Found DHs online porn stash - WWYD?

[FairfaxAikman]

Turns out DH has an enormous online porn bookmarks list. AIBU to be hurt?

We had DS nine months ago and haven't had much sex as I'm either knackered or it hurts me (emergency section with some complications) and I can't face it again for ages after.

I don't have a porn stash, have never had a porn stash and am not at all supportive of porn. Would be a dealbreaker for me if my (female) partner was using it.

I'm actually really shocked by how many women on the thread think porn is "ok", enjoy watching it, and see nothing wrong with it.

Besides the exploitation of women, women expected to perform acts (that they wouldn't do at home / consent issues), lack of respect with actions and language used, misogynistic behaviour and much, much more.

" Recent analyseses_ of the 50 bestselling adult films also suggest that objectification and lack of empathetic concern for women’s feelings and welfare are the norm. Of 304 scenes analysed, almost half contained verbal aggression, and over 88% contained physical aggression. Most of these aggressive acts were perpetrated by men, and the most common responses by female actors were either of pleasure or neutrality.*"

Source: http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1077801210382866?journalCode=vawa

Yet porns completely ok.

Namenic are you saying there's certification of consensual child "porn"?
That it's possible to film the rape of a child and have it certified?
I'm pretty sure you aren't but that's what it sounds like.

Just read on another thread that the average age of death for women in porn is 37. Something for your porn fans to think about next time you’re playing with yourselves while watching the sexual abuse of women. Such a turn on

If I didn’t know he did (because we are honest about these things) I would think my DP didn’t watch porn...
He does on his phone, I expect he does this when I’m not around, he’s in the bath, that kind of thing. I suspect that with the advent of smart phones many people watch it as it’s so accessible. Not saying I agree with porn ethically, but it’s naiive to think because you see no evidence of it (partners watching porn) that it’s not happening.

We had a talk and he deleted the lot.

Good result Fairfax.

Ashtray - a lot of men don't watch porn because they despise the porn industry and everything it stands for. Some men do have a moral compass.

I find it really interesting how many women on this thread are saying 'if he says he isn't watching porn, he's lying.' I'm not sure how indicative it is of how commonplace porn has become in our lives or that a lot of women think their life partners are liars. Either way, it's pretty depressing.

I did have a whole reply to @Sethis the other day but annoyingly it didn't post!

Anyway here's something for you porn fans who think it's great - a 16yo will need a colostomy bag for the rest of her life after trying to replicate something she saw on a porn. So progressive 🙄 www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6595871/amp/Online-porn-horror-Girl-16-forced-colostomy-bag-attempting-group-anal-sex.html

Yes good result fairfax . Well good for him. As now he can start a new one and keep it in a place you can't find/access.

To believe anything else is mind numbingly naive!

Personally I have no problem with it. E wry adult human is entitled to their privacy. If you don't like it then he has a responsibility not to wave it in your face.
Otherwise live and let live.

People are entitled to privacy. And their partners are allowed to object to what they do.

Drspouse I posted a PS!!!

For those who say porn is ok, do you think it is any different from live cam stuff or going to a strip club/sex show? I would be ok to DH wanking to a pic of me but not anyone else.

Massive deal breaker for me. It would likely end our relationship.