My partner earns a good salary of £60k a year, when I was working full time I was on £17k a year but will be on SMP for my maternity and then only on £7k per year working part time. He is very fair in that he does pay our rent and for all food shopping, if we go out and do anything he pays etc. I am unfortunately in a lot of debt (about £10k) and have been on a debt management plan for a while now. He's always said he doesn't mind covering the cost of living but he isn't happy to pay my debt off when he has some minor debts of his own and is saving for a house deposit, entirely fair and I have no problem with this. I just feel that we notice a difference in the lifestyles we both lead due to this, if he wants something he buys it, if he wants to go somewhere he goes etc whereas I spend a lot of my time in the house as I can't afford to do much and haven't bought any new shoes or clothes in a long time. I earn enough money to cover my DMP, some fuel and other basics like my insurance, road tax, phone contract etc. I've tried to have a discussion about how we will work money when the baby's here, as I am a taking year to do the childcare (he also wanted this) I will be on massively reduced income, and this will all be allocated between DMP and my personal bills, I just sort of said that I know we don't want a joint account whilst I'm on DMP as it could negatively affect him, are we going to arrange a set amount to be transferred on a weekly basis or something like that. He just said no, he'll continue to cover the living costs and anything for the baby he will pay for - again this seems very fair and considerate but I'm just a bit concerned about myself, I know I'm not the priority and he's worked hard for his salary, I'm not asking for unlimited access to his money, I wouldn't treat it like that anyway.. it would just be nice if I need something, like a new pair of boots or jeans, to just be able to buy them, and things like that he doesn't like paying for as he is already supporting me living. When I work full time again this won't be a problem but I've been part time for a little while now and it's just so evident how different we live due to this, I had to get a new tire this month which left me with £80 spare to last a full month, we've moved a couple of hours away from where I'm from and where my family and friends are and I've not been able to go see anyone as I can't afford the fuel.. it's just little things that bother me like how I'm struggling through with £23 to my name right now and he sends me to pull money out on his card and it says his balance is over £4K just sitting there, and he's 4 days away from payday. I don't want to come across like I feel entitled, but we are due to be married and have a family this year and I just don't like feeling like I'm in poverty and he's pretty well off. I try to talk about what we will do with our finances when we're married but he gets a bit defensive and doesn't want to talk about it and just says he hates talking about money, id normally take this as a huge warning sign but he is generous in many ways so I feel I can't put too much thought into it. I always imagined when married both our money would be the families money and we live out of that, obviously I'd be well aware how much of this is his and not just spend frivolously, I'm not entirely sure what I'm posting for just someone's elses perspective on this situation and how I could handle it. Thank you