Are you one of those people that others confide in and tell secrets to?

[OhMyGodTheyKilledKenny]

Is there such a thing as someone who just attracts those who want to spill their secrets? Someone who may as well have "tell me your deepest darkest secrets" tattooed across their forehead?

If so, that is me.

Twice in the last week! One of the secrets being fucking massive, the sort of thing that could destroy someones life.

Anyone else find that this happens to them.

All the time. I know huge life-changing secrets about two colleagues that they’ve not told anyone else — I think that I come across as confident but quite ‘apart’ in group situations, and that it’s known that I never gossip.

Yep. Me. It’s so boring.

I’ve found my people! All the time and all my life. I do have the invisible sign above my head. Some years ago I finally gave in and accepted it as my obvious vocation.

Yes. Thankfully I forget most of them. I know some terrible things about people, including a family member. Wish I knew none of it.

Yes me! I, like others, often forget stuff too. I am crap for gossip. I also attract random people who sit next to me on benches/public transport etc or ask me to help them reach things/ read things out etc.

Me too! My mum is exactly the same. People open up, over share and often cry...and I have no idea why they choose me!!

I also wish I did not know some things and find it stressful at times.

I don't know if I'm told more than other people, or if we're all equally good at keeping secrets.

Yep, random strangers usually. It amazes my DH.

Frequently. With people I know well, they know I don’t gossip and with people who are unlikely to meet me again, I look kind.

I don’t mind so far as I’ve never been told anything that has had made me think someone is in danger. Most people’s secrets are shame, relationships or illness that they don’t have anyone else to tell.

Used to happen to me all the time. My vibe has since changed and it rarelyhappens. It's vibes man I swear it's the vibes.

Yes I know everyone’s secrets and woes particularly work colleagues yet they know not one bit of information about me, they could not even tell you if I had any siblings, I’ve just come to the conclusion that people just love to talk about themselves and as I am not one to volunteer information about myself they know they can witter on knowing full well they won’t be interrupted, if only they knew what I was really thinking they might STFU.

So many of us! I wonder what the common denominator is?

With me , it doesn't tend to be strangers that tell me life stories.
It's more likely to be friends, colleagues and associates that tell me something they've found out or been told in confidence or something they've done .

This week it's been 2 work colleagues (and I only worked 3 days this week!)

Not only do people tell me their secrets completely unprompted, but they get offended when I ask them not to.

Hazardswans how do you change your vibe because I'm not sure I can carry too many more secrets along the lines of one that I was told this week!

I wonder what the common denominator is?
I've been told 'its your face'
I've also been told I attract the wrong sort of attention because, and I quote, 'you just bimble around in your own little world'.

I assume I either look trustworthy or the sort of person that makes you want to stick 'kick me' on my back.

Yes, me.. all the time. I think because I don’t talk a lot about myself so that gives people a lot of room to talk about themselves.. and I have this vibe of fitting in wherever I am so people feel I’m one of them. It’s not a boast - I wouldn’t say this IRL but I’ve hung out with people on all ends of political / economic spectra and usually slot right in.

Hmm having read your update I must confess friends still confess EVERYTHING but strangers less so. They love telling me things I don't want to know.

Colleagues is an easy fix no vibeage change required, start off loading everything people have told you to them! I did this and now people tell me nada! (obvs I don't do it with anything genuinely sensitive.)

I used to have the vibes of a nice person now not so much....possibly due to the colleague gossiping? Also I've been really stressed so I'm not as open vibe wise.

Yes I am. I've never broken their trust by sharing it either. Oddly enough I probably wouldn't tell any of these people my own secrets.

Oddly enough I probably wouldn't tell any of these people my own secrets

...reading this has made me realise that I rarely tell anyone my own secrets let alone tell any of these people...

Yep. I used to wonder if I had a stamp saying 'Tell me' on my forehead at one point🙈 It's flattering in one way but can be rather lonely in others as I obviously can't discuss what I've been told. Also I notice lots of people confide in me but relatively few people will ask me how I am😏

Yes! I'm a massive introvert with social anxiety, I don't want to talk to people at all yet apparently I have the type of face that makes people spill their life stories to me. Maybe it's because I'm quiet and don't interact with anyone too?

There's only so much sympathetic listening I can feign before I want to opt out of the whole situation.

I've never felt the need to divulge any of my secrets to anyone else, surely that's the point of a secret?! You keep it to yourself!