Are you happy?

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Just wondering. How old are you? How many DCs? Do you work? Is it fulfilling?

1 (15)

Yes.

Sometimes.

Mostly incredibly happy. Have a bit of an iffy tummy at the minute though which is a bummer. (Pun intended).

33

1

No

Feel absolutely lost. Can't work atm as am waiting on a diagnosis for, well, I've no idea what. I hurt all day every day, I sleep for 12+ hours and I'm still exhausted and I'm terrified there's something really wrong. So no, not happy just now

TheLightSideofTheMoon - snap! I’m 37. Although currently utterly miserable. Have two DCs 7 and 5, work full time in a job I can’t stand and feel like my last chance for happiness is quicksand-ing away as fast as I feel like I’m ageing. So there’s a nice positive bit of info for you! 😂

Justinedayatatime - have you been checked for diabetes? I have T1 and exhaustion despite sleeping 12 hours at a time was one of my symptoms.

PS lightside - hope your tummy improves quickly.

31. No DC. Work in a senior management role in finance / strategy.

Would describe myself as very happy 95% of the time. I’m not a worrier and never have been. Nog terribly invested in external opinions of me, which helps. Everybody who knows me would describe me as chill as fuck. But I do still fall into the slough of despond every so often - usually over interpersonal relationships.

Yes in general. I have a happy marriage, lovely family and friends, nice house and no money worries. My health and that of my loved ones is generally ok (thankfully at present) and my DS is a happy child who is doing relatively well at school.
I do suffer from anxiety which stems around work but it’s mostly manageable. I have had help and talking therapy with this.
How old are you? 41
How many DCs? One and done. He’s 6.
Do you work? I work 3 days as a dentist.
Is it fulfilling? Yes it’s very interesting. Never boring, no two days the same. Well paid, rewarding in general. I had a thank you card and flowers this week that just said “thank you for getting me out of pain and being so kind”. Means a lot. I have loyal patients who like me.
It can be stressful and as I say I do worry a lot about it these days so wouldn’t recommend it as a career any more unless you have a very happy go lucky personality type.

I'm 25 two kids mostly happy id say but it's taken a long way to get here, I am natuarlly a worrier however I'm getting help and self help to control this. I do okay but would like to be more happier

39. 3 kids. Full time, stressful job. No, I’m not happy. I’m ill and tired and stressed and depressed. And unhappy.

35. No DC (and no plans to have any).

Part time job at a charity, part time run my own business. Don't find either particularly fulfilling currently and feel quite stuck; I was a lot more ambitious in my teens/twenties and now I just want an easy life. I'm also not happy living in London any more and keep looking at houses for sale up north...

I'm about 60/40% happy and not happy overall.

35

DC 8months

I work 4 mornings a week at the moment. I do find it fulfilling most of the time (though yes there are days I think what the hell am I doing wth my life?!)

I'm happy. I don't know what the future brings but there is much to look forward to I think.

Yes I am.

42

1 (11)

Yes, part time

Yes, for me. I enjoy my job and the hours I do.

34, 2 DC, yes I work and I love my job!!

39
2 (11 and 7)
Full time carer for DS so can't work at the moment.
I am determined to be happy at least some if the time despite things not going according to plan at all right now!

57
2 grown up children, both independent
I work part time in a very interesting job
I am happy most of the time - really ought to be ALL the time but suffer from SAD so that knocks me back somewhat.

48

1 x 17 yr old. Would've liked two, but it didn't happen.

Absolutely love my job. Had a rotten day today, but this is very unusual for me. My work's generally interesting and varied and also term-time only, so lots of lovely holidays (mostly just at home, but lovely to get time off).

Generally happy, yes. I'm quite a glass-half-full person. I don't really want to keep getting old (although, that's preferable to the alternative!). Don't earn or have very much money, which can be a bit stressy sometimes. I have nice people in my life who I like a lot. I do things I enjoy most of the time.

Sometimes I get sad/down about stuff, but not generally for too long.

This all makes me sound quite Pollyanna-ish. In RL I'm actually very acerbic.

Pretty happy!
33, 3dc, yes I work in a job I find very fulfilling.

Pretty happy.

Age 56. 2 DD's both adults and not living at home. One lovely dog.

Took early retirement (social worker, was super stressed) almost 3 years ago. Only wish DH would hurry up and scale back a bit at his work then i would be very happy.

35. 3 kids under 6. I am now in a place where I can be happy, and am most days. As in, a peaceful contentedness.

And no I don't work.

Well done dimsumlosesum, to be in a state of peaceful contendedness with 3 under 6 can't be easy

50

3stepchildren

Much happier than I was this time last year. Family illness was incredibly stressful as was work. Work has changed so I’m happy and relaxed and feel valued. Family illness still there but I can deal with as work is ok, exercise back on track, eating better.

Our first died at 6 months, then I developed severe pnd for about 4 years. Coming out the other side of it all now and it's a good life.

but suffer from SAD so that knocks me back somewhat.

Try half mug of orange juice (no added sugar,) every day.
I was advised to do this as soon as the clocks went back at the end of October.
Noticed the difference immediately. Feel like I've reclaimed 3 extra months.
January seem to speed by.

So I'm :
54
4 adult children all independent.
Full time.
Great boss.
Great colleagues.
Challenging but very fulfilling job.
Happy all the time, though get tired more than I like, then can be a bit grumpy

I'm 40.
2 DC under 5
I work 3 days.
I don't love it, but the people are quite fun, I have a good team, every day is different and I have a lot of freedom (field based).

I also have a hobby I love and which keeps me fit & gives me a sense of achievement. I think this is HUGE for my self esteem and a massive part of my happiness.

I'm very content. Of course I have moments of frustration or existential doom that I'm running out of time and haven't changed the world, but I'm so very grateful for my lot.

I'm late 30s and in shit loads of debt. I do work, and I love it when I do, but it's very part time.

I have 2 school aged children and they're very argumentative, giddy and rather needy.

We don't get to go anywhere or do anything fun because we have debt (run up because, due to job losses etc, we couldn't afford to live, not because we lived a highlife that we couldn't support) so I just feel like life is passing me by.

I have a hobby that I enjoy but it costs money to do if I want to do anything more exciting than photograph my dining room and at the moment I'm suffering from a severe case of can't-be-arsed-itis so haven't done much with it recently.

When I'm due on I get so down that I almost feel suicidal; at other times I am just a bit fed up and wish there was more to life than washing, cooking, cleaning and being whinged at for no reason by the kids.