Mother had massive heart attack -anyone up?

[Lobsterquadrille2]

We lost my father virtually to the day and she's nearly 90.

She doesn't look or seem 90!

Amazing! Glad she is doing well. She has incredible strength, no wonder you care about her so much.

Best of luck through the next few hours. Do take a minute with your cat, you need that little bit of oxytocin you can get from giving them a little fuss, and having a bit of connection.

Yes, poor Cordelia was quite alarmed and abandoned. That's the cat.

Thank you MNHQ for deleting my number - posted in a very emotional moment and not wise.

Hoping for better news for you very soon, Lobster.

As to would they do surgery on a grieving widow of nearly 90, I jolly well hope so! I have a friend whose mum is not far off 100 and she is having hospital treatment at the moment. She still lives alone and has all her marbles, so why give up on her? My parents are in their 80s and I would fight tooth and nail for them to have any treatment they needed, if that was what they wanted and would give them longer life with a good quality of life.

@Bittermints absolutely agree. I'm going to do the same. I've just called and she's "stable". Still needs surgery but we can deal with that later. My father was a dictator who managed nearly 94 years so I'm hoping for a few more from her.

I'm so glad your DM is doing well @Lobsterquadrille2 ,it's so worrying when the heart is involved.
We have experienced a lot of heart related issues here too.

I really wasn't sure what to do when I saw your number posted last night, I could see you needed support but I didn't want any hairy handers getting hold of it either.
They tend to come out in the early hours !

I decided to hide it until HQ could look as I thought you were in shock & may later regret posting it .
I'm so glad you weren't upset with me

@WatcherOfTheNight it was a stupid thing to do and I'm very grateful! I was all over the place but posting telephone numbers on the internet is not my style. Thank you very much for the deletion and support.

I actually think she's going to be ok. The hospital must be utterly sick of me; I demand chairs in ICU, I criticised their apostrophes and now I keep calling! Thank God for the NHS.

I'm glad your mum appears to be on the mend. My mum is in her late 80's and I dread the thought that one day she won't be here - although logically I know she will leave us.

Good to hear that she's stable - that sounds positive. Scratches to Lobstercat- and a big hug coming your way

Lobster cat and I are very grateful xx

Awwww- what an absolute cutie! So beautiful - sending more chin rubs her way and hoping both you and your mum are doing OK today

oh Lobster, I really feel for you

I lost my dad 3 months ago and have had one 999 heart incident with mum already - I also had the Oscar Wilde quote in my head.

I will keep this thread on watch in case you need to chat.

Thank you all. I took your advice (maybe on my next thread) and DD wants to come home. I feel sort of relieved and guilty as she's in the middle of her dissertation, but also really want to see her.

oh that sounds good. Is your DM able to talk at all?

She's confused. She was asking for my father which was quite distressing. Apparently this is normal. He died a year ago. But I'm so relieved that everyone on here told me to tell DD, and she'll be back, I know she wouldn't have forgiven me but it seemed wrong in the middle of her final year and dissertation. I've told the university why she's back.

oh bless her. I will cross everything for her

@Grace212 thank you. I couldn't have got through the last two nights without you lot.

Honestly, your DD would much rather be there, and you'll feel better to have her with you. I think it's quite common for people to experience confusion after a serious heart attack - it happened to my DF and DGF, anyway, but in both cases wore off gradually over about a week.

Sending some general hugs for all the Lobsters

@UtterlyDesperate the lobsters thank you. And yes, I want her home; I just felt selfish. She sent me such a weep inducing text today that I then felt guilty for not telling her before.

Thank you all.

Glad she is still with you, facing loosing our parents is really hard. Take care x

hope things are okay Lobster

Really weeping and pathetic!

DD text

Can't even post.

I love you so much and the thought of something happening to you is really difficult for me. Xx

Just made me cry.

DM still here. Not quite normal though. In a regular ward, off ICU. Seems odd. Is this normal?

Sending you a handheld just in case you need one and a very unmumsnetty hug just in case too