst claiming to be far too busy to do much at all.

(Please do not start with the suggestions of our work set up)

Is anyone else intrigued by the need to do petrol?

Are you making petrol?

You manage two short walks a week. Hilarious, even if unintentionally so.

@Babdoc Yes, it's a biscuit. A no comment biscuit, but tit works too lol!

She probably has to do 5 people's washing, plus bedding, towels etc, has a large home and garden to maintain, food shopping and meal planning, is almost certainly responsible for all 'life admin' like car maintenance, arranging tradespeople etc.

I do a significant amount of that (though my house isn't that large) Washing is probably 50:50, and he does change the beds, but I do towels, food shopping - I do the online shop and he takes it in (when I am at work), he will get bits in the week, but I often do a top up shop on the way home from work, I do the majority of life admin - he does the bins, mows the lawn and cleans the cars - I do the borders in the garden, which are of a significant size and lots of shrubs (we bought the house last year)

Maybe it is our set up that is the difference (woman as the earner, man as the sahp) but I wouldn't presume that she is necessarily doing lots on the house during the day.

And for all you know the lady is ill and is actually sleeping a lot or something.

The OP is clearly far to busy to come back to the thread.

Youngest DC is twelve, I don't work, DH does all the cooking, washing up and I have a lovely lady that does all my ironing. Today I had coffee in town with a friend then met my sister who had taken my two school age children out for the day. Don't you wish you were me you goady fuck! I'm also dying, would you like that too?