Are you happy?

[Adviceplease8181]

Just wondering. How old are you? How many DCs? Do you work? Is it fulfilling?

35. 3 kids, 2 of which are under 4. Work FT. Astronomical nursery bill. Very unhappy marriage that I can't escape from and extremely unhappy 100% of the time. Can't see that ever improving to be honest ☹

58
Married 28 years
2 DC 24 and 20
Brilliant husband
Great job, Director level
Have everything a few mill can buy.

......but 21 years ago ds2 died at 27 weeks. A part of me died with him. To have him back even if we lived in a caravan and I'd be happy.

But really, I smile and nod and am always cheerful and nobody would ever know.

I’m 55, one 10 year old, work full time, and ds is happy so I’m happy too. Single and have a peaceful home with no nastiness, no manipulation. I get a bit tired sometimes but mostly I’m fine.

42 with 2dd 5 and 7. Older dd has ASD
Dh has depression. I work 4 days a week in a job I like but I'm bored of. I do more than my fair share of house and kids stuff and feel stressed and tired a lot. I exercise and have time to myself and friends, but it doesn't help. I just feel like my life's a treadmill and there's little joy.

Unfortunately this thread has been like an earworm all day.....'am i happy?...am i happy?....'

I realised I'm probably not.

Life feels relentless and fills me with worry.

37

2

Yes

Most of the time

One, aged 36.
No.
Totally.

28

1 dc

Yes I work

I love my job and I'm going to further career prospects and return to university soon.

My dc brings me immeasurable amounts of joy and I wouldn't change that for the world. I'm fairly happy but my relationship with my oh (dc father) is not in a good place. I'm unhappy there, the way everything falls to me. Despite working full time, inc nights and weekends 12 hour shifts, everything is my responsibility. I've asked, demanded and pleaded for him to help with household stuff, childcare and he'll put the effort in for a week or so before reverting back. I'll leave at some point but I can't right now.

How old are you? 55

How many DCs? 2

Do you work? Yes

Is it fulfilling?* Yes*

I'm 32

2 children - 3 and 18 months

Work full-time

Too tired to know if I'm happy

@allthechipsticks

How old are you? 55

How many DCs? 2, both adults, both doing really well in life.

Do you work? Yes, full time. I look after children with complex health care needs, in their own homes. Many of our children require non-invasive ventilation and we go in so parents/carers can have some time to do what the rest of us take for granted like the weekly shop and sleeping.

Is it fulfilling? Yes.

Am I happy? Yes, very. I wasn't for years but finally picked up the courage to leave my ex and am now very happy.

I'm happy enough with my life.

I'm 55, grown up DCs, we're very close. Self-employed but now only do that when I want to really. Im not driven. Also p/t job in a Library, I love the peace & books.

Lovely supportive kind DP for past few years, lives 20 minutes down the road. No desire to live with a man again so, suits me fine. We see each other regularly & both have our space when we need it. No angst. We do a hobby together, social lively & fun.

Wasn't always this way. Too many years spent in an emotionally abusive relationship, also with wrong people around me who dragged me down, and an unfulfilling job. Not enough self-care. Took me a while to realise it was all wrong, somehow. Changed it around & I'm glad I did.

So, life isn't perfect (when is it ever) but I'm happy and content most days now and grateful for my life and the people in it.

@TheRhythmlessMan thank you. I'll get where I need to be eventually x