Child damages others property

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Unsure what I think about this one would appreciate A child damaged another child’s school dress by way of a small cut with scissors. Should the parent replace the dress or should the school have had better supervision?

How much will a replacement dress cost? Is it a school uniform dress

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I'd be watching out for more claims in future since others could easily copy - just say the autistic kid did it as she can't defend herself. Speaking from experience, the bullying starts early if you're different. I'd be especially suspicious if it's an expensive designer dress that he won't let you see either.

Regardless, I think it's an arsey thing to do to a new mum in the neighbourhood - demanding payment after one small incident, rather than trying to fix it. They grow out of those clothes so fast anyway.

I wonder if the mum knows?

How did the dad get your phone number? Sorry if I've missed it.
He phoned the school , then the school phoned me.

Girlking- yes a uniform with a logo cost £12.

I would pay for a replacement but ask for the dress and mend it for your dd. Unless it will leave you very short £12 probably isn't worth any animosity/school gate nonsense you're worried about.

I'd pay for a new dress and ask for the one it's replacing. Worth £12 to keep the peace especially as you're a newby.

I bet u never see the dress again, well if u hand money over first. He sounds like a right arsehole.

Hand over the money when they have the dress to show u and then u can take it away with u.

Ask for the dress with the hole "so that you can replace it with the correct new one"
Be clear that you are happy to replace dress, but not just going to hand over money, and you'll use the dress with a hole as a spare for dd.

I wonder if they will then drop it.

As the parent of the dress with a hole, it would never occur to me that it was anything other than an accident, especially as teacher said it was accidental (may feel differently if it was done on purpose)
But unfortunately as the parent of the one holding the scissors, I think you have no choice but to replace it.

Good luck sorting it.
Reception children, scissors, accidents can happen. And it sounds easily repairable.

My child's hood was badly ripped (5 inches long, through all 3 layers) by another child in the class (year 4, so 8-9) The damage was accidental, the tug on the hood was not, and is something they have been told not to do. I don't think the other responsible child's parents were told and my child certainly never got a proper apology. Thank goodness I know a brilliant person with a sewing machine, as I would never have managed it by hand.

I agree that it would be best to purchase a new one in return for being the given one to have as your own spare.

I suspect your DD actually did cut the dress with intention but not at all maliciously, probably found the snipping with sharp scissors too irresistible 🙈

I also wonder that the other DC has gone home and said... perhaps not quite the truth?

Why can’t it be sewed up?

I’d probably offer to pay and if I was the other parent I wouldn’t accept. The kids are 4!

I say this as someone who lives in small town where everyone knows everything about everyone & remember forever:

Good plan to pay for dress but get to keep "damaged" one to repair & have as spare. Be glad it will only cost £12. Exchange money direct for damaged dress. Be wary of the dad in future, because I sure wouldn't bother you with this problem (if my kid were the one with damaged dress) if it is as minor as it sounds.

DSs logo jumper was cut by his friend in yr 1 or 2, I forget. Old enough to know better anyway. I was annoyed at DS for allowing it as he can be quite passive at times. It didn't occur to me to complain!

Children do silly things.

DS wore the jumper until he grew out of it. Unless the dress is unwearable I think the dad is being ridiculous.

I cut my friend's hair in class at a similar age. Was told off. No parents involved