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Would you ever report...

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Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 21:53

... another parent to your child’s school for saying something negative about the school on social
Media?

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pictish · 07/02/2019 22:34

It’s pitiable really. Hope they enjoyed their three minutes of limelight recounting it to whoever they spoke to at the school. Hope it made their week. It must suck to be them.

Passmethecrisps · 07/02/2019 22:34

It’s a weird thing to do. Discussing your concerns with the school directly is more helpful than posting stuff on social media for sure. However, that’s your right and as you didn’t name anyone or anything specifically you can say what you want.

100mdash · 07/02/2019 22:37

Ignore them and hold your head up. Those that don’t know won’t think anything. Those that do will think nothing came of their snitching if you are your usual cheerful breezy self at the gates.

Speak to school as if it’s the most normal thing in the world to discuss what is on your facebook page, no apologies, no excuses, no embarrassment. It happened, you commented, similar to if you had been overheard.

So breeze in, say you’re glad they brought it up because your opinion of using the word stupid is blah blAh blah and own it. 😊 They ought to be apologising to you if they were in the wrong.

The majority won’t know and can’t know wirhout the snitch giving themselves away and it will all be forgotten in a jiffy because it is a really minor thing compared to everything else going on at that school that you know nothing about.

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Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 22:38

‘Maybe it was spotted by a teacher?’ yes indeed, maybenit was.

I worknin a school and we are told not to follow or interact with students or their parents. I am not personally friends with any of the teachers and my social media is not obviously linked to my real name. There are 60 kids in my son’s year. Potentially that’s 120 parents with social media accounts. It must be very time consuming following posts on parent’s social Media.

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Starlight456 · 07/02/2019 22:39

Well it sounds like they have done you a favour . You can discuss the issue with school.

I live small town . Stuff in social media always makes it into school. I tell my son if you don’t want it discussed then don’t put it on social media

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Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 22:40

pictish You are right of course. I know in a day or so it will stop worrying me. I am just a bit pissed off in the immediate aftermath. 😩

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Greensleeves · 07/02/2019 22:42

OP our school (SLT) were very tactful about it. I'm sure they were far from impressed, but they seemed to understand that I'd been seeking advice and support for myself on MN rather than trying to defame the school. I know it's a bit different because it was MN rather than instagram, but it will blow over, honestly Flowers

Passmethecrisps · 07/02/2019 22:46

Have the school actually been in touch themselves?

If I was contacted by someone saying “Mrs Smith, mother of jimmy in 2b Named this school and you specifically Blah Blah” then I would be pissed off and disappointed. Not convinced I would make contact with Mrs Smith about it. Maybe. It would depend.

However. If someone said “here is a screen shot of a completely anonymous person making a comment about poor behaviour from staff in an unnamed school - I think it’s jimmys mum” I would honestly send them packing. That’s just bizarre and enormously unhelpful. Genuinely I would think I was being played.

Please don’t worry about it.

If he school do contact you take the opportunity to discuss but I would honestly raise how weird it was to have it managed in this way. If they don’t contact you, presume they think it’s as weird as you do

TheLostTargaryen · 07/02/2019 22:51

I posted on social media once about something from my DCs school, not mentioning the school or anything, just laughing about getting a fright about some small mistake made. It wasn't a big deal at all and was more poking my fun at myself for not spotting the error. Ended up getting an irate phone call having a real go at me but from the sounds of it they couldn't have even read the actual post. I had to lock down my profile from nosy tattling fuckers. It was blown way out of proportion because of someone making out it was more than it was.

OP, I would suggest locking your SM down right and remove anyone with links to the school. They're not your friend.

100mdash · 07/02/2019 22:51

Passmethecrisps Yes the school emailed the OP about it.

Passmethecrisps · 07/02/2019 22:54

Hmm. I read that wrongly I think. I read it as an email from someone (not the school) saying the school had been told.

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Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 22:54

Greensleeves Thank you for your kind words. I have been outed on mumsnet too so know what that can be like.

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NiceMelons · 07/02/2019 22:56

I’d feel crap too, some people are pathetic.

Hope you’re OK x

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Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 22:56

Passmethecrisps The only reason I know about it is because the school contacted me. I am just grateful that I didn’t see the email until after school pick-up.

They were very clear about where the comments were seen and that they had been told by someone else.

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Passmethecrisps · 07/02/2019 22:57

Also. Most of what schools deal with now is social media related. This sort of thing happens and they should be able to cope with it in an empathic way. You haven’t publicly slammed them by the sounds of it.

Passmethecrisps · 07/02/2019 22:59

It’s hard to comment without knowing a whole load of stuff that you won’t be providing (!) but I really am sure that this will blow over.

I hope whoever you deal with is supportive and focusses on your concern.

Toddlerandteenagermum · 07/02/2019 23:01

That’s a bit shit. I don’t blame you for feeling like that but try not to worry. It’s clearly someone with too much time on the hands so just explain what you need to to the school. Unless someone actually admits it, which is pretty unlikely, you won’t know who it was so don’t over think it. Some people are just nasty for the sake of it.

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Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 23:01

I don’t really have a gripe with the school, in fact I do understand that once they knew about it they did need to respond and they offered me an opportunity to discuss any issues which is reasonable of them.

What bugs me is the idea that someone reading my posts felt the need to speak to the school. If it was a teacher then I get that they probably had a duty to but what are they doing following my posts anyway? It wasn’t Facebook btw, that is locked down.

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m0therofdragons · 07/02/2019 23:03

No but in our class group of 20 someone posted something stupid. I'm s governor so gently suggested she speak with the class teacher. Found out the next day that 7 of the 20 had sent the head teacher screen grabs. He was happy with my response but it reminded me to explain to dd how nothing you post is private even in a private message or group!

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Treesfleasknees · 07/02/2019 23:04

‘It’s hard to comment without knowing a whole load of stuff that you won’t be providing (!) but I really am sure that this will blow over. ’

Yeah. I get that. I won’t share what I posted, not least because I have since deleted it so can’t be sure of the wording, but it was mostly a gripe about the use of the word stupid and schools needing to be more mindful of the language used.

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100mdash · 07/02/2019 23:04

If you want to find out who’s looking, post some odd information and see what gets back to you?

Passmethecrisps · 07/02/2019 23:05

Genuinely I don’t think it will be a teacher. It will be a busy body and now the school will feel they need to respond. Know that they will be as Hmm about this behaviour as you are

Aquilla · 07/02/2019 23:06

Criticism of the state is not a crime (yet), OP.

100mdash · 07/02/2019 23:06

Yes, agree it will be a busybody who wants to be teacher’s pet and the school will be 🙄

m0therofdragons · 07/02/2019 23:07

Well lesson learned, if you're unhappy then speak to the school instead of turning to Instagram - not known for its ability to solve issues Hmm