2nd baby worries

[Willduncme83]

We’re currently thinking about going for baby number 2.....my DS is 3. I’m very anxious though as he was a big baby at 9’13 and I had a really difficult time after the birth...couldn’t really move, stitches bursting, infections etc....Has anyone had a traumatic first birth (and afterwards) and been fine with baby no.2?

Me. Baby 1s birth was traumatic and I had an amazing birth with number two, at home no complications and nobody there except me an DP

@lemonface aww that makes me feel a bit better lol! Just worry as last time it was awful afterwards but I only had my newborn to look after where as this time I’d have a newborn and my DS too!

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I remember feeling so worried about number 2, I wouldn't even talk about it with anyone. I really think you will be okay, your body knows what to do xx

1st birth was incredibly long and drawn out, ended up having Syntocin, and a third degree tear.

2nd birth was three hours, had to have an episiotomy but no issues with that and to be honest given my previous experience with the tear, I wasn’t bothered by this.

My first was also nearly a lb heavier. I was so worried my second was going to be a 10lber as everyone was telling me second child tends to be bigger. But she was just over 8lbs.

The only thing I found harder the second time around were the after pains! They really caught me off guard as I didn’t have any with my first.

Oh and my second was lb lighter too.

Thank you @MyPatronusIsAnOrca this is what I need to hear lol!! I mean I’m not even pregnant yet but it is a huge worry of mine so these comments are definitely helping😊

My first was under 7lb. Induced. Midwives didn’t listen to me. Traumatic. Struggled with fear of birth again to have a second. 2nd was over 9lb. Midwife lovely. Not induced. Honestly i’d be happy to do it again tonight it was lovely.