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GirlOnIt · 26/01/2019 14:43

Condoms? I know it's silly, I'm a grown up with a child but still I feel embarrassed.
Called to the supermarket this morning for a few things, Dp reminded me needed some. Thought fine I don't need much will do to self serve save my embarrassment. Picked up a bottle of wine so of course they have to authorise it and the guy wanted to check id. Fair enough but he looks in the bag I've already packed and all I've got in there is condoms and squirty cream (not for that, I just really fancied a hot chocolate with cream).

I'm sure he was smirking and then I got flustered because I couldn't get my drivers licence out of my purse and I could feel myself blushing Blush

I got home and told Dp I'm not buying them anymore, he thinks it's hilarious but suspiciously always seems to forget to pick them up himself.

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GirlOnIt · 27/01/2019 18:09

He must have bought them at the start of our relationship Engaged. Because I never did and he always had some. Then we switched to me just being on the pill and we only started using them again after Ds. But I'm sure I've bought them all since then, this is the third time I've bought them and I'm sure we've not got through more than that.

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EngagedAgain · 27/01/2019 18:35

Well, being serious now ☺️, if it's an ongoing thing getting them and you're fed up with it and it turns into a military precision exercise every time, I'd try what any of the other pp's have suggested and get online. Or from family planning? Not sure if they still do that? At least it won't be a regular thing then plus cheaper. I'm not sure if it was this thread or not people talking about prices etc or pride? If you're entitled to them off family planning get them.

Bumblebee39 · 27/01/2019 18:49

@TheFormidableMrsC

Why would he when the KY was for the other party? Wink

GirlOnIt · 27/01/2019 19:12

We're only using them while I decide what else to use Engaged.
Anyway he's buying them from now on or he'll just have to do without Smile

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GirlOnIt · 27/01/2019 19:13

Without sex! Not without a condom, I'm not ready for anymore babies just yet.

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ShowMeTheKittens · 27/01/2019 20:01

I order them online. Can't bear it! I am SUCH a prude

HaveYouNamechangedForThis · 27/01/2019 22:58

So we'd run out and had a near miss involving a pg test (negative, which is what I wanted). After that I was determined to make sure we didn't run out again. DH doesn't really get to supermarkets etc much and he doesn't seem to "remember" to buy condoms when he does go.

I went intending to buy a fair few, but whilst I was there, I also got some other bits and pieces from the same section Smile a new small pocket vibrator, and some "fun" lubricant. (I was on a roll). All these items were in the locked plastic cases, so I made a note to pick my checkout person carefully.

At the till I went for a middle aged lady (instead of the young guy, or the older guy). I carefully arranged my personal items under the general shopping on the conveyor belt, scattered out a bit so it wasn't a collection.

The checkout lady came across the vibrator in the plastic box and instead of unlocking the box, she put it right in view on the top of the till bit and carried on scanning other general stuff. She then did the same when she came across the lube, and again with the condoms. So there is a growing collection of sex related purchases sat on the top of the till, presumably waiting until the end of all my shopping for her to unlock and deal with in one go! A queue was building up behind me. It was totally embarrassing.

I leaned forward and stage whispered "Do you think you could just scan those items now for me please as, ahem, I don't really want them on show?" She looked surprised. It would seem she hadn't really registered what the contents were yet.

She did unlock and scan them, but for the rest of the scanning and packing, it felt awkward as I tried to make bright cheerful conversation about the weather etc.

I couldn't get out of there fast enough Blush

DH is going next time. I told him straight.

HaveYouNamechangedForThis · 27/01/2019 23:04

Engaged Family planning had only two sorts last time I got them from there (in 1999). Rubber-glove strength and extra-rubber-glove strength. They felt like a rubber glove and were as strong as a rubber glove (even to me) so totally unenjoyable. The lightest ones (extra thin) are the nicest (IMHO) but they are also the most expensive and I doubt you get those for free.

If it turns out that anyone knows if you can get the really nice extra thin ones for free at family planning, I'll be there at 9am Smile

RomanticFatigue · 27/01/2019 23:45

I went into M&S on NYE for Prosecco. They had a sale on so I also bought some board games and a multi-pack of knickers. The cashier asked with a smile if I was having a party that night. Prosecco and games, ok - but the knickers? Blush

theworldistoosmall · 28/01/2019 00:04

HaveYouNamechangedForThis - depends on the clinic. I go to one and every time they want to give me all sorts of rubbers, lubes, etc. Only thing I ever took was dams and femidoms as I was interested.

namechangedforanon · 28/01/2019 00:30

Order them online? In bulk ...

emma2722 · 28/01/2019 03:55

I feel embarrassed too Blush

Argeles · 28/01/2019 04:08

I get a little embarrassed, but I’m more annoyed about the price of condoms than anything else.

What I do think is ludicrous, is that some shops keep theirs on a shelf inside thick plastic security boxes that have to be opened up at the till. My local Asda does this, and I’m disgusted. I appreciate that due to their cost, and since they’re items that cause embarrassment to many, that the rate of theft is no doubt higher than on some other items, but I always worry that it’ll deter people from buying them.

I wish the U.K. could be more like France in many ways, but especially in the availability of condoms. You can buy them from little vending machines in the street even in small villages.

EngagedAgain · 28/01/2019 06:16

Have you name changed, according to above pp, things are better since then! Although there is a kind of serious side, it's been an enjoyable thread. Many laughs at the things that can go wrong! I doubt I'll be buying any more condoms, but if I do think I just brazen it out. Actually the last time I did they were half price. Had 5 years use by so not the reason, so maybe worth loitering around pretending you're looking for nytol!

GirlOnIt · 28/01/2019 07:54

They are expensive Argeles. But as Dp says "cheaper than another baby".
I wouldn't be able to buy them if they were in plastic case Blush. I think our nearest Tesco does that, buy not Asda where I bought them. Which is weird as I'd say the Asda is probably in a higher petty crime area than the Tesco. I wonder if it's just certain stores that are high risk for condom theft.

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labazsisgoingmad · 28/01/2019 08:56

imagine that a condom thief on the loose wonders what heck someone would nick them for some sort of secret underworld currency going on

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 28/01/2019 08:58

Shop online?

brownbreadicecream · 28/01/2019 09:18

www.freecondomscentral.co.uk

Anyone else read that as 'free condoms rental'? boak

GrumpyMcGrumpFace · 28/01/2019 12:16

I actually want to go and buy squirty cream, a bottle of wine and a packet of condoms and invite DH home for an afternoon of delight. I think you rock, op!

EngagedAgain · 28/01/2019 15:54

Yes grumpy, let us know how you got on! (At the supermarket of course) 😊 And thanks OP for a great thread!

GirlOnIt · 28/01/2019 17:40

Hope you enjoy Grumpy. To clarify though, the wine was a gift, the cream for my hot chocolate, the condoms well it's obvious that they were for.
Although there's cream left......

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