Mother had massive heart attack -anyone up?

[Lobsterquadrille2]

We lost my father virtually to the day and she's nearly 90.

Yes plese

Praying she pulls through for you. Hope you're able to get some rest. You're with her

Thank you . Not the nicest place to be but with her.

And the apostrophes are incorrect.

I know this is a horrible time.be there for her.hold her hand if you can.let that hold you steady too.shes your mum,always will be.
this isn't anyones fault.
there are loads of people sending there love right here.from all over the place.let that enfold you tight.

I don't want to be an orphan. I know how ridiculous that sounds. But she's been so instrumental in everything. I cannot bear the thought of losing her. I'm staying by the hospital bed .

Thank you all.

She was DD's second parent. She's done everything.

So sorry to read this @lobsterquadrille2. In just a few days I will be facing the first anniversary of my darling mother’s final hospital admission and the total rollercoaster that was realisation that the strongest, most dependable woman I knew was coming to her final days. And the anger that she was too young; that she only went in with her heart failure needing a review and, worst of all to me, that her last months had been marred by misdiagnosis during a previous admission because a more obvious diagnosis was easier to make - and we were fobbed off about wanting it looked into why she had had 3 bouts of sepsis in less than 3 years.

I spent at least 2 nights sat with her in ITU not daring to leave in case she got worse. The care and compassion of the staff in that unit was second to none and I truly believe they made the end easier to accept while exhausting all possible treatments before accepting they couldn’t make this situation right.

All the advice I can offer you is keep an eye on yourself - you need to drink more than usual - ITU units are renowned for being to hot and dry, make sure you get out for fresh air at least once in a day; ask the staff about concessions for parking. Talk to her - read the daily paper, if she has a book on the go or an author she likes, read that.

Best wishes to you all xx

It's good that you get to stay and be with your dear mum. Thinking of you.

Hope you manage to get a bit of rest sweetheart. Hearing what your mum has been for you, I know you’ll never truly lose her. You’ll always know what she would have advised or said if you.just stop and listen.

Sending best wishes. 💐

I'm in the hospital. She is nearly 90. She may be ok but needs major surgery anyway.

And thank you. I didn't imagine that anyone would be up!

I’m so sorry! Will they really do major surgery on a 90 year old grieving woman?? All my sympathy.

Here if you need another virtual hand hold

Are you still awake? I can phone.

I'm sorry you and your mum are going through this.

What a difficult time for you, thinking of you - I hope she comes through.

Another hand hold here - hope you managed to get some rest in the end last night

Thinking of you. Hope your mum pulls through x

Hope things are ok, have you been able to get any support?

Another hand to hold.

Popping by with some and a

You're not alone with this situation. Hope you managed to get some rest.

Thank you all SO much. I can't believe you were all awake and so supportive. You were brilliant. She's hanging on. Apparently it's very positive that she's got through the night (and some of today). I don't really get it but that's what they've told me and I've just come home, partly to feed my poor cat.

Really thank you.

I think the first hours are critical with a heart attack. If she has made it this far the chances are she will recover. I guess a further operation will be a challenge at her age but she has survived today - one day at a time is all you can hope for right now. Look after yourself.