Are you happy?

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Just wondering. How old are you? How many DCs? Do you work? Is it fulfilling?

I am happy. I'm 28 and a single mum of one. I work in a low paid office job. I have a good work/life balance.

I think one of the reasons that I'm happy is that I don't want much. I don't want tons of money and a huge house. I don't want a high flying career. I don't want a perfect relationship.

DS and I live a simple life, we have our health and good family and friends. Food in the fridge, clothes on our backs.

Dimsumlosesum, you deserve all the happiness in the world

I'm 36
2 dc's
Yes I work

Happy in lots of way, very miserable in others.

Mid-40s. 3 DC. Work part time in a fulfilling job. Very happy.

50 this year
3 dcs
part time work which I love (but sadly may have to leave)
I am happy, but have huge anxiety about many aspects of life.

35, work full time, 2 dc.
I’m always tired and grumpy. Feel like I never get chance to recharge my batteries. Feel like I’m doing a shit job at work and at being a mum. Feel constantly torn, trapped and guilty. Also feel totally under appreciated most of the time. Not really happy a lot of the time.

48. 3 dc. sahm. Dh earns loads. Fairly happy most of the time. Extremely happy some of the time. Rarely depressed - but do get pissed off sometimes. Sometimes I feel like a drudge.

I would like to go back to work actually, but not sure I could. I've been a sahm for 17 years now. Not sure who'd have me tbh. I do have a very nice life, no doubt about it. Loads of time for me, to make my dc's life great be there for my dc, walk the dog, do yoga, go to lunch, go on MN etc... Can't really complain.

I am 32

1 DC

I work part time and love my job

I love my DC but am very unhappy with my relationship.

42

2 girls 14 and 19

I work abs it's very fulfilling

I'm mostly happy because no one is always happy but I tend to root out things that make me unhappy.

27
No DC (and no plans to have any)
Yes I work
Yes I love it

I'd say happy 85% of time.

I'm 28
2dc's 5 & 10
Work full time from home, it can be very rewarding but also very difficult and restrictive sometimes.
Wish it paid better for the work I out in.

And you know it, clap your hands.
54, 3 dcs and quite satisfied with life.

I am happy 75% of the time, but sometimes wish I had done something more worth while with my life.

I’m 36, no kids, work full time. I’m very happy. Love my job, very happy marriage, no financial worries. I generally have a great life.

I’m also eating a delicious Chinese takeaway so also very happy with my dinner.

43, 2 young daughters, self employed in a job I love working 2 days a week, happily married.

I've recently weaned myself off anti depressants and feel happy at the moment but am aware that i could slip back.

I've recently lost over 2 stone and really need to lose another 1.5 which I know would make me very happy but I'm struggling to give up junk food.

Yes, I am and very grateful.
3 dc's
Hubby
Work part time ( more than enough )

34

2DC

Yes- average 32h a week

Really happy marriage/ no major worries with the DC/ amazing friends/ close extended family. I have a couple of personal goals I need to work on and future plans/goals to tie down but I’m generally very happy most of the time.

37

Single LP to 1 DC (full time LP) with very little support.

freelance, but bored of my job (stressful, not enough autonomy for my liking (dealing with clients).

Happier than I have been for a long time, but also prone to periods of extreme stress and depression, very up and down. My support network very limited locally and being a LP is HARD. Thinking about career or lifestyle changes that might help to take the pressure off.

Freelancing can be isolating, as can being a LP on top. So it can be doubly lonely as you don't see many people during the day or evenings and keeping up a social life v hard. Will keep plodding on! Would love to lose weight and find a partner, tough sometimes to find motivation amid the full on-ness of being a LP with a busy and fairly stressful life.

That said I appreciate that I have more control over my work, hours than others, and financially we are better than many (money is still a stress) and the most amazing DD in the world (to me at least!) :)

Just wondering. How old are you? How many DCs? Do you work? Is it fulfilling

Yes very

I'm 52

2 teenagers who are still quite lovely most of the time

I've recently started full time work again which is exhausting but I love it

Love my home too

57

2, grown up

Yes

Marginally but i'm mostly doing it for the money in the hope that I'll be able to retire sometime. What I'd really like to do doesn't pay unless you have a massive stroke of luck and it's probably too late now.

No, I'm single, horrendously lonely and hopeless at making friends.

I'm 42
2 DC aged 9 and 11
Work in healthcare 0.8FTE. I find my work very rewarding and get a lot of satisfaction from it.
Overall I am very happy, some minor issues with DC but nothing outside the normal. I feel having a supportive DH and family around us contributes to my happiness. I recognise that we are very lucky in the amount that my family help with childcare, meaning I can work which then helps my mental health and keeps our comfortable lifestyle

3 DC (12, 7, 3)
don't work. Full time carer for my youngest who was diagnosed last year with muscular dystrophy..
I WANT to be happy. But no, Im not.

Not really
Mid 20s, currently job hunting, no DC or partner

I’m 31 2 DC 8 months and 7.

Full time work (when I’m back off maternity) I loved my job but unfortunately while on maternity I was discriminated against so I’m unhappy about going back etc have been given a new job (very nice one to “keep me quiet” )

Apart from that I’m really happy. I’m married to an amazing man who’s pretty much my perfect match. I’d given up hope of finding someone after DS1 dad left us. DS2 doesn’t think sleep ianfor jim right now however so i could be happier if he went back to sleeping through the night 😂

44, 1 dc, work part time. I feel the most settled and content I've ever been, but since I've spent all my adult life battling depression and anxiety I 'm happy with feeling a sense of peaceful stability - long may it last, I hope it does. There are things th at could be better, or course, so I wouldn't call it absolute happiness. But I'm in a place I could only dream of once, so that's more than enough!