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Child damages others property

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ChangedMyName4This1 · 11/02/2019 17:07

Unsure what I think about this one would appreciate A child damaged another child’s school dress by way of a small cut with scissors. Should the parent replace the dress or should the school have had better supervision?

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WorraLiberty · 11/02/2019 17:08

Really depends on age of kids

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ChangedMyName4This1 · 11/02/2019 17:08

Sorry age four in reception.

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3boysandabump · 11/02/2019 17:11

My son once damaged a child's jumper whilst playing tug of war with the other child. I gave the teacher half of the money for the jumper but it was returned to me as the other parent felt her child was responsible.

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RoseMartha · 11/02/2019 17:14

I think you will get mixed responses. My dc broke a boys glasses. I offered to pay, they declined as had insurance.

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ChangedMyName4This1 · 11/02/2019 17:14

It was my child who damaged the dress albeit accidentally. No question of it being the other child’s fault.

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chipsandcurrysaucemonster · 11/02/2019 17:16

I know they're only 4, but how was the dress cut by accident?

DelurkingAJ · 11/02/2019 17:16

I would but I’m very aware that we have more disposable income than a lot of DS1’s classmates so for me it wouldn’t be a big deal at all (other than having to explain to DS1 that I was unimpressed) whereas for some of them it would be.

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ChangedMyName4This1 · 11/02/2019 17:17

chips I have no idea neither my dd nor the other child nor the teacher have offered an explanation. My dd has asd so her speech is very poor.

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Pinkyyy · 11/02/2019 17:18

What is the scenario? Has the parent asked you to pay or are you wondering whether or not to offer?

Drum2018 · 11/02/2019 17:19

Can it not simply be sewn together if it was a small cut? Are the child's parents looking for money to replace the dress?

TortoiseLettuce · 11/02/2019 17:20

I don’t see how a dress can be cut by accident? If speech is so poor then how do you know it was an accident?

Herja · 11/02/2019 17:20

I'd sew it back together without a second thought. This very firmly comes under 'shit happens' for me. If it was my child that did it and the other parent wanted paying, I would do so rather than blame the school. I'd be a bit irritated that they didn't also just sew it back up though.

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ChangedMyName4This1 · 11/02/2019 17:21

Delurking that’s a good point , I don’t know the other parents well enough yet to know if it could be an issue for them to replace.
I will replace it , never any question really. I just do t know if I should discuss will the school my annoyance at the situation. I thought scissors in reception would be pretty blunt.

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WilsonandNoodles · 11/02/2019 17:21

How did they manage to cut the dress accidentally? Yes ideally supervision would have been closer to prevent it happening in the first place but if it is clear your child has taken a pair of scissors to another's dress (without encouragement from dress wearer) then I think you should probably offer to pay. Hopefully the parents won't accept and understand that 4 year olds do strange things but at least you will have offered.

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ChangedMyName4This1 · 11/02/2019 17:22

The parents rang up and requested a new dress,

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ChangedMyName4This1 · 11/02/2019 17:25

Wilson I don’t know how it happened which is why I am annoyed at lack of supervision.

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TortoiseLettuce · 11/02/2019 17:25

So who had told you it was an accident?

WilsonandNoodles · 11/02/2019 17:26

If the teacher hasn't given any explanation and your daughter hasn't been able to are you sure she actually did it?

CherryPavlova · 11/02/2019 17:28

I’d say these things happen with little children. Clothes worn to nursery get damaged sometimes. It’s not a lack of supervision, it’s just one of those things. It’s the price of learning.
Are they sure it was your daughter? How do you know if the teacher doesn’t? Could child have done it themself?

Smoggle · 11/02/2019 17:28

Be realistic - there are up to 30 kids in a Reception class and a couple of adults. It is not physically possible to supervise every child constantly!

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ChangedMyName4This1 · 11/02/2019 17:30

The school rang and said X and my dd were taking part in a craft activity yesterday and x dress was cut by your dd. X dad has rang up and wants the dress replaced. I said I was sorry and that I doubted my dd would cut her dress on deliberately, to be told no it was an accident but dad wants it replacing due to hole.
That’s all the info I was given

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ChangedMyName4This1 · 11/02/2019 17:31

Smoggle there was only five children with scissors .

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PrismGuile · 11/02/2019 17:31

No I wouldn't say that it's the fault of a 4yo with ASD.... I'd offer an apology but wouldn't offer to pay.

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ChangedMyName4This1 · 11/02/2019 17:31

And 18 children with two staff members.

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ChariotsofFish · 11/02/2019 17:32

I’d offer to pay if I was you, but I’d also think the parents were super arsey calling the school for a small cut on a four year-old’s dress.

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