Are you one of those people that others confide in and tell secrets to?

[OhMyGodTheyKilledKenny]

Is there such a thing as someone who just attracts those who want to spill their secrets? Someone who may as well have "tell me your deepest darkest secrets" tattooed across their forehead?

If so, that is me.

Twice in the last week! One of the secrets being fucking massive, the sort of thing that could destroy someones life.

Anyone else find that this happens to them.

Yes, I know an awful lot of things people have disclosed to me but I don't even mention to my partner as once he knows anything you might as well take out a full page newspaper advert. He just opens his mouth and everything he's been told drops out. He then tries to justify it by saying that it would have got out anyway .

I think I have one of those faces, that inspire confidences. No idea why!

Yes, I find it really exhausting. In the past month, 2 friends have told me they are having affairs. I know both of their husbands pretty well, as does my partner, so I've not been able to tell him.

I also feel quite resentful of two friends who offload on me constantly, and yet rarely ask how I am. I've had a tough time recently, and they have gone very, very quiet. To be honest, like many above, I wouldn't confide in them as I tend to sort my own shit out, but it feels very one sided. I've been avoiding them frankly as I just don't have the energy for their crap as well as my own. Maybe I need to become a terrible gossip then people will stop telling me stuff!

I get that too - that and the oversharing and then the avoidance. It is less prevalant now I'm older and have better boundaries - I seem to have acquired 'leave me alone vibes'. I'm an Aspie too, people have described me as having the sort of vibe that has an aura of freedom and not of prejudgement.

Thing is - I also have the flipside of that trope that no-one listens to the listener - nice to find that out when you need your friends for once than it being the other way round.

Yep and I don't tell a soul.
Rarely share any of mine though!

Christ yes, my whole life - people will tell me their deepest darkest within half an hour of meeting me.

It doesn't flow both ways though :(

Also have ASD.

Yes and I used to be a terrible gossip so people should have known better! I'm more discreet now. To be honest I like hearing secrets.

It’s never good news though is it. I’m always the last to know when someone is happily pregnant or engaged or gets a promotion.

But awful news I’m the first to know. Also things people have carried for years and told no one.
More than once have a sat beside someone on the train who has just come from the hospital and got the worst news.
I hate it particularly just now because someone disclosed historical abuse to me, but swore me to secrecy and I see the abuser almost every day but it’s not my tale to tell.