Child damages others property

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Unsure what I think about this one would appreciate A child damaged another child’s school dress by way of a small cut with scissors. Should the parent replace the dress or should the school have had better supervision?

Can you offer to sew it? Unless it's a huge hole it's wasteful to get a whole new dress

School scissors have round ends but can cut paper, cardboard and fabric. Children have to be trusted to use them correctly, no way can an adult watch just one child using scissors during free play just incase they cut something they shouldn't. And if we are talking about cutting through a winter pinafore dress I can't see that being an accident. I'd pay up.

Cherry I am pretty sure it was my daughter, she grunted and cried when I asked her because she thought was in trouble.

To clarify she can talk but is selectively mute.

So how are two adults supposed to watch 18 children constantly? I only have 3 children and can't watch all of them all the time.

My daughter had the end of her plait cut off by another child when in Reception. It was the sharpness of the scissors that concerned me, don't underestimate how sharp those 'kiddie' scissors can be!
Sad fact that teacher can't possibly see all 30 at once every second of the day, especially if they are working in a group and the rest are in continuous provision.

I’d pursue it further and ask the teacher how it happened. It sounds like maybe your DD has cut a piece of craft material and inadvertently cut through the girl’s dress as well. But I’m puzzled why your DD was cutting something on top of the girl’s dress to begin with?

I could easily sew it , I am just worried about upsetting dad and the knock on affect at School gate parties etc. I am new to the area and it’s a very small rural school where everybody seems to know each other .

I think I'd be phoning again. If a teacher actually saw the dress getting cut then fair enough, pay up and say sorry. I presume they did if they say it was an accident but at least a bit of further explanation might make you feel a bit better about the situation. If they didn't I'd be questioning how they know it was her and why are the group using sharp scissors not the ones sat with a teacher/ta.

But I’m puzzled why your DD was cutting something on top of the girl’s dress to begin with?
Me to I should have asked the teacher for more info but I was mortified about the situation and taken by surprise.

If you do pay up, get the damaged dress and use it for a spare.

I think I will phone tomorrow Wilson.

Yes I would always offer to pay if my child damaged another's property, intentionally or accidentally.

Conversely, unless it was expensive and malicious i would refuse the offer of money if it was made to me.

However this father is not me, and he's not going to decline. So sadly she cut thr dress of a child whose father is a wanker. I'd offer to pay.

As for supervision, these round edged scissors can cut fabric, and it's very easy for a child to do something like this very quickly before someone can stop them.

Call the school, the dad sounds like a bully!
It’s reception and accidents happen.
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My dd did exactly this to her own school dress at this age. I mended it with a tiny piece of iron on mending tape in the same colour and the mend was invisible, neater than sewing. Could you get the dress and do this for your dd to wear if the father insists on replacement?
Things happen to school clothes as children experiment, just an irritation. No way would I ask for replacement.

I'd either offer to sew up the hole, if you can sew, etc, or just do the right thing and buy a new dress. Your kid cut it - you need to make amends.

I wouldn't even expect the school to be phoning me up about this. I most definitely would not be paying.

Thanks budget and purple , I will ask for the dress , good idea for a spare MsChook and just use it for my dd. Hopefully this will be last time she experiments!

budgetneeded yes, the thinner strip wound on a card half way down the page was what I used. Lasted tillvthe dress was outgrown

Well I'd probably not even notice a tiny cut and definitely wouldn't expect a replacement, bit unfortunately not everyone is reasonable. I could imagine my dd doing something like this, she actually cut through my till roll today, and is the type for picking at things she shouldn't be picking at - she knows it's wrong but something in her nature makes her do silly things, so they're not accidents but they're not entirely intentional either...these things can and do happen, particularly with young, inquisitive children learning from their mistakes!

Of course you should pay!? Your child destroyed property... I can't fathom how people are suggesting these things 'just happen'. This was cut with scissors...

Can you try and catch him in the playground?
It may be that he holds the school responsible and is expecting them to replace it, but they are passing the responsibility to you.

If it was me, I would offer to replace the dress anyway without really thinking they would accept if it's just a little cut

As a teacher I find it strange...where exactly was the cut? Usually when dresses/pants/tights get cut it’s on the lap area when they have been holding the paper on their lap. I hate to assume but if no one saw it happen how do they know the other girl is not blaming your DD because she is the easy target??it happens!

How did the dad get your phone number? Sorry if I've missed it.

I would pay out of goodwill personally, although I'd miffed it was just a tiny nick. Could you offer to swap it for one of your DD's dresses and then fix it to save buying another one?