Mother had massive heart attack -anyone up?

[Lobsterquadrille2]

We lost my father virtually to the day and she's nearly 90.

@Justanotheruser01 thank you. I do.

DD is now terribly worried that i' m going to die. I've ruined her last year. I feel so guilty. She should get a first and il've messed it all up.

Lobster - it's been traumatic, for you and your daughter. It's ok to feel guilty and it's ok to think it's all going wrong.

It isn't - this is a storm for you to ride through. There's nothing to say how long it will last for, hopefully not long. But these feelings of upset, and worry are normal. You've not ruined her last year. Your daughter has her whole life for education. She loves you, and your Mum and you love them both too.

Lots of self care, for all of you. Bond, hug, hold hands, eat well, try and get lots of sleep. Relax and take some guilt free calming down time.

you haven't ruined anything OP

re the ward off ICU, if your mum no longer needs the facilities of ICU, that's good. Dad was moved out of ICU quickly after his second heart attack. Quite right too given that he was well enough to moan about not being allowed a biscuit with tea...and I was sitting in a boiling ward shivering still with shock so a nice nurse put ME in a blanket.

these hospital experiences are so mad aren't they. Hugs to you Lobster.

Nothing that can't be sorted for your DD - can you remind her to let her tutors know, though, so if she needs extensions or whatever they are primed now? Honestly, you'd be surprised how often things like this happen - her university will have a formal mechanism to ensure that students in similar circumstances aren't unduly disadvantaged etc and although it's huge for your family, they will be really used to dealing with things like this.

And your DD sounds lovely - of course she wants to be with you and supporting you and your DM. It sounds pretty positive with your mother today - keeping fingers crossed for more improvements, and sending lots of love to all the Lobsters

Thank you. Yes, her tutors know and she says I haven't ruined anything.

She's texted so much that I feel a) grateful and b) guilty.

Thank you all so much for your advice and support, I have read every word. The lobsters all thank you.

Best of luck to you all and your Mum