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Would you ever report...

53 replies

Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 21:53

... another parent to your child’s school for saying something negative about the school on social
Media?

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deste · 07/02/2019 21:56

No you won’t need to, someone else will.

Porky54 · 07/02/2019 21:56

I Would if it mentioned a teacher or another students name in it, it would also depend on exactly what they said....

user1493413286 · 07/02/2019 21:56

No, not sure why on earth you would.

EstrellaDamn · 07/02/2019 21:57

Nope.

NiceMelons · 07/02/2019 21:57

No

girllost · 07/02/2019 21:59

No. Just be because it’s negative doesn’t mean it’s not true!

NiceMelons · 07/02/2019 21:59

What’s wrong with saying something negative about the school? As long as it’s not a blatant lie or victimising anyone, free speech surely.

WorraLiberty · 07/02/2019 21:59

No. The last time I checked, freedom of speech was still a thing.

DeadBod · 07/02/2019 22:00

No. Unless they are bad mouthing a teacher then I'd let them have their opinion.

pictish · 07/02/2019 22:03

No I can’t imagine doing that.
Has someone reported you?

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Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 22:04

It has happened to me, something I commented on on Instagram. My account wasn’t private so could have been anyone but the would have had to know me to know which school I was talking about as I didn’t mention the school by name.

Am mortified that someone who knows me would have done this.

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Original poster
Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 22:06

Didn’t name a teacher, didn’t name the school. Am actually quite angry and upset about it.

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IncrediblySadToo · 07/02/2019 22:06

They need to get out more, clearly.

Try not to let it get to you 🌷

pictish · 07/02/2019 22:07

How do you know? Did someone from the school approach you to discuss it?

100mdash · 07/02/2019 22:07

What did you say?

Greensleeves · 07/02/2019 22:08

Happened to me on here, quite recently. Screenshot sent to school SLT. No names/location in the post, but we were recognised from description (of my dc's issues, not the school). I'd advise posters to be careful about details (I will be, now) as there are some unfathomably foul people about.

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Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 22:12

I commented on the use of a negative word - ‘stupid’. Something that actually happened.

Received an email saying the school ‘had been told’ I had concerns and did I want to come in and discuss them. Whoever reported me would have had no idea at all if I had or hadn’t already spoken to the school.

I can’t help thinking it isnsomeone I know and that it is personal.

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Toddlerandteenagermum · 07/02/2019 22:14

OP why has it angered and upset you? I’d normally say ignore it but it depends what it was.

pictish · 07/02/2019 22:16

That’s not so bad really. They are inviting you to discuss the issue with them.
But...I am surprised they would contact you based on either word-of-mouth or a social media screenshot or whatever. Seems rather unprofessional and boundary-blurring to me. Is it normal practice for schools to do this?

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Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 22:19

Toddlerandteenagermum What has upset me is the thought that someone who knows me either well enough to be a follower of mine or at least enough to be looking at my posts with the knowledge of who I am, has contacted the school to inform them of the post I made.

I should shrug it off I suppose but I feel like tomorrow when I go to drop my child off, any one of the parents I see or speak to could be the person who contacted the school and have them my name. It’s made me feel really paranoid and a bit stalked.

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WorraLiberty · 07/02/2019 22:25

Maybe it was spotted by a teacher?

WithAllIntenseAndPurposes · 07/02/2019 22:29

Had the same- was a creep who worked at the school trying to get up the ranks by telling tales. Didn't worked and ruined our relationship as friends

pictish · 07/02/2019 22:30

Then you have to compartmentalise it in your mind as ‘one of those random things’ and stash it away. You don’t know how, who or why and going over and over it and feeling paranoid is simply granting it importance it has no business having.
This is a small thing. Don’t let it worry you unduly.

Greensleeves · 07/02/2019 22:30

It's a really nasty thing to do, of course OP is upset about it Confused

Aenn · 07/02/2019 22:30

Social media is thoroughly evil.
Why do you need to post this sort of stuff on there?
I do agree you probably shouldn’t have been reported.