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If a friend said she'd terminate a DS pregnancy and you disagreed, would you end the friendship?

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Asdfghh · 16/02/2019 13:01

If a friend said she'd terminate a DS pregnancy and you disagreed, would you end the friendship?

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ILoveMaxiBondi · 16/02/2019 13:03

No. Because I’m an adult and can cope with having different opinions than my friends.

HaventGotAllDay · 16/02/2019 13:04

Of course not.
In the same way my friends who wouldn't terminate didn't end our friendship when I said I would.

SauvignonMum · 16/02/2019 13:04

No, I respect everyone's opinions.

Although, it would depend on how sensitive the person is being, e.g. If I myself had a DS child.

whereiscaroline · 16/02/2019 13:04

You mean, your friend will terminate if she's having a boy but not if she's having a girl?

GemmeFatale · 16/02/2019 13:05

What’s a DS pregnancy?

whereiscaroline · 16/02/2019 13:05

Oh god you mean Downs Syndrome, sorry! Blush

UrbanDecay · 16/02/2019 13:05

I wouldn't end a friendship if a friend had a termination for any reason!

CuriousMama · 16/02/2019 13:06

Down syndrome I presume?

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 16/02/2019 13:07

Her decision, she's the one who has to live the life, either with or without that child

ClashCityRocker · 16/02/2019 13:07

No, I wouldn't end the friendship. It's her right to say 'I cannot or do not wish to deal with this.'

I'm assuming you're talking about a hypothetical situation rather than an actual one. It's one of them where no one knows what they would do should the situation arise, and if the situation does arise, I doubt its a decision that is straightforward or easy.

ConfCall · 16/02/2019 13:07

Of course not.

elQuintoConyo · 16/02/2019 13:08

No, I wouldn't.

Meandmetoo · 16/02/2019 13:08

Of course not.

I wouldn't disagree though so am probably biased.

BigMamaFratelli · 16/02/2019 13:08

No.

LuggsaysNotaWomen · 16/02/2019 13:08

No because that particular decision is nothing to do with me. What I think I could cope with in my life has no bearing on what other people can cope with in theirs.

Bobbiepin · 16/02/2019 13:08

Depends. If she said hypothetically that she couldn't continue with a ds pregnancy then no I wouldn't break off the friendship.

If you had a DS child and she asked why you didn't terminate/told you that you should have then I would step back.

AldiProsecco · 16/02/2019 13:08

No! fgs. No. One of my best friends has a child with DS but if you're pro choice you're pro choice.

adelias · 16/02/2019 13:09

If you mean Down's syndrome then I wouldn't judge them at all.

AJPTaylor · 16/02/2019 13:09

No i wouldn't. But then I am pro choice.i guess if I had a child with a disability and she was being a goady fucker I might feel differently.

twoheaped · 16/02/2019 13:09

Absolutely not. No.

Bluestitch · 16/02/2019 13:09

No, because what decisions someone else would make about any pregnancy is none of my business.

ALittleBitofVitriol · 16/02/2019 13:10

No. I supported my friend, because even though I had personal moral objections which made it a difficult situation, it was 1000% times more difficult for her

ElloBrian · 16/02/2019 13:10

No because that is what the right to choose means - it means the right to disagree with the decisions that other people make.

whiteroseredrose · 16/02/2019 13:10

No. There are long term implications to having a DC with Downs. I couldn't judge someone for that.

Unutterable · 16/02/2019 13:13

I have a sibling with Downs and advocate strongly for their rights and inclusion - and no I would never judge. I believe in a woman’s right to choose, no ifs no buts.

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